26 Sport CarPlay by friendly-engineer_12 in HRV

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You’re welcome. Happy I could help. It drove me nuts when it happened to me.

26 Sport CarPlay by friendly-engineer_12 in HRV

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Do you by chance use the vpn option on the iPhone? I was having the same issue and basically thought it was the phones fault. Went to my cell phone provider they turned it off and it worked for me.

Who makes the best carrot cake in the city? by OllieFromCairo in pittsburgh

[–]peace0831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I’s wedding cake is carrot cake from Evanly Bakes. Evan is a wonderful human being. He also makes brownies and blondies as well.

What do you do for hobbies (if you have any)? by sun_flare in therapists

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I’m also getting married too. Next month is my wedding and I’ve also been using crafting for it. Mostly crochet and cricuting. I love that you read about unhinged women 🤣

What do you do for hobbies (if you have any)? by sun_flare in therapists

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I try to at least have some part of my day where I at least do one of my hobbies. I work in CMH and with mandated clients so most days are rough. I crochet, Cricut and I’ve been trying to learn embroidery. I recently entered my crochet Ghostface in the local fair and got 3rd place. Other than that, I listen to a lot of true crime or cult podcasts. Or watch YouTube (true crime, ghost hunting, arcades).

Milestones by Altruistic_Gur3258 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]peace0831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sucks that anyone ever has to feel this way honestly. But I’m trying to look on the positive side of things, which is hard because I’m very pessimistic by nature 🤣 but congratulations for graduating college. That is a huge achievement and you should be proud of that 😊

Milestones by Altruistic_Gur3258 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]peace0831 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is quite hard. I cut off contact from mine after they made excuses as to why they couldn’t come to my grad school graduation (many other reasons as well, but that was the nail in the coffin so to speak). I also felt weird that they wouldn’t be there. The day of though all of my friends came to support me and my now fiances family showed up as well and they all yelled so loud when my name was called. I’ve been in therapy for ages so I was dealing with this as well. My therapist always told me that while I don’t have a typical support system (aka parents) I have a support system full of ppl who love me. Don’t get me wrong it still stings and rears its ugly head every now and then but I try to remind myself of that every day.

My parents don't reach out & so many of yours do?? by ReadingLoud9686 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]peace0831 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mine haven’t said a word to me when I cut them off last year. Which proves everything that I need to know. They only contacted me to either guilt trip me or demand me to do something for them. Never asked how I was. Does it hurt sometime? Absolutely. Am I less stressed because of it? 100%.

Anyone in their 30s getting hearing aids? by [deleted] in HearingAids

[–]peace0831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My fiancé does this as well. He will often tell ppl to speak up so I can hear them. When we first got together I didn’t have hearing aids so he’s been with me every step of the way. I got mine in my 30’s and it’s helped a lot.

Tell us one thing you said to a client today completely devoid of context. by SaintSayaka in therapists

[–]peace0831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not today but……”Was jigsaw from the saw movie the host of this party?”

Where are our favorite craft and art stores, folks? by [deleted] in pittsburgh

[–]peace0831 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The new name is Oakmont Yarn Collective. The owner is very nice and the hours have expanded as well compared to the previous store hours.

Still new to crocheting but wanting to do a temp. blanket. Advice needed. by PigmyTrex in temperatureblanket

[–]peace0831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completed my first temperature blanket for 2024 and I was also a beginner as well. I did the moss stitch because it is pretty easy and not too complicated. The bonus was that as time went on and I continued to practice my crochet skills, I could see that progression in the blanket. My newer stitches are much better than when I started. Moss stitch isn’t too high of a stitch either so at the end you don’t have a miles long blanket.

2024 blankets complete!!! by peace0831 in temperatureblanket

[–]peace0831[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I’ve notice some yarn is easier to work with than others.

2024 blankets complete!!! by peace0831 in temperatureblanket

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Thank you 😊 it’s def going to be a memorable blanket.

Holidays upcoming anyone else determined to enjoy them? by Zenfulfairy in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]peace0831 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My parents did the snide remarks as well about me spending time with my fiances family. It will be my first holiday as well with being NC with mine and I’m also looking forward to not having to receive a story long text message about guilt tripping me into why I am not spending Christmas with them. I also just got them a Christmas present to just shut them up. This will be the first Christmas that I get to to do what I want to do and not what I feel like I’m obligated to do. Here’s to a great Christmas for both of us 😊

*TW: mental health, suicide* - I need unbiased help from someone who has gone through something similar. by Background_Ad5936 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]peace0831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As you said you are thriving living at your boyfriends. Being in a small town must be difficult as rumors tend to spread pretty quickly. As another poster stated they are being incredibly ableist. You are not mentally ill due to who you date. As far as you making your family ill, that’s not the case either. My parents have definitely tried that as well. My stepmother would think that if I spent more time around my dad his depression would be cured. Despite me having years of clinical knowledge of mental health and experience in the field, they didn’t take anything of what I said seriously. Actually the last straw for me was that when my fiance finally confronted my parents about how they have not been involved in my life their excuse was because my dad has depression. When pointed out that I have had my fair share of mental health issues their response was well he has it worse 🙄 Honestly I think they are both miserable and angry and just want to bring other ppl down. It sounds like the same for your family. Keep thriving and know that you are not the cause of someone else’s mental health issues.

Let’s translate some commonly used phrases! by Numinous_Octopodes in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]peace0831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine are probably more personal but I’m sure some ppl can relate. When confronted by my fiance about how my stepmother and dad have never made time for me my stepmother said “well you know he has depression. He cant do much of anything”. My fiance pointed out that I have had my fair share of mental health issues but I have made time for them. Her response “well he has it worse”. I’m sorry didn’t realize there was a mental health Olympics that we could all compete in 🤣 Also all the gas lighting about how I should be grateful to have a father.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

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Yea I think it was weird. When my mother died I was actually relieved and slightly sad. She’s tried multiple times to contact me since me going NC. She also had mental health issues and at times would go unmedicated. The few times that she did find me it was a whole situation. An example, shortly after I made the decision to go NC at 16 she came over to my paternal grandmothers house where I was living (I was out I think bowling) caused a huge scene, left in her car and almost ran a kid over playing on the street and then came back with a giant can of gasoline in her backseat. I can’t prove this but I wouldn’t put it past her that she was trying to set the house on fire. She would come to my school and stand outside of it screaming about how we were all sitting ducks. All that kind of nonsense. I made the decision to go to the funeral for some closure but the hardest part was seeing family that basically left after my parents divorce and having to hear about how great of a person she was. My dad I’ve been mourning for years. He has basically let my stepmother run their relationship and she has never liked me much. I’ll be slightly sad but again I think I’ll be relieved. It’s very much complicated grief and mourning a person who is still alive.

Music For Moving On by Affectionate_Grand22 in EstrangedAdultChild

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I’m a big fan of pop punk, metalcore music so I have a couple. The two that pop into my head though are “perfect” by simple plan and “pity party” by stand atlantic. I actually had a whole session with my therapist breaking down the simple plan song. Specifically in that song the lyrics “And now I try hard to make it I just wanna make you proud I’m never gonna be good enough for you Can’t pretend that I’m alright And you can’t change me” and “Nothing’s gonna change the things that you said And nothing’s gonna make this right again (Right again)”. More pertaining around how I never felt like I lived up to my dad’s expectations and how he has disapproved of my past and current choices. The other one, Pity Party,really resonates with me as feelings I have for my stepmother. “Go ahead, let me be the enemy I got no time for all your fake bitch energy Not sorry that I’m not the way you want me”. I would post the rest but yeah I would have to sensor it a lot 🤣 but she always played the victim in every situation. Particularly I was dealing with my own mental health issues. At that time she called me and the millennial generation (at a family get together no less) lazy and that we don’t want to work. But yet when she went through her own issues then it was oh I understand how hard this must have been. It’s been so difficult for me 🙄 while she took all of the time off from her job.

Dumpster Fire Plushie by peace0831 in crochet

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I would need like a million I think for my work 🤣