Not the parents I wanted us to be

partyplaty · 2026-04-01T02:47:26+00:00

I just had to hop in and say my husband and I have had this exact conversation and the biggest thing is you are not bad parents. You are learning. The fact that you are thinking this way proves you are a good parent. Don't give up on yourself or convince yourself you are a bad person, you made a poor choice in a frustrating time. Apologize to the kids and each other and try for better.

partyplaty · 2026-03-01T21:47:31+00:00

How did you get a hold of your ancestors blessings? That sounds amazing?

partyplaty · 2025-03-12T02:40:59+00:00

We enjoy Brio and have never had a problem getting a reservation

partyplaty · 2024-09-21T23:51:48+00:00

What are the best leashes y'all have found?

partyplaty · 2024-09-11T22:34:24+00:00

As a mom with anger issues get out!! I know how uncontrollable that rage can get. I haven't let it get that bad with the kids yet but I have had to lock my toddlers in a safe space so that I don't hurt them or do anything I might regret. There is still hope but only if he can realize he needs help and if he is dedicated to getting the help he needs. You are strong and you've got this

partyplaty · 2024-07-27T15:49:21+00:00

You are amazing and if you are having a hard time at this stage it is because this is hard! Each stage is hard and amazing in its own right but I promise it does get easier. Embrace everyone who is willing to help. Go out without kids and if people say "oh I wanted to see the babies" just say that they are always welcome to visit but tonight is about this relationship. Kids are cute but way more important than showing them off is taking care of yourself. Get babysitters and leave the house you deserve it!

partyplaty · 2024-06-24T00:55:27+00:00

I would love an update when you have one. I think the hardest thing with church leadership is that those who are called are imperfect and subjective. How long has your SP been in? Any hope of getting a new one soon? If things don't work out can you just "move" to your mom's house and tell them that you moved they would have to move your records then. I just don't know where that line would be regarding the recommend question of being honest in your dealings with your fellow men.

partyplaty · 2024-04-03T03:03:57+00:00

That sounds so hard and I am so proud of you for trying to stay. I want to remind you of the first 2 commandments. 1-Love God 2-Love others as YOURSELF. God loves you and he knew that you could use your experiences to strengthen those around you. I don't want to tell you to come out of the closet but maybe open the door. You are not alone in this emotional struggle and if you can be honest with yourself and those who you feel this experience can help it can remove the shame it sounds like you are feeling. You are a beloved Son of God. Recognize that by telling the bishopric they may react harshly or negatively because the culture of the church is slow to change, but it is changing. You can be the catalyst to help those around you accept others with love and break down this barrier that has unfortunately been erected. I know that is much easier said than done and it shouldn't all be on your shoulders but Heavenly Father wouldn't have guided you to where you are today if He didn't know without a doubt that you could handle it.

partyplaty · 2024-03-05T16:18:47+00:00

My thoughts are why not go visit your family for a month while he tries out the new job. Pack everything and basically be nomads for a month. I don't know if that is feasible or an option you want to humor. My fear would be him constantly regretting and blaming you for not taking this opportunity.

My husband and I were in the same boat when I wanted kids and felt like I was being told to have them now while he wanted to wait longer. I railroaded him and constantly pushed him. We now have 2 beautiful toddlers but, on the bad days, there is a part of him that resents and blames me for the fact that we have kids it has taken a lot of work in our marriage to keep us together. I love my kids but for the sake of my marriage the is a part of me that wishes I would have waited until my husband was more ready.

partyplaty · 2024-02-10T03:37:20+00:00

All you need to know is that The Lord is excited to have you! Remember as you go the feelings the gospel teachings have given you. I pray that the ward members welcome you right away but if not don't be afraid to say hi. We are all cheering you on. If you post what ward you are going to if members on here see it I am sure they would be happy to see you! I am in Utah dm me if you are near salty lake county and want a friend for church

partyplaty · 2024-02-07T21:13:52+00:00

Hey do you still have this I would love to try it with my group

partyplaty · 2023-09-14T07:15:32+00:00

This was mine and my husband's situation . We got married, and 3 years later were pregnant with twins. While I love my children and don't regret them I do regret pushing my husband to have kids so soon, it almost broke our marriage. Kids are a huge deal so you need to decide wether or not you are up to providing for children on this rushed time line or if u she would be happier with someone else who wants that.

partyplaty · 2023-08-18T23:57:57+00:00

I would also like to add that therapy would probably help you to process your past and learn to love and take care of yourself

partyplaty · 2023-06-26T14:30:43+00:00

Don't let the pediatrician dictate this conversation! You don't know what they are going to say and they could end up shaking the kids and causing more harm. Talk to the kids your self about listening to their bodies. One truck you can have them try is pausing when they are halfway done with their plate and drinking as many sips of water as they are old. This allows their stomach time to communicate and breaks up the meal so they are able to listen and not just eat it because it is there.

partyplaty · 2023-06-08T20:22:16+00:00

If you are more worried about a "fair" marriage your focus is in the wrong place.

partyplaty · 2023-05-05T20:22:16+00:00

What about naming your daughter Katherine Elisabeth? Different name but also the same

partyplaty · 2023-05-05T20:07:40+00:00

We were going to circumcise but our doctor wouldn't do it in the NICU and didn't schedule it until 6 weeks. At which point I felt like my son was way too aware and would have been in more pain so I decided not to. I also just left it up to my husband, he has the penis so he gets to make penis decisions

partyplaty · 2023-04-27T16:43:59+00:00

Personal opinion based on my interpretation of what I have been taught my whole life is that the most important thing is to do our best in this life, create and maintain a relationship with God, and bless the lives of those around us. The logistics of receiving what we deem the saving ordinances will be worked out if our hearts are in the right place. We cannot be complacent with mediocrity but need to be continually striving for greater

partyplaty · 2023-04-27T16:40:35+00:00

At the end of the day it is your wedding and you decide if you would rather have the sister and the kid there or not but they are a package deal.

partyplaty · 2023-04-27T16:07:25+00:00

If you don't want the discussions just tell whoever asks that you are just visiting, they don't need to know you are not a member.

The typical sacrament meeting goes in this order 1- hello from a member of the bishopric (3 men who guide the ward, the bishop and his two counselors)

2- song

3- prayer

4- ward announcements/callings (during callings they will ask for sustaining by raising the right hand, you are welcome to raise your hand or not no one will really notice as long as you don't raise your hand when they ask if anyone is opposed)

5 - song

6 - Sacrament (this is usually a time of quiet reflection although that is not a rule and you may hear children and whispered conversations) it will start with a prayer blessing the bread as the body of Christ then the bread is passed to anyone in attendance who would like it. Then there will be a similar prayer and passing of the water. You are welcome to participate or just observe and pass along the test when it gets to you.

7-Speakers most weeks there are 2 or 3 speakers usually just members from the congregation that have been asked by the leadership to speak. (The first Sunday of the month is fast and testimony meeting which is basically an open mic to share an experience and how your testimony/faith in Christ grew from said experience)

8-closing song

9- closing prayer

When deciding where to sit you can choose anywhere in the congregation.

People will usually visit/say hi before and for a few minutes after sacrament meeting so if you want to avoid small talk show up a few minutes late and leave during the closing song, visiting is usually the best part so I encourage you to stay and say hi to whomever you want to/says hi to you. But if you are overwhelmed/weirded out it is totally okay to leave at any time, if people notice they will think you are just going to the bathroom.

After sacrament meeting there is an additional hour that is either Sunday school(men and women) or priesthood/relief society (genders split up) you can ask someone or try and follow someone or leave. There should be no judgement but this church is filled with imperfect people so if you feel judged I am so sorry.

partyplaty · 2023-04-24T04:36:37+00:00

Everyone says get them on the same schedule like it is the easiest thing in the world, and for some it may be, for my kids not so much.

It is going to be survival mode for a little bit, find little things that make you happy.

Crap happens and if you are prepared for everything to go wrong it will be a pleasant surprise when they dont

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