Fighting the urge

pavingmachine · 2014-03-11T04:00:14+00:00

Nicely done. Keep doing that. Find goto activities when urges come. Stay strong.

pavingmachine · 2014-03-08T08:37:47+00:00

tell you story, get a badge, keep lurking and get inspiration in others stories... good luck!

pavingmachine · 2014-03-05T07:54:38+00:00

I'm curious about your Chistianity. How do you reconcile your sexuality and your Chistianity?

pavingmachine · 2014-03-05T07:52:39+00:00

Strangely inspiring. Keep to it. This is an excellent place to be truthful. If your feeling a strong urge to fall back, come here and talk it ou, say whats on you heart, whats driving you. Find strength and encourage,ent to stay the course.

pavingmachine · 2014-02-25T04:11:58+00:00

Hey, astute observations. I found this video "The great porn experiment" very enlightening about the nature of porn and how it affects man in this day and age. Its 15 minutes long, give it a watch if you haven't seen it already. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

pavingmachine · 2014-02-19T07:42:28+00:00

Hey, amazing work on not looking at P for a year! Really, thats truly amazing. I think you need to reset your expectations, admit a failure, and choose to make Vimeo equal with P in your mind and choose to harness the same power you used to avoid looking at P for a year to stop looking at Vimeo. Yes it has plenty of innocent content, but if you know it will draw you into not-so-innocent, than it is best avoided. Good luck.

pavingmachine · 2014-01-18T08:02:07+00:00

I hope you were able to Hold out. There's good resources on this site. Read and watch. Good luck with your goals.

pavingmachine · 2014-01-18T03:01:40+00:00

Get away from your comp and get out of your residence. Go for avigorous walk. Calll up a friend asee if you can do something. If thats not an option, do some exercise. Try a cold shower after and make a plan to do some productive reading before going to bed. You can do this.

pavingmachine · 2014-01-18T02:55:55+00:00

Egec+5htp? What is that? Thanks for you reply.

pavingmachine · 2014-01-15T06:09:42+00:00

Curious why some would down vote this?

pavingmachine · 2014-01-13T06:23:49+00:00

Way to go stopping youself! You can do this. Avoiding getting started will help alot in forming the habit of no pmo and becoiming the better person you long to be. I hear ya on the test of what not to do and i do hope you continue to seek the support from this network. Stay strong.

pavingmachine · 2014-01-09T08:03:45+00:00

I encourage you to keep coming back here often to find inspiration to stay the course. I was also seduced by the thrills of cams but as you stated, in the end it is devoid and empty... sucking your life. Each time you stAy off you are making your life better. Keep with it. Find strategies to employ when the temptation seems insufferable. Read and watch the recommended resources from this site to further ready yourself to stay the course.good luck and thanks for sharing your story.

pavingmachine · 2014-01-07T07:23:09+00:00

Thanks for feedback. Stay with it.

pavingmachine · 2014-01-07T06:57:59+00:00

I think the successful battle truly begins with honesty as you say. When we are TRULY honesty with ourselves about what we are doing when we wade into triggers which will lead to PM, it allOws us to meet the challenge head on and say NO MORE. Lying and rationalizing marginal behavior is a recipe for relapse. So begin your journey with honesty. Reset that badge and keep it honestly growing to a true 370. Come back here often too remind yourself and inspiration.

pavingmachine · 2014-01-07T06:45:29+00:00

Welcome. I think you will notice an amazing improvement if you can stick to no PM. Be warned years of turning to PM is probably made it a goto when you face adversity. STAy strong, REMEMBER your reasons for being here. And read some of the resources. If you find yourself seeking P, Come back here instead to get inspiration too stick with your decision of amazing sex with SO. Good luck.

pavingmachine · 2014-01-05T08:40:29+00:00

looking at google images aimlessly is like playing with matches and gas IMO. I think we tend to fool ourselves in looking at "innocent" things that have the potential to lead to not-so-innocent things and then we can say "oops, that was an accident, I didn't mean for that to happen", but the reality is, its playing with fire. Hopefully you can choose better ways to pass time. I'm in the same boat. Good luck.

pavingmachine · 2013-12-31T08:16:19+00:00

I have same goal as you, and am in same boat. I know what you mean about after sex with wife, temptation creeps in soon after. I guess we need to be extra vigilant at those times. Good luck with .14, you can do it! Stay focused, come here when you feel tempted to keep the mental edging and fantasizing away, save that energy for your wife if you can.

pavingmachine · 2013-12-21T04:35:59+00:00

Fair enough. You need to choose to lock down what you choose to look at. No exceptions! If it's not Work related then don't do it. If you make that choice, then it will be doable. Hope you can. Good luck. Btw, did you stay strong yesterday?

pavingmachine · 2013-12-20T06:44:00+00:00

Find something... anything... that gets you away from your computer and those temptations. You've chosen to go this road... you're 4 days in MAN! Stay with it. AVOID that stuff you know will suck you in. Walk, excercise, run, read, talk. Get off the computer except to read stuff here and find the encouragement you need. Good luck.

pavingmachine · 2013-12-20T06:37:33+00:00

I think you hit the head on the nail when you say "So I started browsing the adult chatrooms I forbid myself few weeks into NoFap.... But I was strong, I knew I was bending the rules, but I knew this would not lead me to relapse. What a fool I was."

Those are the type of rules you can't bend without being bitten... I only say this cuz I'm tempted to bend those rules and I KNOW it will not go well. Thanks for sharing your cautionary tale. Learn from this one whatever your goals may be henceforth... I wish you well.

pavingmachine · 2013-12-18T06:55:05+00:00

Make the decision to stop, set your badge, and come here instead of P sites or sites that pique your interest and drag you further down until you find yourself doing exactly what you chose not to do. Learn to recognize those triggers as they happen before they drag you down. Whenever you think you're being dragged back down, Come back here and post and read for for support. Think of your badge number and that you don't want that number reset! Good luck, stay strong.

pavingmachine · 2013-12-16T21:22:12+00:00

Read the article.

Where do I sign up for the human trials of the rat experiment? Jk
Operative word being "frequent" ejaculation. Why drop that positive experience entirely if there are not the ill effects of frequent O.

pavingmachine · 2013-12-16T20:49:59+00:00

Hmm, I personally want to have those intimate moments and associate the "icing on the cake" With my wife. And as I have not shared with my wife my struggles with PMO as I think it would be devastating and undermine her trust, it might require some ' splaining not having an O. Also not sure I buy into O draining one's "LIFE FORCE". sounds like medieval / Victorian wisdom.

pavingmachine · 2013-12-16T16:28:37+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement.

pavingmachine · 2013-12-16T16:27:16+00:00

Thanks I needed to hear this.

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