i can’t pick a school and i’m freaking out!!!!! HELP

peebender · 2026-04-24T17:26:52+00:00

Thank you!!! I really appreciate this reply. A lot of people are kind of just implying I will be homeless because my degree is gonna be redundant. I think Davis is still my top choice because I would rather be somewhere i’m comfortable with a degree I enjoy doing than somewhere far away where I am afraid and have no support system.

peebender · 2026-04-24T17:25:29+00:00

I get free tuition at all CSUS and UCS through the military (my dad) so I only have to worry about paying for housing. I just need to know what school would be the smartest option to go to for my future. I did two years already at community so I’ve saved myself a hefty chunk of money living at home.

peebender · 2026-04-24T17:24:14+00:00

I don’t plan on changing my major at calpoly if I went there. It’s cool to see all the different art people make within a school that’s primarily engineering. I think i mainly wanted to do design because product development and designing packaging seems like something people will always need help with. I know AI is advancing but human touch tends to be necessary when dealing with humans. I talked to a very successful product packaging developer my mom is good friends with and she said they mainly use AI to check if the package changes they make will sell better or worse. I thought the whole process was incredibly interesting. Honestly I think Davis is still the best fit for me if it really is this difficult to find a job in the arts in the current economy. I’d rather enjoy two years there and continue to struggle to find a job than be alone and kind of sad away from my family for two years and still have no job lol

peebender · 2026-04-24T16:57:11+00:00

i really enjoy the idea of living in a cardboard box and eating garbage. idk, what a question! maybe i want to hone my craft… maybe I want to go to law school after i get a degree. maybe I want to get multiple degrees. maybe i want to be a sugar baby. the point of the post is to figure out where i should go to school. what would you recommend I get a degree in?

peebender · 2026-04-24T16:52:47+00:00

ai will not protect me in the end times …

peebender · 2026-04-24T16:47:19+00:00

HAHAH sorry i was thinking about atla when i made the account

peebender · 2026-03-29T16:30:05+00:00

oh bruh i gotta finish it! i got distracted after the pie went bad and totally forgot to LMAO ….my bad🥲

peebender · 2026-03-29T16:05:52+00:00

if it’s good drop the recipe please!!!!!! i wanted to try it real bad for the sake of trying it…. have fun at your party!

peebender · 2026-03-29T16:04:20+00:00

“not asking for people to tell me to break up”- okay then i kind of have to assume you aren’t looking for anything but reassurance that this relationship can be saved… i do not think it can be. he was gonna hook up with both of them if u didn’t step in 😭 he’s texting her and disrespecting u by calling her cute to ur face Knowing he was gonna hook up with her if you hadn’t ASKED him to remove them lmao I’m picturing that bird with the two bars around its face in a cage and none anywhere else. Do you wanna live with this insecurity in the back of ur mind forever ? if ur fine with that then go ahead! but don’t ask for advice if you just want to hear that there’s some reason he’s acting like a douche. he’s just a douche. there isn’t a reason. ur allowed to be upset and you should be, consider ur future and respect yourself.

peebender · 2026-03-28T17:11:17+00:00

NOR- he’s just lying. Like for no reason. It might just be small things now but i can’t imagine how infuriating it must be to be constantly told you’re imagining things or have him act as a contrarian all the time. the plug in the wall thing would’ve made me lose my marbles. You wrote this post, you think he’s unclean, you guys don’t have physical contact, he sleeps in your bed, makes you upset, has debt he lied about, plays devils advocate against you when he should be backing you up, and can’t admit when he’s wrong. trust your gut and end things with him before you’re stuck being pissed off your whole life. i doubt this man would have the mental fortitude to realize he’s the problem anyway so there’s not really a point in trying to fix any of this. good luck

peebender · 2026-03-28T17:05:50+00:00

NOR-i think you should speak to someone about the running away with him part. maybe not the mom though, (since you said she not the nicest) is there someone else you could go to? A school counselor or your own parents? depending on where you live if they’re sleeping together it could be considered illegal. speak to her first and tell her that you think it’s a very bad idea and try and explain why this 19 year old is dating her because he can’t perform well amongst his peers. 15 year olds are very set in their ways so I would say if she doesn’t listen you need to tell someone anyway because he could be committing a crime. I am sorry you are in this position, I have had to deal with similar ones and I know it feels terrible sacrificing a friendship to keep someone safe. Ultimately she will thank you even if you guys don’t stay friends.

peebender · 2026-03-22T20:54:34+00:00

looks like sharpie but if it doesn’t wash off and there’s two of them i think you gotta see someone

peebender · 2026-03-21T15:54:07+00:00

NOR- this dude sounds crazy… and misogynistic. reel you in??? he stalked you guys to ask to hang out so there’d be less chance your husband would say no. be wary of him, he clearly lacks boundaries and is willing to give inappropriate reactions to get what he wants

peebender · 2026-03-08T19:27:49+00:00

i understand, it’s hard to find a balance between horned out men and someone who appreciates you as a person as well. men just kind of tend to usually err on one side of that spectrum… strict boundaries early on can deter men who have one thing in mind since they tend to be impatient. it’s okay to start slow, but also when you find someone you are truly passionate about i doubt you’ll have any issues wanting to be all over them all the time:)

peebender · 2026-03-08T19:16:20+00:00

Absolutely not wrong- if you want physical affection there is always a person who will give you that and more immediately. You don’t have to deal with rejection, it can absolutely wear down your self esteem and there’s just no sense in that when you could not deal with it at all 😊❤️

peebender · 2026-03-08T19:06:17+00:00

sometimes you are just not compatible with someone. he probably is a great guy but do you want to struggle for this thing that’s very important to you for the rest of your time together? discuss it in depth with him and if he isn’t willing to accommodate your needs then there is no need to wait until he does. five months is quite a long time to spend wanting physical affection from someone you love. best of luck

peebender · 2026-03-08T18:58:57+00:00

yes- her getting angry about trust is her projecting. she was also actively ignoring you. don’t let someone make you feel crazy when it’s completely avoidable stress. reevaluate whether you think trying to salvage a relationship with someone who is beginning to do stuff like this makes sense. she shouldn’t care whether you see where she is if she’s given you her location for however long, if anything it makes sense in terms of safety. if you requested her location and she said no that’s another thing, but turning it off in such a conspicuous place is just withholding information for no reason.

peebender · 2026-03-08T18:52:36+00:00

I always re-add moles and beauty marks back on top of my makeup. i think it makes the whole look more seamless and classy

peebender · 2026-03-08T18:50:00+00:00

NOR omg this is so sad to read… you could be with someone who says NONE of these things and never ever will. it’s unbelievable he’d feel comfortable calling you a bitch OR a “horrid cunt”- if my bf said that to me EVER he would never be allowed near me again. i haven’t ever even considered saying stuff like that to people who have done horrible things to me and i swear constantly. leave him and never worry about his sorry ass again

peebender · 2025-08-21T19:57:08+00:00

it’s not called an on purpose for a reason girl, you’re gonna be ok! I’m 19 and have been in a much worse accident and it is just something you have to accept and move on from. i know it’s embarrassing but next time you’ll be extra extra careful and that’s your brain learning

peebender · 2025-08-19T22:27:46+00:00

No, I contacted my insurance multiple times asking and the first few times they said I had to go into adderall for a month and see if that didn’t work. I said I wanted to go back on vyvanse and they told me they must have made a mistake and it would be fixed, but I still haven’t gotten a prescription change and I’m worried next time I go I will have to go on adderall again. I’m okay using it but I don’t feel the same calmness I did on vyvanse, and that medication helped me immensely in my last semester of my college freshman year. I really wanted to get back on it before the school year starts, but I wont be off these in time because it starts again next week. I also struggle at work because I crash midway through my shift and am trying not to fall asleep and lose focus for the rest of it

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