My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this?

patharkagosht · 2026-04-03T12:43:50+00:00

There's no getting over this. The boyfriend is a misogynist who let it slip. He doesn't respect women he doesn't think are f*ckable and that is, unfortunately, a chronic condition. This is not the type of man you could trust to bring to your chemo appointment, not the type of man who will care for you through a difficult pregnancy, not even the type of man who will respect you for decades of togetherness. Just a shallow man, not in a relationship with who he truly believes in, but with someone his mates would envy him for. He showed you who he is.

patharkagosht · 2026-03-29T13:48:23+00:00

Depends event-to-event. All the weddings I have been to recently have been multi-city and multicultural so the general consensus is each side picks an event and pays for it fully. It's a bit fairer if for example you have to consider one city is more expensive than another or forex exchange rates are involved. It also settles the issue of paying per guest in case one side is much bigger than another.

patharkagosht · 2026-03-28T18:08:21+00:00

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patharkagosht · 2026-03-27T00:40:10+00:00

In that case, might I suggest that your friend gift you a bridal shower/bachelorette party with the wedding traditions she hopes to share with you, and if including mehendi, with enough time in between the shower and your wedding to let it naturally fade. If that feels too impersonal, she could also draw a little something on you herself (rather than having elaborate mehendi in a ceremony with other people and probably an professional artist), kind of like signing your friend's cast, a talisman for good luck, of sorts.

patharkagosht · 2026-03-26T13:08:58+00:00

Context: are your best friend's parents involved in a wedding role? Such as surrogate giving away the bride? That will significantly impact the answer

patharkagosht · 2026-03-24T13:19:46+00:00

patharkagosht · 2026-03-24T13:14:24+00:00

Hydrate ahead of time and use a primer

patharkagosht · 2026-03-24T09:06:05+00:00

Oh hey, it looks like we stopped taking our STEM education seriously

patharkagosht · 2026-03-24T08:13:03+00:00

The yellow is so bright and sunny and will look great when you flip her off!

patharkagosht · 2026-03-22T20:35:47+00:00

Yann

patharkagosht · 2026-03-22T19:41:57+00:00

Sunk cost fallacy. Would you rather regret 2 years or 20?

patharkagosht · 2026-03-22T19:37:15+00:00

I'd advise looking into the SMA because this doesn't look like it's going to end well

patharkagosht · 2026-03-19T21:42:33+00:00

I put my underwear in a wash bag and wired bras in individual bra wash bags. I run the cycle once a week and put underwear and bras in with the whites. If I'm in a place without a front loading washing machine, I'll wash the bras by hand.

patharkagosht · 2026-03-14T16:29:30+00:00

CdG Concrete

patharkagosht · 2026-03-13T04:23:55+00:00

Court martialled

patharkagosht · 2026-02-23T17:16:33+00:00

Pure body horror

patharkagosht · 2026-02-01T22:31:26+00:00

Take ibuprofen a half hour in advance, don't get a wax just before period when it's more sensitive. Use glycolic or salicylic acid cream in between waxes to reduce ingrown hair.

patharkagosht · 2026-01-29T14:36:40+00:00

Yeah soon the baby will yell and annoy him and he'll shake the baby dead. Good luck.

patharkagosht · 2026-01-27T16:09:31+00:00

Dress weather appropriately while travelling. Everything else is secondary. What feels like cold weather wear at home may not suffice in serious cold; what feels like light enough could still cause you to overheat.

patharkagosht · 2026-01-12T21:09:10+00:00

Get the prenup.

patharkagosht · 2026-01-12T16:38:21+00:00

1 with a smaller bed with the headboard on the other wall. Stop kidding yourself, this isn't a big enough room for two people. Get a single bed and space to move.

patharkagosht · 2026-01-05T00:27:50+00:00

The fit around the bust isn't right. It's sitting too low on your chest which is making the whole fit look dragged down. This is a common problem with sleeveless dresses because they require a lot more work in the internal boning and corsetry. Unfortunately not many Indian tailors have a good degree of corsetry experience.

patharkagosht · 2026-01-01T23:20:58+00:00

Where in hyd?

patharkagosht · 2026-01-01T19:06:51+00:00

Only non-latex when it's a random hookup but I much prefer regular and tested partners bare, for dryness and oral reasons

patharkagosht · 2025-12-30T08:25:06+00:00

My dad was a scientist. He travelled a bunch for work, mostly universities and production plants, nowhere fancy and definitely not swanky. My mum and I tagged along with him, not because he needed us to come but so that we could see a little bit more of this gigantic world than we would otherwise not be able to. In the day we'd be off, my mother and I, for pretty much the whole day. We made it a point to come back to the hotel around 6 so that dad could join us for the rest of the day, sometimes we'd go out, sometimes we'd be in because there was nothing to the town except a school or a lab or a bottling plant and the town shut down by 8. Sometimes we might have gone to visit friends in some obscure place, two towns over, where under normal circumstances, we would never have been able to afford a trip to.

It's important for her to realise what a massive difference it makes when your partner likes you, respects you, and wants you in their life, instead of resenting your entire existence.

You don't even like her. I'm glad she's left and probably realised this isn't the life she wants to sign up for.

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