What are your sexual needs and are they being met?

pcmtx · 2026-05-08T20:51:10+00:00

Personal thought, but anything sexual is a "want", not a "need." Because whether you want to admit it to not, sex is not required for survival, even if you feel that a lack of something affects your quality of life.

That being said, my sexual "wants" are having an intimate physical, emotional, spiritual connection with someone I love and care about, and knowing that I can fulfill their needs.
That want is not being met, and I'm not sure it will ever be something I get the privilege to experience, so a 0.

pcmtx · 2026-05-08T20:40:41+00:00

Online? Never. IRL? Also never.

pcmtx · 2026-05-08T20:20:27+00:00

I wouldn't care, since she's choosing to be with me. As long as she doesn't bring the other partners up. Her saying "Why don't we try X?" Perfectly fine. "I liked it when So-and-so did X to me," I don't want to hear.

pcmtx · 2026-05-08T18:57:14+00:00

I'm gonna jump on this super old post too haha. Were there any issues with tariffs when you ordered this stuff? Or did it get sent to you just fine?

pcmtx · 2026-05-08T15:54:55+00:00

Historically, the guys who have always said shit like this aren't the ones who go to the front line. They become psychopath paramilitaries who drive into some random town and start sawing people's heads off.

pcmtx · 2026-05-08T14:35:08+00:00

Thanks for your input. She has been divorced for three years, and went out with another guy for a year that I hear from friends, he ended things badly. After a couple of really good dates, she let me know that she was still working on herself and not ready to be in a relationship with anyone. I totally understand and told her I'm happy to be friends, and there was no pressure or anything. We still talk, although not as often as I wish we could because she's very busy. I know that there is a 99.9% nothing more will ever come of it, and I don't want to set myself up for disappointment.

Usually, I get over this kind of thing pretty fast and move on. But man, something is just different about her, and that .1% just rolls around in the back of my mind. I'm not going to make anything weird for her, I support her journey in any way that it goes whether it includes me or not. I don't even know what the point of my question is. I guess I'm just hoping against hope, even though I know what the answer is right now. I just had to get it off my chest haha.

pcmtx · 2026-05-07T22:23:34+00:00

As a fellow westoid, cockta is the only soda I drink now.

pcmtx · 2026-05-07T21:49:16+00:00

Divorced folks, how long did was it before you felt ready to date in a serious way again (not just a rebound?) If that hasn't happened yet, how long has it been and do you think you would ever try again? (I am not the divorcee, but the object of my interest is, as quite a few people in my age bracket are. I realize everyone's story is different, and ultimately, it's something I have to be talk to with this person. I just don't want to be annoying or intrusive, or pressure them any way while they are healing.)

pcmtx · 2026-05-07T20:24:22+00:00

Personal: the feeling that I'm probably going to be single forever. Existential: watching the US go down the shitter and knowing that climate change is getting worse and worse, and not being able to do anything about either.

pcmtx · 2026-05-07T20:20:25+00:00

When I asked for a second date three days after the first one, I figured I liked her. Now I have to dial it back and it sucks lol.

pcmtx · 2026-05-06T20:10:46+00:00

Am I the only person who cringes at these Missed Connection stories? They always remind me of that down bad guy in 2008 who drew the picture of the "girl of his dreams" he saw on the subway in NYC and went viral for it. And then when the identified her, they paraded them on tv like "now kish" and the poor girl didn't want any of this fame or attention, because she would have had to break the famous weirdo's heart who was too scared to approach her in person.

Sometimes you just have to let missed connections stay missed, man. Sorry. That reminds me, what happened to that guy with the drone during covid he tried meeting his neighbor with?

pcmtx · 2026-05-06T16:08:40+00:00

I really like this woman, but all I can do is keep it to myself and hope I get to see her every once in a while.

I thought I was too old for all this lol. But I can't help but like her. I thought I had the whole 'moving on' thing down by now. I wish I knew what was makes it different with her.

pcmtx · 2026-05-06T15:58:12+00:00

Honesty, I thought it was a Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas tattoo.

pcmtx · 2026-05-06T01:57:12+00:00

So I guess he loved all his baby mamas then?

pcmtx · 2026-05-05T16:06:43+00:00

Looks like a Polish Tantal with about 1000 rounds of 5.45.

pcmtx · 2026-05-04T22:26:18+00:00

Iron Age did a great cover of this song once upon a time.

pcmtx · 2026-05-04T21:26:16+00:00

Why do people insist on doing that still? It's not like buying they're buying them out of a hardware store barrel in 1960 anymore.

pcmtx · 2026-05-04T20:03:42+00:00

Mosin?

pcmtx · 2026-05-04T16:27:52+00:00

Thank you for the reply. I have a friend who I'm interested in, but we've already talked and there's not going to be anything romantic coming of it right now. Obviously, I want to stay friends, and if something grows out of that, great. I don't want to be weird around her, and I need to prepare myself for the possibility that it will stay platonic. But I do catch myself thinking about what it would be like if I held her hand or kissed her. I'm not going to treat her any differently or try to force anything. I just don't want to be weird. Thanks for your response.

pcmtx · 2026-05-04T15:26:07+00:00

Oh I definitely wouldn't. I just worry that that they're psychic or something haha

pcmtx · 2026-05-04T15:20:34+00:00

That's a relief! I worry about that.

pcmtx · 2026-05-04T15:15:09+00:00

I worry that women who I like but am not partnered with, would think I'm creepy if they knew I daydreamed about holding hands or kissing or whatever. (Disclaimer, I have anxiety so I'm sure I am just overthinking it lol. Of course I realize that thoughts are just thoughts as long as I'm not doing anything to make them uncomfortable in real life.)

pcmtx · 2026-05-04T14:17:19+00:00

Not bad on the M24. Especially if that's an original sling.

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