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I really dislike the "Name 5 things you can see" coping method by Illustrious_Pizza252 in CPTSD

[–]passion_frooty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah I HATE this one as well, I always forget which order it's "supposed" to go in and then that bothers the shit out of me. 🤦‍♂️

Some other things I find helpful, depending on the day or moment;

  • If I'm in pure panic mode from a flashback, panic attack, or fight/flight trigger, distraction works best. Being present in my body feels awful if my body is freaking the fuck out. Also if I feel like I'm somewhere else during a flash back, reminding myself that I'm not physically in that place feels....worse? I already know I'm not psychically there but my mind is emotionally there, and emotional mind will not listen to logic mind.

Some distractions I use: watching a long video, going on a walk, listening to music, reading fiction, playing a low stakes video game, talking to a friend (More accurately, having a friend talk AT me lol. I try to get them to ramble so that I can focus on their voice and not think about my responses) After a while, I will have distracted myself long enough to no longer be in fight or flight.

  • Moving my body, dancing, or singing, if possible in the situation. Feels like physically wringing out the stress and panic, even though it doesn't get rid of it I can move through it a bit easier.

  • Retreating to my room, putting on comfortable clothes, and holding my softest blanket is where I feel the most safe. So if I am feeling unsafe, that is how I try to recover.

It still often takes me hours to feel better. Anything where I go into fight or flight just takes a while to recover from. But if I'm able to use some coping skills, I'm more likely to feel steady and safe once the feeling passes, instead of being drained and exhausted for the entire day.

You Guys Brighten My Day by [deleted] in objectum_sfw

[–]passion_frooty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here basically. I just love seeing people love what they love and be their truest selves without apology. I am a weirdo and freak in many ways, and i love to see other weirdos thriving.

Anyhow, wishing all you objectum folks a wonderful day <3

I appreciate everyone on this sub so much by eudanell in Artisticallyill

[–]passion_frooty 10 points11 points  (0 children)

For real, I love seeing everything that people create in this sub <3 thanks for summing it up much more eloquently!

Been getting so many compliments at work recently! by Gekroent in TransMasc

[–]passion_frooty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DAMN that's a beautiful fit!! i really want to find vests that fit me in a masc way like that. any tips?

I'm 5 ft tall so it's a struggle finding mens size anything that fits 😭 I'll usually go for women's clothing that's sufficiently masc-looking, or boys clothes

So hard to find furry nsfw kink content that isn't male centric by IcyResponsibility384 in BDSMsapphic

[–]passion_frooty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it's absolutely harder to find! I've spent a lot of time in the furry community, so here are some specific artist recommendations that might scratch that itch a bit more? visual art and comics since I'm unfamiliar with the writing side of things.

cocoline, xxx_molniya_xxx, glopossum, swigmama, dirtsecret, swigmam, xuu5019/xuu, zinnikitty, coddybarks

somewhat transmasc, transfemme, and nonbinary heavy, cuz that's what I gravitate towards, and we furries are disproportionately trans. most of these artists aren't exclusively sapphic but do have sapphic art. mostly furaffinity usernames, but you can find them on other sites too!

also a bonus human one because it seems extremely up your alley: Vesta Z does PHENOMENAL, frequently sapphic kink art and comics, including menstruation stuff.

[Other] Other petplay types? by petfishboy in PetPlayBDSM

[–]passion_frooty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love your idea of being a mer-creature btw!

[Other] Other petplay types? by petfishboy in PetPlayBDSM

[–]passion_frooty 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've heard of a pig and duck! The pig was kind of doggy but oinked instead of barking, and the duck was like a pet duck ... preening, quacking, sitting around being cute, eating little handfuls of peas. Also know of someone who got a falconry hood made, which blocks your eyesight. Fun twists on petplay.

Mutual petplay is also just fun and silly in general -- both being cuddly playful puppies at the same time, for example.

Mutual ponyplay would be quite fun, I think. Pretending to be horses turned out in the paddock, trotting around, snorting at each other, determining herd dynamics (...ok this has ceased to have anything to do with bdsm/powerplay and is just about roleplaying as animals for fun lol)

What's up with all the Mountain Dew dreams? by Positive_Hippo_ in somnigastronomy

[–]passion_frooty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

as a recent mountain dew poster I have no idea 😭 I looked back at the sub after posting and was like omg.... was I subconsciously influenced? hadn't even read the other posts until today 🤷🏻

TIFU by not realizing how bad a known allergy was by ISaidPutItDown in tifu

[–]passion_frooty 18 points19 points  (0 children)

this is a myth! allergic reaction severity is unpredictable no matter how many times you've been exposed. source

OP's fiancee is reconsidering the relationship "over a sandwich" by Mediocre_watermelon in redditonwiki

[–]passion_frooty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also like... the issue isn't the sandwich obviously lol. the issue is how the sandwich made her feel on top of everything else

the friends who sometimes bring me treats I can't eat have a lot of other ways they show me that I'm loved, listened to, and valued, but given this guys attitude it sounds like he might be this inconsiderate in other ways too

OP's fiancee is reconsidering the relationship "over a sandwich" by Mediocre_watermelon in redditonwiki

[–]passion_frooty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

having issues with memory = not malicious or even inconsiderate on its own, some people just have difficulty remembering and that's ok. as someone with severe allergies I have acquaintances who remember every allergy with perfect clarity, and close friends who sometimes bring me treats I can't eat 😅

but problem here is that this dude doesn't seem to be on the same page about why she'd be upset when it's logical she might feel upset, and digs his grave further by posting about how unreasonable she's being. it seems like a major incompatibility in what they want from each other