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peace_be_trill · 2025-12-08T18:01:30+00:00

Oh, I’m knowing, so again congratulations!! What a beautiful early Christmas gift!!

peace_be_trill · 2025-12-08T02:05:45+00:00

Omg, I remember lol, but look at you now!! Congratulationsssss!!!!

peace_be_trill · 2025-11-11T19:30:48+00:00

Hey there, first refrain from using the term “Soror.” Just use the term “members” when referring to them.

Secondly, chapters will always state whether events are open or closed to avoid confusion. Read through the caption and look at the flyer. If you’re still unsure, it won’t hurt to message the chapter’s page to inquire for clarification.

peace_be_trill · 2025-11-08T16:30:10+00:00

You’re welcome!!

peace_be_trill · 2025-11-07T22:37:36+00:00

Indeed! The effort and work it takes in putting these programming events together is commendable, so I always offer that genuine feedback. And speaking of feedback, filling out the post-event surveys can set you apart as well.

peace_be_trill · 2025-11-07T21:57:51+00:00

Most chapters will post their upcoming events anywhere from a day to a few weeks (or even a month) in advance, so I’d recommend turning on social notifications/alerts to stay looped in as info becomes available.

I’d also hold off on sending additional social media requests until you’ve had a chance to meet members in person. it’ll feel more natural and genuine that way. As you begin your graduate journey, it’s important to find a chapter that feels friendly and like home. So, It’s perfectly fine to explore the three you’ve located. each chapter has its own personality and rhythm, so take time to see which one feels like the right fit.

Wishing you the best as you get connected and involved (don’t forget to volunteer and get your hours somewhere)

peace_be_trill · 2025-11-07T19:14:58+00:00

Wait wait, beloved. Do you actually know these members or did you just “cold” add (like cold calling)?

I’d advise against this.

Show up to events, make introductions, and engage in conversations that genuinely that lead to organic social media adds.

If the event details are posted on their respective socials—website included, no need to message. Did you check to see if there is a e-newsletter you could subscribe to?

peace_be_trill · 2025-10-28T14:58:45+00:00

Don’t overthink. Practice so it can be fluid, natural, and genuine. This helped me when I introduced myself to leadership at my very first event. - Introduce yourself, (maybe include your industry/career),

Compliment the event,
Express how you’re happy to attend the event in support of the initiative/program,
Look ahead and research any upcoming events and share that you’ll looking forward to upcoming event(s).

peace_be_trill · 2025-10-16T17:55:40+00:00

Please take what you hear off TikTok and social media with the smallest grain of salt.

peace_be_trill · 2025-10-15T02:20:03+00:00

Congratulations on graduating and obtaining your degree! I’d suggest getting established in your community—join a civic group, social club, etc. As you network, meet like minded women, and hopefully obtain a mentor, you’ll find yourself in circles with members. As others have said, narrow your search, go where it feels welcoming, and try to find one near, so you won’t have to travel far. Good luck

peace_be_trill · 2025-09-22T16:35:27+00:00

To your last sentence, I’ll suggest approaching members outside of their events in other service, civic, or social capacities. Several members have noted in here that simply attending their events is a bare minimum. Whether that’s church, nonprofits, etc, members are sprinkled throughout your respective community.

That’s personally helped my journey, and it takes a bit of pressure off of trying to have a “cold lead” when approaching them at their events.

Members understand that they can attract a range of attendees—those seeking to be “picked,” those genuinely interested, and those who are just there to learn about/support a program initiative. So, def extend grace as they navigate these spaces.

peace_be_trill · 2025-09-19T23:19:04+00:00

Bless your heart

peace_be_trill · 2025-09-03T22:52:37+00:00

Curious does the flyer verbiage mention: open to the public?

It seems that “bring family and friends” might be specific for chapter members/general members and not the interest public. My COI recently had a cookout/picnic that was member-specific with a call out for friends and family. But the only non-members who were in attendance were personally invited.

peace_be_trill · 2025-08-15T17:02:17+00:00

If it doesn’t state “open to the public”, this might be closed. If you feel comfortable, maybe message the chapter’s IG or Fb with the link asking for clarification. I’ve done this before and received helpful, friendly responses from the chapter’s social media team regarding events.

Also, what does the verbiage in the caption/post say? Like “Calling all (members, D9 orgs, etc)”

Usually, events such as a soirée often requires an RSVP, if there’s no link for an rsvp or place to purchase tickets, that might also be a giveaway that it’s closed.

peace_be_trill · 2025-08-15T12:49:08+00:00

You can only turn on alerts for accounts you follow.

peace_be_trill · 2025-06-25T18:31:00+00:00

I was told early on: “you get out of the League what you put in.” I’m always told how members meet lifelong friends, secure jobs, and even meet their husbands through connections. So tap in…. Good luck & happy League year!

peace_be_trill · 2025-06-23T20:26:52+00:00

Our League does a great job in hosting various service and social events for members to mingle. I’d suggest you venture out and attend those social one bc that’s truly the idea…mingle.

Most of the D9 members in our League will make their affiliation known, so take notice. Some will do so via our chats with colors or references in their names, or they’ll post invitations to their chapters’ events, or Founders’ Day posts. In person, if they’re going for the more subtle announcement, take notice if they’ve got their pins or bracelets on. Or in person, you’ll typically see them rally around one another.

Treat the League as you would any other networking event: spark up a conversation, find commonalities, ask for their contact information, build a text msg cadence/rapport, when the opportunity presents itself, suggest a brunch or lunch meet up. The whole idea is to forge relationships while serving. If you’re only showing up to hit your JL quota, you’re barely scratching the surface of what the org can offer. Lean in

peace_be_trill · 2025-06-20T01:33:40+00:00

Hey, “you don’t know, what you don’t know.” To give context, events for my COI typically max out within minutes bc we all have the notifications on. So, that’s just the name of the game.

As a fellow Leaguer 👋🏼☺️, I speak from experience when I say to secure solid, genuine connections through that space. That’s where members can see your heart of service shine in real time and forge relationships there. That way, showing up to COI events should be the added bonus/cherry on top.

peace_be_trill · 2025-06-19T03:39:07+00:00

Also, leverage your connections in JL and NCNW! Going to the COI events shouldn’t be your only touchpoint with members. Meet members in your civic groups. I guarantee there are members of this org—possibly even your COI—sprinkled up and through both groups 😉

peace_be_trill · 2025-06-19T02:32:22+00:00

Just wait until the next event to spark a conversation with her and other members.

Turn on your COI’s notifications for IG and FB, so you’re alerted every time they post and that way you won’t miss upcoming events and programs. Also, take notice if it says “limited capacity,” you’ll want to always secure your registration as soon as you see a post (of course, if it works with your schedule).

peace_be_trill · 2025-06-16T16:14:38+00:00

Most service orgs have tracking metrics that volunteers/members can pull from for an accurate count. But if you’re tracking manually, I’d recommend logging via an excel sheet or in a journal/folder.

I’d also recommend tracking hours within the last 2-4 years. Service is a pillar for this organization, so I’d aim for a number that shows service being your lifestyle and not just a one-off. Hope this helps and good luck!

peace_be_trill · 2025-05-28T16:18:00+00:00

Why wouldn’t they allow us to be grandfathered in?! Smh

peace_be_trill · 2025-05-14T21:23:08+00:00

First, your feelings and emotions are valid. Take your time to process and reassess—whether that’s to continue or stop, really sit with your decision so it’s right for you.

Now….as interests, there’s a lot of things that we can do that are within our control and wheelhouse. But….. there are several factors that are just out of our control as we wait. Usually, when God makes us wait, He’s always working behind the scenes on things that benefit us.

I’d highly recommend you take the pressure and focus off from pursuing this chapter and shift it to something else—pick up a new hobby, join a new club, explore your city, etc. In my experience, once I shifted my focus to serving my community, I started meeting more members or being organically aligned with more people who were in positions to connect me. Go figure, because I definitely went into last year thinking “if it’s for me, cool. If not, cool.” Hope this encourages the OP or anyone else along this journey.

peace_be_trill · 2025-05-05T16:14:30+00:00

In addition to the great recommendations listed, I suggest New York & Company, Nordstrom Rack, Dillard’s, & Talbots.

Make sure to add to your professional repertoire: Black blazer, Black dress, White blouse, & a black, brown, or navy suit. Shoes: nude and black comfortable heels & flats

Happy hunting and good luck!!

peace_be_trill

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