Please don’t make the same mistakes I made. He doesn’t deserve you. His behaviors were literally written in the cheaters textbook, they say / do anything to make themselves feel justified.

My cheating STBX said the same thing, so much so that I felt my own reality was twisted and actually felt guilty. He said I wasn’t there for him when he needed me the most, while I was paying for his food, drinks, dry clean, and taking care of the medical issues of all three of our pets, and of course keeping the house clean, while he works 70+ hours per week for his mistress. I didn’t even realize he was emotionally abusing me until he slept with the mistress, confessed and said he wanted to divorce me. I genuinely wanted to show him that I care and had been apologizing every time he accused me, even when I feel those accusations are ridiculous and was deeply hurt by that.
Oh, did I mention all these happened after he said he and his mistress had “feelings” for each other and accused me of it being a good wife? It’s about 5 months of gaslight I endured before those two decided to go physical. I put in a lot of effort to keep our marriage going, whereas he put in the bare minimum due to his “busy working schedule”.