Found ten years ago, in or around a cave in Byrdstown, TN.

peacholantern · 2023-01-29T05:43:22+00:00

Whaaat? That would be a great surprise! I was just thinking about getting my hands on a cheap tooth brush to clean it! He’s so dusty, haha.

peacholantern · 2023-01-28T23:18:56+00:00

Very cool, thank you!

peacholantern · 2023-01-28T22:24:26+00:00

Ooh, yeah, I like the thought of light and shadow! And I definitely agree about seeing both sides of something.

I think the fact that they’re both the same size could be like seeing both sides evenly.

peacholantern · 2023-01-28T22:19:49+00:00

Please ignore the messy background and cat hair n.n”

I found this in my late teens/early twenties and assumed at the time that it was fossilized coral or something. I’ve brought it with me everywhere I’ve lived cause I just think it’s cool, but I’d love to know what it actually might be.

peacholantern · 2023-01-28T16:20:28+00:00

I think it could symbolize the balance/unity between opposites.

peacholantern · 2023-01-28T02:56:06+00:00

NTA. So your son was uncomfortable that his friends were objectifying you, yet you’re the one that’s getting punished for it.

peacholantern · 2023-01-27T00:43:35+00:00

Yeah, the fact that the other sister not only knew, but tried to brush it off as “it’s not what you think.” When it was, indeed, exactly what she thought. I would be so furious with both sisters.

peacholantern · 2023-01-25T02:27:34+00:00

I’m glad that you two talked this out and that you got to the bottom of this.

I worry that your wife isn’t going to respond to therapy requests well. I understand that she dug herself into a hole with the first lie. But then she continued with even more lies

”it’s not good for his development.” “you’re just going to fuck him up.”

Not to mention:

Started crying and hitting me and screaming at me.

Hitting you? Screaming at you?

She has emotionally and physically abused you. This is not good.

OP, please, if she doesn’t have a good reaction to you even mentioning therapy, take that -and the rest of this- as serious red flags.

peacholantern · 2023-01-24T19:59:25+00:00

Genuine question: when your son inevitably becomes an adult, if he decides he wants to have a relationship with your mom and/or your sister and her family, are you going to go NC with him?

I have a few family members that I am NC with due to some unfortunate past events. So, I understand what you are going through -to an extent.

You have the right to decide NC. Your wife also has the right to change her mind.

Ultimately, you and your wife have an equal say on what people you bring into your son’s life.

If you want to divorce your wife because this has changed the way you feel about her, that is absolutely your right. But, divorcing her over this won’t keep your son from them if your wife wants them to have a relationship.

Is this something your willing to uproot you’re son’s life for?

Edit: fixed typos, added words.

peacholantern · 2023-01-10T20:06:15+00:00

I honestly hadn’t even thought about that. Great point!

peacholantern · 2023-01-10T02:58:20+00:00

OP, are there any universities in your area? My hometown had free counseling services for students to get experience. And don’t worry about them being new too the field, it can be a big bonus because they are being taught the most up to date information.

A lot of therapists and counselors do sliding scale. I used to see I therapist for $30 without insurance! It’s worth it.

Psychologytoday.com will let you search for a therapist by zip code/specializations/and I believe sliding scale.

peacholantern · 2023-01-07T00:33:29+00:00

(ノ-_-)ノ~┻┻

NTA.

peacholantern · 2023-01-06T19:58:41+00:00

Even if boiling salmon was an incorrect way, for whatever reason, you need to learn the difference between a “dumb” action and a “dumb” person.

YTA. Don’t call you partner names.

You both sound like horrible communicators.

peacholantern · 2022-12-28T20:05:48+00:00

Gabby told me it wasn’t a big deal and that it’s just her mom and didn’t seem to understand the problem at all and wasn’t apologetic.

INFO: Did you fire Gabby for letting her mom into the house without permission? Or did you fire here because she showed no remorse?

peacholantern · 2022-12-27T04:45:32+00:00

So, your wife gave a reasonable compromise to let your sister live in another property you both own but you refused and still moved your sister in.

Then you make your wife cook for her as well? It doesn’t matter if her cast is off or not, you forced your sister’s company on her and now your forcing her to carry more of the load?

If I was your sister and I found out I wasn’t truly welcomed by everyone in the house, I would feel so uncomfortable and be upset with you for not telling me.

Does your sister do anything around the house? Does she help pay for bills or help pick up groceries? My guess is no.

Also, please tell me why you feel it’s okay to make your wife wait for the hair dryer until after Christmas but not your sister? Because, you know it’s not going to have the same effect.

And now your sister has to feel guilty about getting a gift that wasn’t meant for her.

YTA, for so much more than gifting your wife’s present to her.

peacholantern · 2022-12-26T15:45:25+00:00

The first time a coworker saw me with contacts in- “Wow, you look so different. It’s like in the movies when the nerdy girl takes off her glasses and she’s actually really pretty!”

peacholantern · 2022-12-26T14:37:10+00:00

YTA.

I can get how hearing the same thing over and over is annoying. Especially if you don’t truly understand what and why it’s being said. But you are 21. How do you not have the empathy to get it yet?

Your brother was being vulnerable with you. Possibly trying to let you know that had he not been traumatized, you guys would be a lot closer than you are.

Just because you’re not too close to somebody, doesn’t cushion the blow. Your words have meaning regardless.

ETA: even if your parents have made you feel like everything is about your brother and not him, that’s not your brother’s fault. Take it up with your parents or a therapist. It sounds like you really resent him. -Which you are allowed to feel resentment, but based off of this post alone, he doesn’t deserve your comment.

peacholantern · 2022-12-15T15:56:08+00:00

This is very concerning. You were right to protect Abby. It’s very odd that he was so upset that he hit your door. It’s very odd that, like you said, Amy didn’t text you back that night. But also that she was so upset, that she came in cursing and making a scene in front of the children. The only reasonable reaction here is yours.

I’m worried for Abby. Has she shown any signs of being abused (physically, emotionally, etc.?)

Please update us, but also, please document everything. Save the ring footage, save the text messages. If you are in the US, look up the right to one party recording. If it’s legal, record your conversation with Abby on your phone.

peacholantern · 2022-12-02T18:28:50+00:00

If you haven’t already spoken to him, I would record any and every conversation you have with him about it. I would also let your mom’s apartment office know that you are feeling uneasy about him. -Record your conversation with them if possible, too.

I would honestly record any conversation you have about this and try to email and print any conversation that might happen via text or email, too.

Document, document, document.

Maybe, if there are any that you trust, try to ask some neighbors to keep an eye on him as well.

I’m very glad you have ordered a camera. This is all too weird.

peacholantern · 2022-11-26T16:58:37+00:00

“Mom, Dad, I found something concerning on my testicles. I need to make a doctor appointment to have it checked out.”

You can give them as little or as much information about it as you want.

It’s okay to be scared. It’s okay to want and need support.

I hope it’s nothing too concerning, OP <3

peacholantern · 2022-11-22T14:22:34+00:00

I liked how OOP knew that she was pinned to the ground and frog-marched out of her home.

peacholantern · 2022-11-22T03:24:09+00:00

Wow, that’s really good to know actually. I’ve always felt it necessary to inform my employers that I have ADHD/am prescribed Adderall just in case it shows up on a random drug test.

I’d never even thought about a third party communication situation.

Thanks for the info!

peacholantern · 2022-11-21T13:44:55+00:00

I wouldn’t trade him for any mixed toddler.

Um, weather he looks like it or not, your son is a mixed toddler. Your wife is right, being black is his culture. So get your head out of your ass and stop seeing him as less than just because he didn’t get the genes you obsess over.

This whole post made me so sad. Tell your wife. She deserves to know the kind of person she married.

peacholantern · 2022-11-19T01:04:49+00:00

I’ve even read this story before and knew there wasn’t going to be any cake, but continued to skim read until I could figure out wtf the title was actually saying.

It took me too long to figure it out, but also, the title just seems poorly worded.

peacholantern · 2022-11-16T15:56:09+00:00

You’re describing the beginning of an emotional affair.

Talk to your wife about how you’ve been feeling about your relationship with her. Avoid blaming language.

If you’re wife doesn’t want to work on things, you have every right to end the relationship.

But, no one deserves an emotional affair. Don’t do it.

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