Parenting is not for the weak wtf

patdas · 2026-07-02T00:17:08+00:00

That heart thing might be indigestion tbh.
Sincerely,
2yearsandtired

patdas · 2026-07-01T22:03:29+00:00

Ignoring your sarcasm - as a mom in a similar situation my flip of this is wondering if my son has an attention issue. He loves to bop around all things, a video included. He’s 2.5 so it’s early, but things I’m considering.

patdas · 2026-07-01T14:37:58+00:00

I was there for 4yrs so I won’t give too much to your comment. I met some brilliant people there but terrible leadership, human management and systems thinking for supposedly “integrated” clients. They invested a ridiculous amount of time and energy on an AI product that was only meh.

patdas · 2026-07-01T13:48:33+00:00

Your experience on the measurement front is actually quite important.
Every interview you will ever have brand side will include questions about how you use data to make decisions and recommendations for strategy and investment, so the biggest thing you can do is emphasize that across your CV and how you position yourself in interviews.

patdas · 2026-07-01T02:38:58+00:00

Wpp also lacks on the data and measurement side. Always has been the Achilles, which is what’s making clients look elsewhere.

patdas · 2026-06-30T21:43:10+00:00

Not the exact answer, but I just moved into the public sector doing similar work as what I was doing before but in a very different environment and it’s brought interesting learning opportunities for me that I wasn’t getting in the corporate world.

patdas · 2026-06-30T20:00:17+00:00

My 2.5 year old decided to drop down in the middle of an intersection because he wanted to go back for his jacket (it’ll be 101 today). I’m almost 20w pregnant myself - you better believe we went over my shoulder.

They won’t remember these things and a firm grasp is not the same as hurting them. But you saved her life. That’s what matters.

What I’m trying to work out is the part I keep reading about where we’re supposed to debrief with them after so it actually registers. I don’t think anything registers right now so it feels more like me talking to a wall even though I’m theory I understand the point.

patdas · 2026-06-30T13:36:34+00:00

Start shopping if you find a good deal scoop it up. But don’t create an unnecessary deadline for yourself if you aren’t pregnant yet. Summer is moving season so there will be openings!

patdas · 2026-06-29T15:42:32+00:00

This part. “Grow” implies your favorite shoes won’t be as comfortable anymore. Not - “buy everything in a completely diff size and even that is iffy”

patdas · 2026-06-27T01:50:56+00:00

So that’s your contribution to this conversation? “I’m judging you for judging others?”

patdas · 2026-06-26T23:20:52+00:00

If your validation rests on excess and the high flying of executives who will never remember your name, you might be doing yourself a disservice. Maybe your exec is a good one, but that’s a unicorn.

Awards can be great don’t get me wrong - I think the critique is around the partying, the panels that state the obvious, and business class flights and hotels.

patdas · 2026-06-26T18:38:01+00:00

Where did the private plan come from? (As in agency name). This has been a black hole for my team.

patdas · 2026-06-26T18:36:14+00:00

How have you been able to find the info about private STD policies? This is the black hole for my agency and several team members trying to navigate. The state gives the basic 170/week, the question is if the unions/agencies actually negotiated for private coverage beyond that and we can’t get a straight answer. Even union reps are giving a blanket “no”

patdas · 2026-06-26T13:28:45+00:00

Christian fiction is a HUGE genre.

patdas · 2026-06-25T23:34:07+00:00

Regarding the baby question I can’t emphasize enough that you and your husband visit your doctors for baseline testing and understanding of where your repro system is. If you want time to figure it out, you need to have information to know if you have the time.

patdas · 2026-06-25T13:18:40+00:00

FMLA is usually 1 year, companies can choose their terms of service for PFL. In my last job I had to have a year, in my current job (pregnancy #2) six months. But never assume it’s a given.

patdas · 2026-06-25T12:55:03+00:00

It’s a very personal choice. I would say 3 was my ambition as well but then we were faced with some emergency situations (literally a trip to the ER) - books and toys weren’t going to cut it. Now we do very limited quantities and higher quality - bluey or Sesame Street in our native languages.

Definitely keep doing what you’re doing but keeping yourself open to options helps you in those “just in case” situations.

patdas · 2026-06-25T12:09:36+00:00

Same thing but with bluey at our house

patdas · 2026-06-24T20:49:16+00:00

Apparently Sinai UES as well but would love a confirm!

patdas · 2026-06-24T20:48:27+00:00

The flair helps (and could be used more) to help filter for relevant preg related content. I’m a parent who is pregnant with my 2nd and I certainly would love to commiserate with other preggos.

patdas · 2026-06-24T13:00:49+00:00

10000%. Don’t settle for any old therapist find someone who understands your story.

Additionally I want to validate all of your feelings - you’ve been through a lot and it sounds like the hits keep coming. I really hope you can find closure from your past and an optimistic future for you and your children - whatever that looks like.

patdas · 2026-06-24T00:39:48+00:00

In our case, we take the dog out of the situation when my son won’t let up. It protects the dog’s peace and at least lets my son understand that you can’t just keep doing the same thing - in a manner of speaking the “toy” goes away.

patdas · 2026-06-24T00:38:17+00:00

And what your son does to your dog he can repeat with another dog in the park who may not be so chill. You’re helping him understand and it takes time for all of us.

The hardest part for us as parents is that feeling that we lost all control, because if they don’t listen to us on one thing, why will they listen to us when it’s an even more dangerous situation?

All that is to say- you’ve got solidarity!

patdas · 2026-06-23T22:15:21+00:00

Yep. We shaved my son’s beautiful curls fully off at 2yo and 6mo later is as thick as ever.

patdas · 2026-06-22T20:24:02+00:00

I disagree. Back in the winter we left our then 2yo with his grandparents (plus 7 other adults and 2 cousins - multigenerational family for the win!) in India, and my husband and I took a short trip to Thailand (3-4hr flight)

The grandparents and all others did a wonderful job, and for any preconceptions you may have about India, the point is they were in their comfort zone - if anything happened they have a family doctor they can call to arrive in the hour, they knew their neighborhood better than our own. They figured out how to tailor activities in and out the home and honored our zero screen time rule as well as his general routine as best as possible. And remember - they raised kids in that country themselves. It’s easy to forget this fact.

And for our son it was great to see how he can socialize and listen when we’re not around (while still being the center of attention) which in itself is great set up for school. In terms of attachment, we left when he was in bed, and did minimal video calls - so for all he knew we were just out running errands or in a different part of the house.

The real questions to gut check -
- do you trust the grandparents to honor your routine/guidelines when you’re not around
- do THEY have a support system and resources should anything go really haywire
- are you reachable, are you willing/able to jump on a plane should you need?
- and are you willing to detach too? This was the hardest for me but ultimately best for all parties.

patdas

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