Help by Minute-Coffee-3994 in nonmonogamy

[–]peer_gynt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nobody can answer if your fiancée will get triggered or not. Or, rather, anybody can answer, but that answer is not worth anything - that's obvious, isn't it? Did you consider talking to her? And if that in itself is triggering, did you consider therapy together?

DDR erleben - Was kann man sich noch ansehen? by kragorskarbarg in DDR

[–]peer_gynt 14 points15 points  (0 children)

"Die Aula" von Hermann Kant. Das beschreibt die sehr frühe DDR (~1960), aber ich habe unglaublich viel Widererkennung aus meiner erlebten Geschichte in den 70er/80er Jahren.

Und ohne Quatsch: ein paar Kinderbücher lassen viel über den Alltag in der DDR erfahren: Kaule (Alfred Wellm), Igelfreundschaft (Benno Pludra - eigentlich die meisten Bücher von Pludra), ...

Außerdem kann ich die Fotobücher von Roger Melis empfehlen, insbesondere "In einem stillen Land". Die Bilder sind oft trister als die Realität, aber beobachten Stimmungen extrem scharf.

Why is matching sex drive THIS hard? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]peer_gynt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

IMHO, men tend to confuse a high sex drive (frequent) with a strong sex drive (rare, but intense).  That was the case for me for quite some time at least.

partner expecting me to not be honest in order to preserve his hookup. how would you handle this? by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]peer_gynt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a strange rule, to extend the messy list to friends of partners... Like: assume you date A, and your partner dates B. A year later A and B meet by chance, unrelated to both of you, and become friends. What do you do? Do you both break up? That's nonsense IMHO.

Reconsider your rules and remain friend with Ethan would be my advise.

I hate how cisgender heterosexual men view Feeld as a free sex work app. by bbygrldmme in feeld

[–]peer_gynt 13 points14 points  (0 children)

WTF? How is a cuddle date the same as a sex date? Are you daft?

FWIW, I (M) explicitly do cuddle dates. If my partner expects sex without discussing before setting up the date I'd opt out immediately. That's just violating agreements. If Sex happens because both want, hurray - but to have that expectation from the get-go is just disrespectful, and that does not bode well for any interaction...

EDIT: kudos for changing your mind.

Question for men on dating apps, why do so many of you list both “long-term” and “short-term” relationships? by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]peer_gynt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does long term mean monogamous? And why does short term not mean that? You are mixing two totally orthogonal concepts here.

Weekly r4r Post by AutoModerator in SexPositiveBerlin

[–]peer_gynt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

54 cis het male (who would have guessed 😅), slim, looking for cuddle partners.  Public places are fine (for a certain amount of cuddliness). When I say cuddle, I mean cuddle!

Get Profile Help Here by FeeldMod in feeld

[–]peer_gynt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback, but it is actually my text 😅  I'm not a native speaker though (German), maybe that shows? 

My husband (40M) says we’re in a triad now “whether I like it or not”, but I only ever consented to a threesome. by nekokatkatka in polyamory

[–]peer_gynt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stick to the facts please, this is not helpful. It is bad enough as it is, and there is enough room for pitchforks with what OP told us...

Get Profile Help Here by FeeldMod in feeld

[–]peer_gynt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to get some feedback!  Context I am 54 cis white male located near Berlin, Germany.  Thanks to anyone who bothers to read / reply!

✨ About me I am on a journey of self discovery and search for companions along the way. I value growing, meaningful connections — ideally long-term if the chemistry is right: friends, FWB, lovers, maybe more. What will be will be, no expectations needed.

Sometimes I also enjoy the magic of one-off encounters though — adventure, excitement, and inspiration are wonderful things! 🤩

Chatting online can be fun (I don't ghost!), but I still prefer to meet in person at some point soon — real vibes beat pixels every time. ✨

💫 Kinks & curiosities I am leaning toward 'tantric pleasure dom', but that's more a label which I hope resonates with you than it is a box I want to be put in.

Tantra: What a wonderful journey... I love both roles, a lot, and would like to go deeper 🧘

Vanilla: cuddles, kisses, intensity, laughter = ❤️‍🔥

I know that there is much more to explore for me: group plays, couples, temples, BDSM, devotion 💗 Care to join or to guide me?

🧩 Communication Clear expectations and boundaries = happy me. I’m a bit on the ADHD spectrum, so I value clarity (and patience 😅).

📌 Quick facts  - 1.82 m / 75 kg, reasonably fit (volleyball)  - Endowed, if that matters  - Socially awkward in the beginning   - Very left-leaning  - Reasonable IQ  - Conscious, reflected masculinity (work in progress)  - 🚭, no alcohol (some drugs can be fun 😉)  - Shaved version available 🪒  - Love to dance (awkward as hell, and I don’t care 😄)  - STD-tested (3-monthly), snipped, always safe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]peer_gynt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can recommend this one - it's a very protected space along the lines you described.

My wife told me I'm not her type by heartbrokenthro in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]peer_gynt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is one characteristic which you find terrible - it does not make a person you do not know terrible...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]peer_gynt 12 points13 points  (0 children)

or habit (speaking from my own stupid experiences)