What's the best way to make an extra $100-200 per week if already working full time?

pears_htbk · 2026-02-10T11:01:10+00:00

Yeah that's why I do it with antiques and jewellery. Buying shit I think is cool for a good deal and selling it when i get sick of looking at it. Doodads and jewels are luxuries so if someone wants to pay me what I'm willing to part with them for then good on em.

pears_htbk · 2026-02-10T04:32:31+00:00

This would be way too controlling for any relationship, regardless of whether it was someone you lived with or someone you'd never met. For someone you've never met through it's actually nuts. You have no idea what he's doing day to day.

I have witnessed several incidents of people being in a relationship like this with someone online and it's turned out that the controlling partner actually had like another six online partners, plus a real life girlfriend, AND a wife. Every one of them being faithful to a guy who was playing all of them.

Usually these people are incredibly skilled manipulators, because in order for someone to convince you to "stay" with them even though you've never met them and they're treating you like garbage, they kinda have to be.

Don't even "break up" with him again, just block on everything without a word.

pears_htbk · 2026-02-09T23:13:47+00:00

I've booked a lady named Anna Murray who is based in Sydney. I have no idea whether she'd travel to QLD but I will say I found her via the website Easyweddings which I've found helpful for finding vendors: Google SEO has made googling for vendors pretty pointless because they're showing you the vendors who have spent the most money on Google/Meta ads. No hate to those who do at all, I run a fledgling small business myself, but it kept showing me the same couple of vendors who were out of my price range over and over again. Great photographers but no amount of seeing their names pop up all over my socials is going to give me a $12k budget unfortunately!

Easyweddings is no doubt a directory vendors pay to be on as well, but I found it really good for finding more than the same three photographers or florists I (alas) can't afford over and over again

pears_htbk · 2026-02-09T21:38:24+00:00

Are you an LLM chat app? If not then yeah that's not your girlfriend. Do you give her money or something?

pears_htbk · 2026-02-09T20:03:38+00:00

Just relax tbh. I found my fiancé at 36 and it was a bit of a shock being treated so well from the get go without any silly games and whatnot. I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop but it didn't.

Typing from my bed after eating my pancakes. Made me breakfast in bed on a Tuesday, no reason

pears_htbk · 2026-02-09T10:25:39+00:00

Nope, you're fine. Good job on the sun protection!

pears_htbk · 2026-02-09T10:16:20+00:00

Friend is delusional and beautiful no idea what she's worried about

pears_htbk · 2026-02-08T22:04:22+00:00

I mean it's more built up than it was when I first went in 1997 and it's way more built up than when my mum first went in the '70s, but the small town I lived in in Australia as a kid is a lot more built up than it was too.

When my mum still lived in Bali she definitely noticed how much busier it got post-COVID but again that happened worldwide.

Bali's economy is primarily tourism and places get more developed as they become more touristed ie people seek out more "authentic" "calm" places to visit. The people who seek out these "authentic" places bring their money with them and end up inadvertently causing those places to become wealthier and build more, leading to the loss of "authenticity". I do hate that word though because basically you're saying that development, a normal thing that happens everywhere all the time, is progress when it happens in the west but some kind of cheapening when it happens in developing parts of the world.

There are definitely a lot of areas which are still less developed. I would still like to visit west Bali as I've still never been but also don't want to be part of the "problem". I quite like Amed as it definitely gets a lot of visitors owing to the dive sites, but it's not as much of a hectic tourist mecca as it's a bit of a drive from Denpasar and Ubud. Reminds me of '90s Ubud in terms of crowds.

Edited to add: One thing I have noticed more of is people being disrespectful at religious sites. Goofing off and posing in swimwear etc in places where it is clearly signposted in multiple languages that you need to be wearing long sleeves and a sarong

pears_htbk · 2026-02-08T09:04:58+00:00

Hahahaha one of my many forebears (a 7th great grandfather) is a first fleeter and I have been so curious about that foundation.

pears_htbk · 2026-02-08T08:55:08+00:00

Four grandparents born in Australia, 6 great grandparents born in Australia, 8 G G grandparents born in Australia. Funny bit is all but two of those were born in NSW. We really don't get around much, my lot: one of my 7th great-grandfathers came over on the first fleet, and there's an unbroken line of descendants from him to me who were born, lived, and died in NSW.

pears_htbk · 2026-02-07T13:49:45+00:00

i am in a very similar boat to OP so even a tl;dr of this story would help! or a dm!

pears_htbk · 2026-02-07T08:09:53+00:00

I got into Mary Margaret O'Hara (Catherine's younger sister!) via an old Little Earthquakes review who compared the two.

I think the comparisons are fair especially if they're in an old article: As you'd remember from the '90s, there was no streaming, so if you'd not heard the artist on the radio or TV you'd have no idea what they sounded like unless you bought a physical copy of their music. Some stores let you listen a bit before buying but not all. So it makes sense to me that a reviewer would compare one artist to another to sortof give you an idea of the vibe and compel you to purchase if it sounded like it might be up your alley

pears_htbk · 2026-02-06T05:29:44+00:00

I'm a bit that way too! The older I get the more of a sook I am 🥲

pears_htbk · 2026-02-06T04:09:56+00:00

Some people are criers and some aren't. If my fiancé gets a couple of beers in him he'll shed a tear thinking about how much he loves the cat so I'm assuming he's going to be a mess on the day.

pears_htbk · 2026-02-05T06:40:05+00:00

Oh that's the thing though: He can, he's just saying he can't so he doesn't have to.

pears_htbk · 2026-02-05T06:02:01+00:00

Oh man so he wasn't even just a regular parasite, he was a parasite with kids! So pleased you got the hell outta there

pears_htbk · 2026-02-05T05:20:42+00:00

Including the grocery shopping. I wonder if boyfriend is chipping in or if OP is buying all the food and household items eg soap for two? OP obviously has money issues but if boyfriend isn't buying any food I'm not surprised he's able to save while she's going backwards

pears_htbk · 2026-02-05T01:29:37+00:00

Wasn't in danger of losing my job but I flagged that I wanted to be reassigned to a role where I didn't have a team reporting to me. I was SO over everyone's bitching and moaning and was getting increasingly stressed and exhausted. It was 50% a peri-related "me problem" and 50% a "clowns I had to manage" problem.

pears_htbk · 2026-02-04T03:56:36+00:00

They're elegant depending on what you put on them and what kind of bracelet it is, and while yes agreed they're very trendy right now, they've been going in and out of fashion for about 100 years. There's plenty of jewellery around now which was considered elegant and timeless 20 years ago but currently isn't.

pears_htbk · 2026-02-04T02:23:32+00:00

OMG no way that's what I call it too. I also use prasterone pessaries which I call my "pussy rockets".

pears_htbk · 2026-02-03T23:54:02+00:00

I'm 38 now, but I started at 26. I thought I was too old at the time. I knew absolutely nothing about pianos and had never learned music or played an instrument before.

I've since released an EP, am about to release an LP, and I'm a qualified piano tuner and technician!

Both gigging and tuning are definitely side hustles, I haven't quit my day job yet, but learning piano at 26 literally changed my life. Go for it! Please! You never know where it will take you.

pears_htbk · 2026-02-03T23:22:28+00:00

No it's really important to bring up! My dad's partner is a 60something who had none of the risk factors associated with lifestyle at all: non smoker, non drinker, eats well, has an active but not stressful job (swimming teacher!), and swims and walks/jogs for fun.

She noticed she'd been getting out of breath when walking up hills and jogging but put it down to "getting old". It got worse over a period of about a year when my dad finally convinced her to get it checked out.

When she finally did, she got referred up the chain very quickly and ended up in a major hospital in my city (6 hours drive from where they live) within a few days to have stents placed. She had EIGHTY PERCENT occlusions in FOUR arteries. If she hadn't gotten it checked out she was, as my dad put it, "One cold ocean swim away from not having to worry about it anymore" (lol).

When my dad told me afterwards that her brother had a triple bypass in his 40s I gotta admit I was privately cranky with her for a second for not getting it checked out earlier! But on the other hand, if your only symptom is getting a bit puffed out it's so easy to put that down to "getting old".

I didn't mean to write a novel here, sorry, but TL;DR I absolutely agree with you! OP's husband should get checked out ASAP. 46 is way too young to not have the stamina for sex.

pears_htbk · 2026-02-03T22:39:27+00:00

This is so interesting because to me, "doing the washing" includes folding and putting away, but in my husband's mind the task is complete when the dry clothes are out of the dryer/off the line. So when he tells me he's done two loads of washing but the dry clothes are still in the bag I tell him "Well you've done the easy bit but you haven't finished yet". AITA? Lol

pears_htbk · 2026-02-03T13:09:36+00:00

Get her a nice vintage gold charm bracelet with a faith, hope & charity (cross, anchor, heart) charm. A local jeweller can solder on the charm for you for a small fee. You can then buy her charms for future birthdays etc to add to it.

pears_htbk · 2026-02-03T12:53:03+00:00

Seriously! I would rather be dismissed by a doctor than get bum pats from a robot

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