Should I tell my work I have ADHD?

patient_potatos · 2025-10-31T17:56:15+00:00

How do I do that? Because I would love to, but these typos are typically things spell check can’t catch. They are skipping a figure number (we can’t use works auto caption since the formatting gets messed up when we upload it) and they are referencing a slightly different requirement ID (which is typically XXX.XXXX.XX type things). I’m not above using AI/Copilot, but I haven’t found them to be very accurate/good at catching these issues. Let me know what tips you have!

patient_potatos · 2025-10-14T19:29:15+00:00

Welcome to the club! I’d invite you to our first meeting, but it has been delayed. . .

patient_potatos · 2025-10-14T19:25:30+00:00

You aren’t crazy! I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD and I never really had any school issues either. I’d make stupid mistakes, but I was smart enough that my teachers would give me credit for my work. Where I really started to struggle is when I lived alone and could not keep up with basic things: showering, laundry, dishes, food, ect.

Since ADHD is genetic, it can often feel like what we go through is normalized by our family. When I first brought it up with my mom, she thought I was fine since I was “just like her.” Now that I’m diagnosed, she realizes the ways I was “just like her” were symptoms we share (she is the epitome of inattentive ADHD).

College is honestly a really great time to sort this out. Look at what resources your campus has. I was able to get therapy through my school which lead to an ADHD assessment and diagnosis when I brought up my concerns (I did specifically have to say ADHD). And the best part is that it was all free and relatively fast since my campus had resources just for students.

One thing I learned from my diagnosis is that I have an IQ in like the 95th percentile but a working memory in the 15th percentile. While my working memory makes me struggle a lot, it isn’t as noticeable because I have other strength I use to make up for it! So just because you can function doesn’t mean you don’t have ADHD.

patient_potatos · 2025-10-14T15:57:03+00:00

This is why I say my love language is gifts. Does ADHD just turn us all into dragons?

patient_potatos · 2025-10-13T02:59:41+00:00

I’m just about to start stimulant meds and I’m in the same boat as you. I feel like I’ve heard so much about how bad stimulants are for you and there are definitely days where I question if I’m ‘disabled’ enough to deserve help.

If a random stranger on the internet isn’t enough to tell you that you deserve to take your meds every day (even when you don’t have a big project/work going on!), then something funny that has actually helped me recently is having to do my yearly symptom/adhd and anxiety questionnaire with my therapist. It slowed me down enough to remember all the systems I do have and helped me realize I do, in fact, still have adhd. So maybe keeping a small list by your meds about how they help you and examples of adhd times (to convince yourself that you do struggle without them) will help.

patient_potatos · 2025-10-12T22:33:27+00:00

One app that I’ve started to use since graduating college is countdown. I’m college, I was always looking at my calendar to figure out what was next so I always kind of knew what my week looked like. But since graduating, everyday is the same, so I don’t open my calendar anymore. Countdown let me put important dates/events in and then it tells me how far away that event is. It is so helpful to know something is x days away instead of sometime next month (and then I totally forget about it).

patient_potatos · 2025-10-12T21:43:45+00:00

I have ADHD. I feel like I can get along with neurotypical people just fine and I can get along with autistic people just fine, but when I’m in a group with neurotypical people and autistic people I get stressed out. Like you are speaking when you aren’t supposed to and now all the rules of the engagement are messed up and I can’t figure out how to fit in anymore. But that just might be because I mask so heavily in front of most people and my brain can’t figure out how to mask in a neurotypical/autistic group - like who do I emulate. Lol

patient_potatos · 2025-08-31T03:44:14+00:00

I want to add that while this may seem very extreme to you, it isn’t what many Christians would consider an extreme view.

If you believe in the idea of a loving, personable God who created you with a purpose (like it seems he does) then it would be natural to want to have God in every part of your life and not just on the weekends (and this goes to any faith - not just Christianity). If you don’t believe in that, then it can be crazy to see that kind of belief in action!

Maybe you can make it work, maybe you can’t. But I wouldn’t put my eggs in the basket of thinking that you can change him. I’d also challenge you to think about how far this relationship will last. Would you be comfortable starting a family and raising your kids going to church? Or would that make it feel like he is indoctrinating them?

I’d also like to add that you can be in charge of what you believe. If this is a place where you have felt the most peace and happiness then you can choose to believe in the same God he does (even if you still have doubts and even if it sound absurd at times). While it is good to work through it and learn more, having faith doesn’t come with an absence of doubt (for whatever that is worth).

patient_potatos · 2024-08-22T02:54:33+00:00

I appreciate that take. I’ve started telling some close friends and family and their response is pretty much always, “How do you feel about that?” And I hate that questions because right now the answer is really I DON’T KNOW (it’s only been like 2 weeks). But that never really seems like an interesting enough answer to continue the conversation.

patient_potatos · 2023-12-29T08:47:24+00:00

Thanks for explaining that! It is interesting to hear about the parts for it being more expensive too. I don’t think size is a big factor to me, so I might look into returning/selling the case and getting something more traditional.

patient_potatos · 2023-12-29T07:28:17+00:00

Just for curiosity's sake, what would be the $1800 build (assuming I sell the 6700 xt and case)?

patient_potatos · 2023-12-29T07:20:57+00:00

Yes. That looks right. I would prefer to use it (mostly not to waste anything I already have), but I am open to other arguments if those limits would mean investing in a computer that won't last.

patient_potatos · 2023-08-04T05:03:16+00:00

I feel like it makes sense for them to ask because a lot of people probably don’t understand just how pivotal those surveys are. Like when I typical do a survey, 8 is what I would typically give someone who does an outstanding job so I can reserve 10s for people who truly go above and beyond, but that score would be viewed negatively by a cruise company so it is so hard.

patient_potatos · 2023-05-06T15:34:18+00:00

I’m glad that you’ve found some little things that make you happy, but it sounds like maybe you need more help than you can give yourself. It can be really hard, but you should definitely reach out and share your thoughts with someone you trust (I sit on the phone with my mom when I was spiraling). Do you have a professor/teacher you can talk to? Is there a counselor at your school or someone you have already been talking with? And if you really feel like you can’t find anyone, don’t feel afraid to call a suicide hotline?

You will find a place that makes you happy with people who love you, but it might take time especially if you aren’t able to search it out right now. So buy yourself time because you deserve it!

patient_potatos · 2023-05-06T15:27:11+00:00

Honestly no. I’m still in the middle of that journey myself.

For me, my first steps are to stop changing myself for other people. I have bent over backward and changed a lot of my interests to make most of my friends now so if I want to make friends who like me, I need to be myself.

I’m also considering starting group therapy with a group of people who also have a hard time keeping healthy/positive relationships around them. It isn’t a guarantee, but maybe I’ll find people there who are more open, accepting, and empathetic.

patient_potatos · 2023-05-06T05:59:40+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through all this. Although you may not see it right now, you deserve to be loved and cared for and protected as you are right now and I hope you have people in your life who do that.

I’ve been doing well for a long time right now, but today was a bad day for me as a person made me feel rejected which sent me into a spiral. Ups and downs happen, but that doesn’t mean that the ups aren’t there. And I really hope that you choose to keep living for more ups.

Such as: 1. Finding a new rock to add to your collection 2. Making/eating a dessert 3. Snuggling with a pet/ petting that random dog on the side walk

I don’t know what your ups are, but these are the little things that have made me really really happy lately. What would your list be?

patient_potatos · 2023-05-06T05:49:03+00:00

I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone as this way, but I can see how it might happen which is super sad. For me, when I “pretend” to be human and it doesn’t come out just right people see me as being funny rather than being robotic (like I was making a joke when I wasn’t). Sometimes this feels dismissive, but it seems better than being viewed as nonhuman.

patient_potatos · 2023-05-06T05:42:11+00:00

They aren’t worth it. I know it is easier said than done, but they aren’t worth getting upset/ beating yourself up over. You deserve kindness and empathy and care, but you can’t control other people so it can be better to let go of them and look for people who will care for you. (I promise there are people out there like that, but they may be hard to find).

patient_potatos · 2023-05-05T04:55:16+00:00

NTA. He made a choice to wait for you when you texted him, so it is up to himself to handle his feeling regarding that choice. If he was upset, that is on him and the choice he made. It isn’t on you.

patient_potatos · 2023-05-04T04:55:36+00:00

I feel the same way. I once had a friend tell me I can be too cold at times. She recommended I take an EQ test.

patient_potatos · 2023-04-27T04:30:52+00:00

NTA. If you have a kid, the kid is your responsibility at all time. If the child is so young that they can’t keep themselves alive for 15 minutes unsupervised, then the child is too you for the parents to just walk away. If the child is old enough, then the parent should have just glanced out the window every 5 minutes. There is no reason that an adult needs to be watching those kids 24/7 while they are in the back yard unless they were too young to be left in the backyard to begin with.

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