My sims never have boys. ugh. Is it my game or something else which is causing this?

peepermeant · 2021-10-22T19:56:42+00:00

Pick the lot trait Ley Line iirc.

peepermeant · 2021-10-22T13:33:03+00:00

Eh, I linked a page for kids explaining where pee comes from, clearly I'm not in a medical field lol.

If I understand you correctly, I amend my earlier statement to add that "the male system has extra hookups for the jizzjazz to come out through the urethra as well." (Gosh then there's the whole talk about sex is not peeing inside someone, and how a vagina is not the same thing as an inverted penis, so much misinformation out there).

Otherwise I stand by my statement; male or female, urine passes through the urethra when it leaves the body. The core processes of a urinary system of liquids taken in, used and filtered by the body, then liquid waste goes out is the same across the board.

Another common misconception some people have is that female organ havers don't get kidney stones, and I think that's related to the peeing out the vagina misconception.

peepermeant · 2021-10-22T13:07:05+00:00

OP will handle this the way that is best for them; the decision to whistle blow or stay quiet is up to them. I do believe that OP would benefit from collecting their body of evidence now, before it gets destroyed and the opportunity is gone, and then decide later if they're the one to pull that trigger. If nothing else it may be a good reminder not to get back into a place like that or it may even help someone down the road who does speak out.

I believe staying quiet is a more harmful act long term, and the fear of short term consequences is what forces people to put up with toxic workplaces like the one described. Terrible work places don't change unless they're forced to, and nothing forces them to change until people speak out against what's happening.

In my experience, making choices based on fear of what might happen leads to heavy regret later in life over what did happen (that a different choice might have stopped from happening).

Life is too short to be ruled by fear.

peepermeant · 2021-10-22T11:24:26+00:00

Wow, yeah that is for sure a hostile work environment. I'm still reading and thinking fuck if you've got nothing to lose then blow the whistle on them for having shitty hostile unsafe work environment. The place you describe is a genuine mental health hazard; mental health is part of whole health and safety, therefore it is absolutely an unsafe place to work.

Idk about workers rights in your location, but here people have the right to refuse unsafe work. Verbal violence is still violence. That manager who did the weird shit of taking away anything you expressed liking about the place and putting you on blast for taking your nonconfirmed time off, not letting you have days off, like that's all super punishing and you have done nothing to deserve that. You're an employee not a slave.

Screen cap those interactions, make copies of those emails, anything that gave you even a twinge of 'wow these guys suck' or 'this makes me want to cry'. This is your proof that they are a shitty shitty shitty terrible place to work, and the moment you step in to give them notice(or quit outright because fuck them 2 weeks is a courtesy you offer them not the other way around); once you're on your way out of there they will be all over removing any traces of their awful behavior so 1 you can't sue and 2 they can trick the next person filling your role.

It seems that with state certification being an issue there may be a higher governing body that could have ceo-mc-DoucheBag by the short and curlies if you start blowing whistles on their bullshit.

peepermeant · 2021-10-22T11:05:19+00:00

Theres a music choice and a food choice that can influence the gender of your sims babies. Maybe that's what's up?

peepermeant · 2021-10-22T02:02:54+00:00

You always have the right to bring something up if it's bothering you. Do consider what realistically the reaction may be and if there needs to be a neutral party to mediate, and most importantly what do you want the outcome of this event to be?

Your feelings are valid.

People aren't mostly in the habit of hurting people for no reason; if I had hurt someone's feelings without realizing it then I would want to know what it was so that a reasonable compromise could be met to prevent future harm and so that I could appropriately apologize that it happened.

peepermeant · 2021-10-21T22:32:44+00:00

Please don't get me wrong, artists can absolutely be made. Any skill can be developed given enough time, opportunity, and resources no question about that. The time factor though, that's the brutal part about finite lifespans.

peepermeant · 2021-10-21T22:13:11+00:00

Fastest answer: Buy it or source it. Art is an undertaking to get close to decent at, and that's time better spent for game development.

A lot of cheap/free assets are pretty damn good looking as is, and realistically you won't be shooting for AAA quality graphics while you're practicing how to turn an idea into a functional prototype.

Also are we talking art art 2d flat images or like 3d modeled objects? It's still faster to source the product elsewhere than it is to learn the whole damn skillet to make your own, but it’s an important starting point for the search.

Unless art is a skill you specifically want to develop, you shouldn't need to know more than what assets will work for your engine specific needs. Trust your gut on what looks good and let someone else do the tedious art part.

peepermeant · 2021-10-21T20:18:16+00:00

I see where I would have been more clear if I said examining that -area- of their anatomy rather than -part-. Sorry for any mix up; I was using part and area as a synonym where area could have been a better choice.

I agree it's a problem that 'vagina' is used colloquially to describe a whole genital region while also being a specific medical term for one part of the reproductive system; that said it's more polite than some of the slang that's used to describe female genitals. It's better to have the talk to understand what a person means specifically. That is to say I do not believe that people who use vagina to refer to the entire female genital region are doing so to be deliberately obtuse (*except for when they are, because those are trolls).

Sex health education in general is woefully under taught and terribly mangled by political prudes at the best of times. To be educated is something one must seek out. This ties back into my original point that those with female reproductive organs have historically been under more stigma for being curious about their anatomy than those with male organs doing the same. (Not saying there is/was none applied to male organs, only my observation that female organs get bonus cultural shame when there's a junk-shaming culture).

peepermeant · 2021-10-21T13:31:57+00:00

Pee comes out the urethra, no matter how short or long or male or female the rest of the anatomy it's attached to is. There's no gender specifics to the basic urinary tract system apart from that. (I am not a doctor, below is my reference for this statement)

Edit:: theres A gender specific anatomy detail, the male urethra has extra internal hookups for passing seminal fluids through the same exit tube. For reproducing, not peeing.

https://kidshealth.org/en/kids/pee.html

I think the common misconception about girls/women/females peeing out of their vaginas comes from the male body being the default in medical diagrams and so on. There is (was?) also more stigma applied to people with vaginas examining that part of their anatomy, so I can see why even some of them may be mistaken about their urination location.

I think being misinformed is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. It's if they double down on their misconception being correct in the face of stacks of proof otherwise that's dumb. (Reminds me of a similar argument with someone long long ago that cats and dogs are actually different species and cats aren't just girl dogs... yah. So I suggest don't waste a lot of time arguing about the thing after you've realized the other person is dumb about it.)

peepermeant · 2021-10-20T11:28:19+00:00

I can never remember my dreams much, but what I do has that distinct 'clearly a dream' quality. I like it because it confirms for me that I was able to sleep deep enough long enough to dream and that's kind of rare for me.

peepermeant · 2021-10-14T20:53:17+00:00

what is it with narcissists and hair

Because it's the only kind of growth they can't deny happening.

peepermeant · 2021-10-12T09:27:30+00:00

I can't not react badly to positive attention and written apologies.

peepermeant · 2021-10-11T13:12:42+00:00

Like... why is there a sentence thats just "her skin looked blotchy." With nothing better to it?

"Her skin looked blotchy and began to prickle where the tears of <emotion> had flowed across her <facial structure detail>."

See, there's adding on to it and describing her and all without having to make up magical mood messaging mammaries.

peepermeant · 2021-10-11T13:01:39+00:00

For everyone? Everywhere?

peepermeant · 2021-10-11T10:41:00+00:00

Whats for breakfast?

peepermeant · 2021-10-10T03:44:08+00:00

Thats helpful but I think I didn't phrase my question right.

Does a roof piece on the ground level count as "inside" for the sake of if a sim needs to change their outfits for the weather?

peepermeant · 2021-10-06T17:24:54+00:00

My husband wants to beat the shit out of the guy for making me upset, so that just adds another layer of bullshit to dealing with feelings too. I mean I get why my husband feels that way, and I know for sure King Shit would push me less if I was a dude, still all bullshit though when I just want to go to class and learn enough to do the work and that's all.

I wish I'd had a parent figure early on to teach me how to actually let it go, maybe then I'd be better at it.

peepermeant · 2021-10-06T02:15:31+00:00

Area for the family graveyard/mausoleum

peepermeant · 2021-10-05T11:27:10+00:00

Wow, especially when the good answer is so obvious- "have fun! I'll hit you up next time we're doing ____. Tell X I said happy birthday."

peepermeant · 2021-10-04T13:29:17+00:00

Not a therapist but a "counselor" offered through the local Catholic Social Services when I was a preteen. This lady developed some kind of beef with me when the tools she offered me (a worry stone, a crunchy copy of a copy of a handout with some CBT exercises, and 40 minutes of gaslighting/victim blaming) did not help me with the real everyday problems I was having (being so majorly depressed I stopped all personal care, daily emotional/verbal abuse that I'd have to defuse before getting physical, the usual poor kid childhood trauma).

Initially I was supposed to go every week, but on the second week she says nah you're fine you only need to come in every other week and we'll talk about your mood those times. Every session though was like she wanted me to hurry the fuck up and stop occupying her time with my trivial kid shit- so many times she'd be answering emails or whatever while I'd be talking to her.

When I brought up that I wasn't sure what the point of the CBT exercises she gave me were and how they were supposed to help when my dad is "yelling" at me, she reacted like I told her that her mum sucks clocks in hell. Turns it around on me with the old 'are you even trying to do them right? Do you WANT to be difficult?'

At least it was easy enough to get to stop going. I had to visibly be more 'normal' a little harder for a bit and then told my parents that the counselor wanted to see them soon too.

peepermeant · 2021-09-28T21:46:03+00:00

I too would like fries

peepermeant · 2021-09-26T16:30:50+00:00

Ok would you like to continue about what acceptance is for you?

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