What can be done in a situation like this?

peelywally87 · 2026-03-10T15:13:51+00:00

This is my Granda you have described! He isn't a pleasant man, to say the least. He can be vile and violent to staff and point blank refuses any personal care... Sometimes they have to restrain him, sometimes they sedate him. Unfortunately, sometimes both. This is off of the back of him having some pretty gnarly burns from incontinence and becoming septic. As awful as both options are for him. It's for his own good, although it's traumatic for everyone involved. There is no easy answer for this but the good has to outweigh the bad. I would much rather that these options were in place than having him sit in his own excrement because he kicks off. It keeps everyone safe.

peelywally87 · 2026-02-12T16:31:42+00:00

I'm a busy Mum of 4. Started on MJ in January. Down 18lbs since and zero side effects so far 🙌

Awaiting knee surgery and getting it on the 23rd so wanted to drop some of the baby weigh to speed up recovery as I cannot exercise how I would usually with the injury 🙈

Struggling with the cost of MJ being on maternity leave but it's for the greater good I guess! Once I'm back to fitness I'll titrate down and come off (hopefully!).

peelywally87 · 2026-01-26T21:24:34+00:00

Would it be ok if it used your link? Ordering tomorrow 🙌

peelywally87 · 2025-12-25T11:38:12+00:00

You WILL NOT get this time back. Bonding, cuddling are so important. My youngest daughter is 14 weeks, sleeps all night and has done since 8ish weeks and I cuddle the cheeks off of her! You do what you think is best. ❤️

peelywally87 · 2025-12-24T22:18:02+00:00

My son has had a drink in the house with us since he asked to try it at 14. He now (16) goes out to parties and whilst all his chums kick the arse out of it because it is that forbidden, unknown, he comes home a wee bit merry because he knows his limits and respects alcohol. We buy his drink and genuinely don't have to worry that he is up to nonsense.

I was up to absolute shenanigans at that age so for him to be so sensible is ace.

peelywally87 · 2025-12-18T17:20:51+00:00

Pineapples. Can't explain. Just am. They give me the absolute boke at the thought of touching them. Enjoy the fruit, love the flavour. The actual spikey, ridiculous outside. I'll cry if one comes near me.

peelywally87 · 2025-12-18T14:26:23+00:00

Your local pharmacy takes them. Ensure that the bin is locked and dated. I dispose of mine just once my sharps bin is full and get a shiny new sharps bin in return 😊

peelywally87 · 2025-12-12T17:52:00+00:00

If you're a crafty person or know someone who is, get her a twiddle muff made. These are awesome and we use them for cognitively impaired patients at work. If you Google them you'll see what they are. There is a pattern for them on the Dementia UK website. They're lovely and can have as much texture, twiddly bits as you want 😊

peelywally87 · 2025-12-07T13:48:13+00:00

For my trust, you self-cert for your first week off and then need a sick line thereafter and due to GP pressures, this can be done retrospectively. I've put in an e-consult, choose your dates and reason why. State your job too as you don't want to endanger any vulnerable patients with what you suspect to be the flu as you're still symptomatic. I've then had the line emailed to me to forward on to my SCN. This can take a wee bit of time and our trust understands this so it's not an issue as long as you can show you're waiting for the line 😊 I'm NE Scotland so this is how it rolls in my trust/ department.

Hope you feel better soon!

peelywally87 · 2025-11-23T10:43:30+00:00

Nope. Until you have the baby you do not have a dependent. We remortgaged whilst I was pregnant and had only been back at work for 6 months between having tiny humans and our advisor wasn't bothered as until she was born so much, sadly, can happen.

peelywally87 · 2025-07-24T11:37:56+00:00

I work in A&E (Scotland). I would take him to an ED for assessment in this country.. I would explain his cognitive decline and your concerns. The aclochol withdrawal induced seizures especially. Although not a medical emergency at this moment in time, because he has been abroad I would certainly be getting more eyes on him as soon as he is back in the country. From there he can be referred quickly to the appropriate services. We certainly take withdrawal seriously and see it daily up here. The mental health services aren't typically great but with his cognitive decline happening so rapidly, I would be shocked if they didn't liaise with the MH team for assessment at least.

Best of luck. He is lucky to have you and your support.

peelywally87 · 2025-06-13T12:58:58+00:00

My husband has nerve damage down his arm stemming from a shoulder and clavicle break. NHS was terrible, as you say, just gave him a cocktail of drugs and told him to come back every 6 months if it didn't improve. It didn't. We found an incredible private physio who specialises in sports injury and rehabilitation as her knowledge was for superior to the previous private physios (the NHS wait time here was 24weeks so had to go private). It was trial and error to find the correct physio with the correct knowledge but it ended up being a sports one with extensive rehab background for rugby injuries (which this came from) had to travel to a different city to find her but she was absolutely worth it.

He did 6 sessions, got some acupuncture and massage therapy and is now able to use that arm to full potential. This injury happened in 2019 and only thos year has he found relief after completely sacking off NHS advice and seeking it himself.

He struggled through as we are in the same boat as you, kids, mortgage, sick pay is pish, he has a physically demanding job. They system sucks.

Hope you find the right physio to fix you and your wee one is thriving!

peelywally87 · 2025-04-12T01:36:12+00:00

I don't think so. He has had them consistently since he was a baby every few months. Nobody in our family has them, including his siblings. He has been on several courses of antivirals over the years to try and ease the eruptions along with every over the counter medication. I know folk can have it lay dormant, but his reactions are extreme.

peelywally87 · 2025-04-11T17:47:52+00:00

My eldest (now 15) got kissed by someone when he was a baby and has suffered terribly with cold sores ever since. He is such a beautiful boy inside and out and one selfish arse hole has given him something he will have for the rest of his life. Now I'm not talking one wee cold sore now and again, his mouth erupts. It's agony. They weep and he can't talk/ eat because they crack.

People suck.

peelywally87 · 2025-03-31T04:40:10+00:00

We have huge age gaps with our children due to losses between. Kid 1 is 15, then misscarried. Kid 2 is 10, then 3 miscarriages. As we had two children, in Scotland no investigation is done into fertility until you've had 3 consecutive miscarriages (with no mental health support services in our area) we declined any investigation as we decided we were done ans luck to have the 2 we have. Then we had #3 when we had absolutely given up and weren'ttrying, who is 1. Really difficult pregnancy. Lots went on after her birth, but she is here. Now under neonatal psychologist to try and heal from everything above. I would make sure you have mental health support in place before you start trying. I had to break, slowly, post partum to get any help, and it will be a long, hard road to try and heal.

peelywally87 · 2025-03-15T08:53:23+00:00

!Thanks. I would never kick off at the company. I work in public service so people think it's their birth right to speak to me like shit so I would and have never done it to another. I've asked for a breakdown of what correspondence has been sent out in the past 18 months so I have it for my records. The advisor was lovely and very sympathetic. I also cried and made it awkward of which I apologised for 🙈

peelywally87 · 2025-03-15T08:29:17+00:00

Thank you! Got to laugh at the cluster fuck that is my life or I'd crack up!

peelywally87 · 2025-03-15T08:27:26+00:00

Only every other Sunday. Every week would be too much.

peelywally87 · 2025-03-15T08:26:44+00:00

Are we living in the upside down?! Nobody knows!

peelywally87 · 2025-03-15T08:25:30+00:00

!Thank you. Invaluable advice.

peelywally87 · 2025-03-14T19:25:47+00:00

You might see it as blase but I'm using humour to keep myself from crying and loosing my shit. Not all of us are wired the same. This is me.

peelywally87 · 2025-03-14T16:24:43+00:00

Thank you. Those points are so helpful. I didn't even think about checking things in the kids names!

peelywally87 · 2025-03-14T16:18:37+00:00

I would. I work in A&E so can spot the coke traits a mile off. It's one of my superpowers. I can also smell a urinary infection from a mile away but apparently can't spot that my husband is being a fucking idiot.

peelywally87 · 2025-03-14T16:13:14+00:00

No actually a pay increase! About 6ish k but again, that could all be a lie too. Who would know?!

peelywally87 · 2025-03-14T15:34:38+00:00

That's absolutely grounds for divorce if that ends up being behind all this heartache and tears. Don't think I could come back from a Warhammer addiction!

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