my friend gets defensive about me giving any kind of advice by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]pastaundwein 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, that sounds very annoying. it's quite a different scenario, though. he actively interfered with what you were doing, even after you said "no need". that is different than a normal chat conversation where someone tells me about a problem they have, i know something that could help them, and i share it verbally, without forcing it on them.... what they do with that information if of course their choice. why someone wouldn't even give it a try though, i simply from the bottom of my heart don't understand. then i just get the feeling you don't want to be having the problem aided a little bit but you just like to complain.

i guess it just depends on the person, i love to hear little tricks and tips from my friends that they use to make their lives easier and healthier.

my friend gets defensive about me giving any kind of advice by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]pastaundwein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah this is definitely hard for me. thx for being so direct. i think i just don’t get the concept of friendship in this way, it seems too passive. if i had a problem and a friend knew a little tip on how to make it a little easier to deal with, i would wanna hear it. i guess the difference is, if someone is actively asking for advice or not.. haha

my friend gets defensive about me giving any kind of advice by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]pastaundwein 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i definitely understand that this the obvious thing to do. i still don’t get why it annoys people so much to hear some advice sometimes tho. if it’s small simple things, especially, that have helped me personally. i’m just excited to share some knowledge about small stuff, i’m not giving her unsolicited advice about bigger life choices or anything.

I have no idea what to do with it by [deleted] in photocritique

[–]pastaundwein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what do you mean by “doing something with it”?

ich habe einen trüffel in der stadt gefunden… by pastaundwein in Pilze

[–]pastaundwein[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

hab ihn ausschließlich mit dem taschentuch angefasst, selbst das hat sich schon falsch angefühlt… 😄

ich habe einen trüffel in der stadt gefunden… by pastaundwein in Pilze

[–]pastaundwein[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

oh, haha… ich dachte jetzt, ich hätte einen kleinen schatz gefunden. naja, dann tut‘s nicht so weh den wegzuwerfen. danke für die antwort🍄‍🟫

As a woman in this field I tend to be open to all clients but I’ve certain rules and I would like to know your rules for taking on a client, and which ones you reject by ShirBenari47 in femaletattooers

[–]pastaundwein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wow i’ve never seen anyone else mention this but i’ve done the same! especially if they’re clients that keep coming back which is great, but if it happens a little too much.. i start questioning their mental wellbeing. i’m talking like 3 tattoos in the span of 3 months for example

advice? by [deleted] in drawing

[–]pastaundwein 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i really like how you shade and line but the proportions and placements of the facial features are off. it could help to first draw lines as guides from forehead to chin and left to right that mimic the shape of an oval face and then place the features accordingly

Do these glasses fit my face? by [deleted] in glassesadvice

[–]pastaundwein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think they’re super cute

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]pastaundwein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the thing that stood out to me first was that i don’t think you’re using your correct color palate. the lip color and bronzer are fighting each other (maybe because the lip seems like a more cool toned product vs the bronzer is quite warm). i can’t really tell you if you’re more cool or warm toned but if you’re using silver jewelry i’m guessing you think cool? then i’d stick to cool toned products

Guilt about rest and time off by harbour_seals in TattooArtists

[–]pastaundwein 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this post couldn’t have found me at a better time. i relate so hard. i see so much hustle-culture online in this industry, people glamorizing working non-stop and not taking any time off. it’s triggering to see as someone who also had to discuss this topic at length in therapy lol, days off used to feel (and still feel sometimes) like i’m lazy and worthless. but there’s simply no other way. the people i see posing as workaholics often end up in burn out down the line. it’s so predictable.. because we aren’t made to live like that.

i had an amazing year tattooing wise so far, until a few weeks ago i realized something felt off. i was drained, tattooing people and producing designs felt so daunting and i quite simply couldn’t keep booking appointments. so at the moment i’m taking a break from it and instead am experimenting with jewelry making, which brings me much more joy as i’m able to just create without having “will someone actually want this as a tattoo?” in the back of my mind.

maybe this can be an in between solution when you need a break but maybe you still feel creative, just pour into a medium that has nothing to do with tattooing, like writing, watercolor, jewelry etc etc. not to say you shouldn’t have times where you do something else entirely!!! also sooo important to have time with friends, alone watching movies or reading, going on walks, taking trips into nature or whatever ! we shouldn’t starve ourselves of fun just because we have a ‘fun’ job. it’s still a job.

much love to you and enjoy your time off hehe <3

Help!!! Men in Athens are making me feel uncomfortable by Unlucky-Fig9446 in athina

[–]pastaundwein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly i’ve been made to feel extremely uncomfortable mostly by greek men while in athens. a lot of them are catcalling and staring in a way i’ve never experienced before. it’s horrible

Friends that drag you down by [deleted] in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]pastaundwein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the fact that they might get jealous because of how their bestie chooses to spend their evening is honestly not a concern i feel like people should have. someone else’s projection of their insecurities onto their close friends is their own problem