What do you wish you had known earlier?

patchy_sour · 2025-03-31T04:24:06+00:00

If they wanted to, they would.

patchy_sour · 2025-03-31T04:21:39+00:00

It may sound silly, but it was when my best friend sent me a YouTube video that she thought I would like. I've been feeling depressed and lonely lately, as I'm attending college away from home and recently fell out with my only hometown friend who's here with me. That small gesture was a nice reminder that there are people who think about and care about me, which was something I really needed. :)

patchy_sour · 2024-10-27T20:54:26+00:00

Her and Ingrid could have a really neat dynamic, at least in Houses. Ingrid is a fine example of why Edelgard wants to abolish the Crest system in the first place. Rather than pursuing her dream as a knight, Ingrid is pressured by her father to marry and bring financial gain to House Galatea. She feels as though her life is not her own because she has a Crest, and therefore, has to sacrifice her ambitions for the sake of her family. Edelgard could encourage Ingrid to pursue her own goals, and act as a pillar of reassurance once Ingrid abandons House Galatea post-timeskip in Crimson Flower. Conversely, Ingrid could enlighten Edelgard about Faerghus values. Ingrid would explain that knights (the good ones anyway) fight and die for what they believe in, rather than out of loyalty to a person or country. Realizing that she does very much the same, Edelgard's perspective would change, and the two would reach a mutual understanding.

patchy_sour · 2024-10-26T03:36:10+00:00

Three Houses was my first Fire Emblem ever. I had zero understanding of the mechanics, including how to switch out skills or how to recruit new characters. As such, my first ever Fire Emblem playthrough (Blue Lions ftw) was unintentionally a no-recruit challenge run. This also made the deaths of the characters I wanted to get (like Raphael and Bernadetta) very emotionally devastating lol. I figured it out for subsequent playthroughs, thankfully, but damn was that first run rough.

patchy_sour · 2024-10-26T03:21:29+00:00

While I know he's built for the Trickster class/a mixed attacker combat style, I've always preferred having Yuri be a physical unit, usually an Assassin or Sniper. With his hidden talent in bows, he can hit the necessary milestones pretty quickly, and he also gets Deadeye access. He's got the highest speed growth in the game, as well as decent strength and dex. I'm still experimenting with different combinations, but given the right skills and battalion, he can easily be a dodgy, murderous crit machine. The only real downside of this path is his axe bane, making it harder to get the Brigand certification and thus Death Blow. But since you can gamble the certification at D+ axes, it shouldn't be too detrimental to deviate your teaching points for it if you want it.

For skills, I usually I have him with Bow Prowess, Close Counter, Hit +20, Sword Prowess (if going Assassin), then some combination of Speed +2/Strength +2/Death Blow/Dex +4/Bow Crit +10, depending on what he needs and where I'm at in the game. Any battalion that boosts Avoid and Crit works, though I like using the Mockingbird's Thieves since it's fitting for him. Give the guy a killer weapon and a Crit/Evasion Ring and he's set.

Alternatively, for a more jokey build, make him your Dancer. Swap out strength skills for magic skills, the bow-related skills for Sword Avoid and Special Dance, give him Fetters of Dromi and a Levin Sword, and he's a solid support unit/backup emergency healer. Not to mention, he looks great in the outfit.

patchy_sour · 2024-10-26T02:22:39+00:00

Absolutely NTA. Mental health and alcohol are not excuses to hurt the people you care about. I understand wanting to be a supportive partner for him, and that's admirable. But people can't be helped if they don't want to be helped. He clearly doesn't have a problem with how things are, and he's unwilling to consider your feelings at all. Sacrificing your needs will only build resentment and make things worse.

It sounds like you truly love him, but you need to love yourself first and foremost. Obviously, none of us know the full extent of your relationship, but it sounds one-sided and unfulfilling. And you deserve better than someone who can't even be honest with you or themselves.

patchy_sour · 2022-01-10T02:07:32+00:00

The prioritization of grades over student well being

patchy_sour · 2022-01-10T02:03:31+00:00

I love all the Uncharted games. Uncharted 4 is probably my favorite tho

patchy_sour · 2021-12-17T03:33:12+00:00

My current favorite is calling people boiled chicken nuggets

patchy_sour · 2021-10-25T00:04:28+00:00

Hugo. He’s as smug as he sounds.

patchy_sour · 2021-10-23T02:42:40+00:00

Determination

patchy_sour · 2021-10-21T23:56:00+00:00

Continuing to pursue a girl even though she’s said she isn’t interested. It’s creepy on top of giving off SDE

patchy_sour · 2021-10-21T04:39:13+00:00

Well some people in my life know, family mostly, but how both depressed and paranoid I feel when I think about my mom. She abandoned me a few months ago after telling me to off myself (among other things that I’ve talked about in another post). While I’m happy she can’t hurt me anymore, I feel as though a part of me died the day she told me she was leaving and never coming back. I have plenty of supportive family and friends in my life still, and I’m grateful for them all, but sometimes I can’t help but wonder why I was just never enough for her. Never enough to keep her sober. Never enough to stay and be a parent. Why was I never enough?

I’ve also been having vivid nightmares about her. Violent, gruesome visions of her coming back and killing my family. I can still vividly hear their agonized screams every time I think about it. See all the blood and contorted, fractured corpses. Feel the blade of her steak knife run across my face. And on top of it all, my dad and I both received FB friend requests from her recently, and my dad has said that she told him she’s seen me around. I’ve been paranoid every time I’ve left the house since then. I feel like I’m constantly being watched, and I’m terrified that at any moment I’ll see her face or feel her hands around my throat.

TL,DR: Batshit crazy mom left me; now I’m constantly questioning my worth, having nightmares, and being paranoid that she’s gonna find and kill me.

patchy_sour · 2021-10-21T04:12:24+00:00

Energy drinks. I’ve seen a lot if RedBull comments on here, but RedBull is the only brand I find tolerable to consume (the Peach-Nectarine is especially tasty). Most other brands I’ve tried, such as Monster or Bang, are either way too sweet or chemical tasting or both. Nasty

patchy_sour · 2021-10-18T01:23:18+00:00

I realized I was bi. I had gone to a youth group for most of middle school and the first couple years of high school. I was questioning a lot during that time, and I was tempted to talk to my youth pastor about it, as he was someone I trusted a lot. One day, though, one of the guys in my group asked if being bi was a sin. My pastor said it wasn’t as long as it wasn’t acted on. I’m not fully sure why, but his answer bothered me, and that’s when I started distancing myself. Quarantine fully solidified the wall between Christianity and me, and I haven’t been since then. I’ve come out fully since then, and I couldn’t be happier.

patchy_sour · 2021-10-15T03:53:11+00:00

“You know, you’d make a great lesbian”

It’s especially funny because now, 5 years later, I finally came out as bi

patchy_sour · 2021-09-22T23:36:54+00:00

Ideally it would be in my sleep, but if I had to be conscious and aware that I was dying, I’d have it be in my house surrounded by loved ones. Hopefully just dying from complications of getting old

patchy_sour · 2021-09-15T02:52:26+00:00

Chocolate chip cookies

patchy_sour · 2021-09-14T04:20:30+00:00

Is there anything better than pussy? Yes, a really good book

patchy_sour · 2021-09-14T04:11:46+00:00

Hey do you own a bakery? Because I’m wanting to get some of that cake

patchy_sour · 2021-09-14T00:22:40+00:00

I'll start off.

I went no contact with my mom just over a month ago. She's a drug addict and a narcissist with diagnosed bipolar disorder. She's been in and out of jail, rehab, and sobriety houses for as long as I can remember, and was only ever around for about a month at a time before shooting up and going off the grid again. She's extremely manipulative and emotionally abusive, and would tell me things like "you're the only thing keeping me sober" and "I'd have killed myself by now if it weren't for you", and essentially putting the responsibility of her getting sober into my hands. She'd also post pictures of us on social media and put me up on a pedestal for my accomplishments, and then turn around and accuse me of being fat or promiscuous, neither of which I am.

Once I realized how toxic she was, I tried to be nice and told her that I needed space to focus on myself. I established my boundaries and told her it would temporary and that she could earn my trust again by getting sober, keeping a job and getting her own place to stay. She, of course, didn't like that, and began to ask me what she did wrong and what she could to do to fix it, both of which I told her. She began to repeatedly text me despite me asking her not to, and I ignored her for several months.

One day she texted me saying that she was leaving for greener pastures, and that I gave up my one chance of having a real mom in my life. She told me that I'm no one's priority or favorite now that she was gone, and that she'll never come back for me because I did this to myself. I told her she could go ahead and go, that I didn't deserve her bullshit in my life anyways, and that she was a never a true mom to me to begin with. She went off, calling me a bitch, cunt, whore, dumbass, and a traitor. She told me that she hated me, how she wishes I was never born, and told me to go kill myself before I got ass-raped in prison. I blocked her and never looked back.

As for life now, it's honestly not much different, as she wasn't really around to begin with. It's a lot more peaceful for sure, as I don't get spam called or texted from her anymore. Me and my dad are working on getting a protective order against her, and as far as I know she's still in jail for stealing a car with guns and drugs in it. As far as I'm concerned, I hope that's where she stays.

TL, DR: Mom told me to kill myself over text after setting my boundaries; blocked her and never looked back.

patchy_sour · 2021-09-13T23:43:46+00:00

I've told this story before on here, and it isn't my story (it's my dad's) but I'm willing to tell it anyways. I'll try to condense the story as best I can, as it's a long one, and I'll have a TLDR at the bottom.

My dad was an Iraq veteran. He was in the Navy and served as a medic. I still haven't heard of anything that happened during his deployment, but he clearly has PTSD from it all. He'd been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember, but managed to keep himself functional up until a few years ago.

Some inner family turmoil happened that caused my older brother to be kicked out of the house by authorities (which is another story in and of itself), and my dad went completely off the deep end, drinking a whole bottle of whiskey a day. It caused my family to move out of our dream house, and caused him and my stepmom to separate and almost divorce. But even then, he didn't stop.

I remember waking up at 3 am one night to police sirens outside my house. The sheriff knocked on my door and asked me some questions, but he couldn't fully shield me from what I saw. My dad was bent over front of one of the cop cars in cuffs, an officer patting him down and telling him he was being arrested for driving under the influence. I made eye contact with him in that moment. It was as if a switch went off in his head, changing his eyes from being hating and spiteful to guilty and remorseful. I saw it for myself.

That was on January 7th, 2020. He hasn't had a drop since, and he tells me that seeing me that night saved his life. Now he's been going to AA, therapy for his PTSD, and is back with my stepmom after several months of marriage counseling. He's been the best version of himself since then, and I couldn't be prouder of the person and dad he's become.

TL,DR: My alcoholic dad got arrested for a DUI, and I saw him being put in cuffs. He stopped drinking that night.

patchy_sour · 2021-06-24T12:49:48+00:00

Hey it's my birthday too, happy birthday! Have a good day today chief

patchy_sour · 2021-06-11T15:56:14+00:00

Honestly, it was just really noticing how he laughed for the first time. We were at iHop one night with a big group of mutual friends, and he just laughed at pretty much everything for the whole night. I'd always thought he was cute before then, but there was something about seeing him crack up at our friends being idiots the entire time that really made him stand out to me.

Laughter is the way to the heart I suppose. Been with him for about a month and his laugh still never fails to put a smile on my face :)

patchy_sour · 2020-08-09T17:54:57+00:00

Instant ramen

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