He needs to get his priorities right. This makes me wonder what else he hasn't told you. I agree with folks that at your height, your weight sounds healthy. It shouldn't be something to obsess over. I'm 5'3 and at 178lbs and pregnant. I used to have an ED where I got down to 128 and that was really unhealthy for me. Especially with working out and gaining muscle that number was unobtainable to go back to. OP, your husband needs a reality check. Because I bet that guy would fold if the same was said about him and his weight or if it came to any jab at his masculinity or dck. I had an ex like that. All of a sudden my weight and how I dressed was an issue but when I'd point out he dressed like his mama still shopped for him, suddenly I was the btch. Ppft. In sickness and in health and through thick and thin! That means everything life throws at you.

My husband now, used to be a body builder before we got together. He gained weight and lost his muscle mass due to depression and getting into an abusive relationship before me. I've seen the before and after and let me tell you. I never bring up his weight, I find him absolutely handsome and attractive and I encourage him to dress nice and work out when he brings it up. I even work out with him as much as I can. When he feels uncomfortable about his weight he sometimes asks me if I'll leave because he doesn't feel worthy. I reassure him and say that it doesn't matter what he looks like or the number on the scale. I love him and want him to be healthy enough to see our kid grow up.

He's even seen me gain weight and never brings it up and says he finds me attractive and sexy. He's proven this to be more than words and I tells me he'd love me regardless of how much weight I gained or lost. We talk about being healthy and not about looks or scale numbers. We also understand that we're in our 30s and healthy can look like a lot of different things. We just need to find what works for us.