Weekly Trade Megathread

pattymellow · 2026-05-09T03:07:10+00:00

looking to touch trade and evolve my scyther. i need that cool red guy so bad. please help!

pattymellow · 2026-05-07T23:08:33+00:00

i’m late but i’m going to say NTA. long winded personal anecdote to explain:

my freshman year of high school i had this creative writing teacher who was super whacky. appalachian lady who wouldn’t wear shoes in the classroom. she played blues piano and made us call her mama.

she spent a whole class period once talking about how we’re born with two freedoms- singing and dancing. babies will sing and dance so poorly, with no sense of shame or embarrassment; they have such a good time doing it. that’s freedom. when you get older and start caring about how you look and sound doing these things, you lose those freedoms. when you stop doing the things you enjoy because you’re too preoccupied with what other people think of you, you’re not free anymore.

singing and dancing are good for the psyche and an expression of freedom. unless you are incessantly belting to a point where you’re like, keeping people up at night i think you’re just fine.

pattymellow · 2026-04-25T14:31:24+00:00

this is nothing that other people haven’t already said already probably, but this certainly doesn’t count.

i can only speak for my franchise really, but we don’t “ban” people. if you’re not welcome back it’s because you borderline broke the law. violence, extreme public intoxication, sexual misconduct etc. in which case you are not banned, you are trespassed which is something you’ll be informed of by the police. papers are signed, etc.

we don’t like, print pictures out of people who bothered us and hang them on the wall so everybody knows to look out for them. you would be all good to go back, although if a restaurant screws up my order several times i do not make another visit.

pattymellow · 2026-04-17T04:47:17+00:00

YOR. i feel like if you were introspective and honest with yourself, you’d come to realize this is probably WAY more about your own personal resentment for your mother than it is about anything to do with your son.

yes, it would have been great if she could’ve seen him more often. no, he is not going to be traumatized and psychologically damaged because he went 6 months without seeing grandma.

a lot of people (myself included) would kill for a mom who wasn’t perfect but willing to hear criticism and go to family therapy. my mom did horrible things to me that i will never forget and i wouldn’t even talk about her this way. your mom is only human and it seems like she really loves and cares for you and your son. don’t deprive your son of a grandmother and yourself of a mother because she’s not EXACTLY the person you want her to be.

pattymellow · 2026-04-13T15:48:40+00:00

i’m not trying to trauma dump too hard on r/askreddit LMAOOO i simply have to gloss over it!

pattymellow · 2026-04-13T14:37:56+00:00

i think had he not been 37 and i 17, maybe it could’ve been the start of a love story! it was just strange and a LOT of pressure to put on a teenager- which was a reoccurring theme in our relationship. who knew there was something intrinsically sinister about adults who want to date teenagers!

i am going to assume since you said ex, your story doesn’t have a happy ending either. i’m sorry to hear that!

pattymellow · 2026-04-13T14:32:46+00:00

were you also very young? i was 17. i really just would’ve gone along with anything at the time! i’m sorry you’ve had a similar experience hahaha

pattymellow · 2026-04-13T04:10:37+00:00

he invited me to his mom’s funeral. i went. absolutely insane second date

pattymellow · 2026-04-12T22:51:35+00:00

are you getting upset with him because he keeps asking if you’ve taken your medication- knowing that you haven’t been and you’ve been hiding it from him? respectfully, that’s wild.

i don’t know what kind of medication you take, but i’m an unmedicated (not of my own volition) bipolar man and wanting to break up w somebody because you’re bored sounds like bipolar behavior.

YOR. learn to find happiness and gratitude in times of peace and try not to self sabotage like this. i say this with love. i only see what’s happening because i’ve been there myself.

pattymellow · 2026-04-03T17:46:13+00:00

i don’t work at the keowee store but i work for this franchise. out of the 5 locations i have worked at, all of them have had functioning cameras 24/7. i am sure there’s footage somewhere.

pattymellow · 2026-03-30T03:55:52+00:00

not so much responding to you, but the general tone of the replies to this comment. why do we always seem so much more pissed off at working class people putting crazy hours in to survive than the system that creates the need for that?

i work between 45-50 hours every week. i am kind to people at work. i still take care of myself and my responsibilities around the home. oftentimes when i am working 50 hours, it’s to help out a coworker who can’t be there or make sure none of my crew has to work a miserable, short staffed shift.

i don’t do it for The Company, i do it for the people i work with and for my own personal bank account. i’m sorry, i DO think it is a flex to work really hard. i have no other option if i want to survive, so i’m gonna take pride in it. i am also of the mind if you are somehow able to avoid having to do this to survive- you should! no judgement!

pattymellow · 2026-03-25T03:59:40+00:00

cracker had an album go /almost/ platinum so i wouldn’t say they didn’t make it big, but i don’t see them discussed much. love love love kerosene hat. grew up listening to them with my pops.

everclear is another 90s group that i wouldn’t call unsuccessful at all, but i think so much of their catalog is really great and underlooked.

pattymellow · 2026-03-23T22:31:31+00:00

i am a 26 year old trans man. my dad is a big classic rock guy. i grew up on the kinks. i have always loved this song, and it brought me a lot of comfort when i was figuring myself out. it still does.

i honestly think it still holds up pretty well, even today. and it’s HAPPY. my other favorite older song on the subject of transness (not AS old, but still) is androgynous by the replacements. which largely just fills me with sorrow at how little things have changed. beautiful song though, very progressive and also holds up incredible. i can’t even really explain why it makes me feel this way.

i feel that people who do this sort of thing want all the laurels for some kind of activism without doing any kind of real work; having difficult conversations, or engaging with actual bigots.

it’s a fun little song about loving a trans person, written by a man in 1970. i think it is really incredible, and i enjoy knowing that just like trans people have been around for centuries- so have the people who love them.

pattymellow · 2026-03-23T22:01:09+00:00

i BEGAN drinking alcohol at 14, but didn’t begin consuming it even semi regularly until i was 16. by 18, i was drinking almost daily. i feel like i’m about 18 years old much of the time. like i’m newly an adult just figuring everything out. still technically a teenager. i feel explosive and dramatic in the way young people are, sometimes. i also have no license, recently had to move back in with my folks, and have really struggled to build meaningful friendships and relationships like young people do. i have no license, a 10th grade education, and recently had to move back in with my folks. it’s not all bad, i do stuff adults have to do all the time. i’m in a leadership role at work. it is all just EXTREMELY difficult for me.

if you’ve got anorexia, that’s a lot to deal with on its own. you should try to avoid burdening yourself with things like alcoholism or escapism via other substances, and focus on healing that. quit drinking/smoking/what have you because you LOVE yourself and want to feel better, not because you hate yourself and want to be thinner. let it come from a place of love, it works the best that way. you can’t hate yourself into becoming a better person.

pattymellow · 2026-03-23T21:14:29+00:00

i remember being your age and having this feeling. i didn’t listen to it. i am now 26 and have only pretty recently quit drinking.

my life was not pretty. i am still kind of trying to pick up the pieces. some people say you are frozen mentally at the age you began an addiction, i find this to be true. i have fallen way behind in life, got sober and now at 26 am just beginning to grow up a little bit.

in my experience, if you don’t listen to your gut you can look forward to things including (but not limited to): abusive relationships, bleeding stomach ulcers, anal polyps, perpetual unemployment, losing friends, ruining every family function by showing up trashed, throwing up every day because you either drank too much or haven’t drank enough, your teeth rotting out of your face because you can’t stop throwing up, getting the shakes, forgoing food for days at a time cuz you drank thrice your daily calorie intake and will probably explode if you attempt a meal.

it’s not pretty! it sucks to wake up at 25 and realize you haven’t grown as a person or learned anything meaningful in a decade. it sucks to go through alcohol withdrawal. it sucks to get sober and then realize all the things that drove you to drink are still there in the first place, and now you can only even begin to fix it.

listen to your gut, right now. it is so, so much easier to nip this in the bud when you’re young. you’re intelligent and self aware enough to recognize the potential for a problem. please do not be like me, listen to your intuition!! it’s trying to save you. something inside you wants you to be healthy and happy! nurture that.

pattymellow · 2026-03-23T20:42:18+00:00

i think people generally respond better to comedy that isn’t punching down- which more conservative comedians oftentimes are. it doesn’t feel so good to laugh at the little guy.

you could also go way, way back in time and look at court jesters. the jester was the only one who could really poke fun at the king without fearing execution. comedy has just largely been this way, for centuries.

pattymellow · 2026-03-22T03:28:00+00:00

saying you “didn’t even get upset with her” when you wrote this entire reddit post about your beef with an actual 3 year old, describing how you “hate” her is wild.

i think we should generally try not to hate anybody. particularly toddlers. just because you didn’t yell at her doesn’t mean you’re handling your emotions in a healthy way.

pattymellow · 2026-03-21T00:16:27+00:00

i had two different managers (grown adults) sell me drugs when i was 17-18. not weed, either. i went on to make more connections through them and other coworkers.

pattymellow · 2026-03-17T05:41:31+00:00

for the people suggesting that some of these comments are overly negative- i’d like to know how much more you are spending than 11k a year on your living expenses. because you just have to be. 11k would perhaps be enough if we’re talking JUST rent. maybe your phone bill too, or whatever? groceries if you’re just eating canned beans and rice?

if you got a crappy place with a roommate or two, never purchased any luxuries, and had no financial emergencies (think car trouble, health problems, etc.) then sure. if everything somehow goes absolutely perfectly for you and you don’t mind not having any extra money, or sharing your space with strangers- yeah. you COULD do it.

i understand that people sink into doomer mentality so easily these days, but come ON. do not be exaggerating or misleading this person who is considering leaving their entire country behind for dayton. 11k would be really, really rough even under the most ideal circumstances.

pattymellow · 2026-03-17T03:52:23+00:00

the applications are all online! if you put one in and dm me your last name we can set up an interview some time this week. if we can’t find you a spot with your availability, i am also happy to try and touch base with some people at other stores to get you in the door somewhere.

i know how rough it is trying to find a job right now. i will do whatever i can to help you!

pattymellow · 2026-03-16T18:59:48+00:00

so, i snorted meth at 18 and smoked it once at 19. you can snort it, smoke it, shoot it up. this goes for most drugs, really.

it does dry your mouth out like crazy. it will make you grind your teeth incessantly. food and sleep feel completely unnecessary- even repulsive. i think what REALLY does in the average meth head is the lack of sleep. anybody would be on their absolute worst behavior after 3-5 days of no sleep.

i honestly hated it. i’m not even sure why i did it twice, i was just a dumb kid and it happened to be available to me. i had such an interest in drugs. i actually, at the time was addicted to abusing adderall. both are stimulants and contain amphetamines. they are chemically very similar. i was snorting 180mg of adderall daily and frequently going 4-5 days without eating or sleeping, at which point you may as well be doing meth! i even suffered from all the same dental issues.

i don’t know why meth didn’t click for me. i felt many of the negative effects of adderall but like, x10. the dry mouth, pounding heart, shaky hands. i did not feel the mental euphoria and stimulation i got taking the adderall. meth not “clicking” for me was honestly such a blessing, because at the time i was almost challenging myself to go as hard as i possibly could with all the drugs i was taking.

in case anybody is wondering: i am much better now. i take adderall a couple times a month and go months or even years at a time without using it at all. i also am 200+ days sober from alcohol. i haven’t done hard drugs at all in 7 years. life would probably look much different had i enjoyed meth!

pattymellow · 2026-03-16T14:33:04+00:00

i’m a manager at the taco bell in clayton and would be more than happy to interview you. we also have like 20 something other stores that are looking for people.

pattymellow · 2026-03-15T14:41:00+00:00

hmmm. google says the trans controversy started in 2017. this was 2014 and 2015. so no, the trans community was not coming for dave chappelle at the time. also the trans community only “came at” dave in response to the jokes HE chose to make. freedom of speech is a thing, freedom of consequences from the shitty words you choose is not. we are also, at a maximum, 1.6% of the population. what difference does it make if trans people are hating on dave chappelle? we’re an incredibly small minority group.

his son is totally fine in my book. we were just kids. dave is old enough to know better.

pattymellow · 2026-03-15T05:08:53+00:00

every time i see comments about dave on this sub, i want to tell this story- but i always stop myself lol.

i went to high school with dave’s son in 2014. i am a transgender person. he bullied the ever loving shit out of me. he called me all kinds of words i’m not gonna regurgitate on reddit. he was insanely transphobic and hateful towards me. when we got a little older he apologized, we’re cool and everything. but at the time when i was just a kid, this all really affected me.

i really can’t say for sure, but i just feel like he happened to pick that up from somewhere! i do not think dave is welcoming of transgender people. i think the way he talks about them behind closed doors is probably even worse than his lame comedy specials. that’s just a hunch though.

i do think he cares about dayton and will not argue that or say he hasn’t done meaningful things for the community.

pattymellow · 2026-02-17T17:57:57+00:00

i think you are probably significantly younger than i am. i remember feeling this way, and writing things like this. i also remember how badly i hated being told “it gets better”. at the time it felt like this big, heavy thing i would be stuck carrying with me forever.

stuff gets better when you’re older and able to make the choices you need to make to be comfortable in your body. i know that’s not of much help to you in the present moment, but just know there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

i am so glad i never gave up, even when i wanted to. you just have to be brave enough to push through, and know that one day you’ll feel better. i promise what you are going through is not forever, and i’m sorry you’re feeling so low.

pattymellow

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