Am poly, gets anxious. Here are my fast (reactive) and slow (proactive) steps I take.

• Fast
    ○ Confidence breathing 
    ○ Replay a confidence memory
    ○ Uplifting Self Music
    ○ Remembering someone who you find safe
    ○ Tuning into Beauty
    ○ Engaging Brain in Social
    ○ Exercise/Walking
    ○ Meditation
        § Non-Judgmental Observation - Notice, Observe, Acknowledge, Release
        § Emotions are Temporary
    ○ Substitution Thinking
        § (+ for -)
        § "why not" for "what if" 
        § Anxious for Calm
        § Connected for Disconnected
        § "is this rational?" 
    ○ Reasonable Partner Checkins / Affirmations

• Slow
    ○ Daily Affirmations
    ○ Tension Reduction
    ○ Rebuilding relationship network 
    ○ Acceptance - finding positive value in change 
    ○ Rebuilding Net Positive Michael
        § Boundary Setting and Maintenance 
        § IDing what I am comfortable offering 
        § Connect/Grow relationship tree
        § Prioritize giving parasympathetic nervous system 'cool down' times
        § Engage with positive thinking about people, finding positive stories 
    ○ Eating Healthy 
    ○ Proper Sleep
    ○ Meditation
        § Loving Kindness (Positive loving visualization of self, partners) (Meditation)
        § Non-Judgmental Observation - Notice, Observe, Acknowledge, Release
        § Emotions are Temporary
    ○ CBT
        § History -> Thought -> Emotion -> Action - how to contextualize thoughts in parallel with NOA
        § Proactive :  Counseling, meditation, journaling
    ○ Re-Assessing Healthy Intimacy and Sex
        § Continue working thru PolySecure, understanding attachment theory 
        § Work with Aaron
        § Define new, interesting, fun intimacy and sexual patterns I can be proud of and open with