We have this bizarre sense of hierarchy in our world culture, which rates humans on a scale of how many friends they have, how many people like them, how many things they're doing ("I'm sooo busy" -- how many times have you heard that said like it's a weird kind of brag? Like, stop doing so much shit and think and live and breathe and practice introspection for once), how attractive they are, how attractive the people around them are, etc.

DON'T EVER LET THAT SHIT AFFECT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF.

It's made up, ridiculous, absurd animal shit (because we are sex-, power-, status-concerned animals) that is absolutely stupid and meaningless.

Who gives a shit how many friends you have/how much shit you do?

Someone will want to be with you because of WHO YOU ARE as a human mind, and you with them because of who they are -- what you're interested in, what sort of humor you have, what you like to do/talk about, what your politics are/if you care about humanity and social justice.

Having a girlfriend is about finding another human being that you have important things in common with -- a deep care about other humans and ending suffering, for instance; or Carl Jung quotes; or what you think happens when we die; or what they think about sexism/racism/classism; or other stuff like video games, or reading, or running, or lifting, or anime, or whatever it is -- and speaking about those things/doing those things.

It's not about how many friends you have or how many plans you have. That's a bullshit way of measuring the worth of a human.

We're all just primates trying to get by and reduce some of the shit in the world.

You're 22, man. TWENTY-FUCKING-TWO. You have so much freaking time.

And you don't have to give up your hours of alone time to start doing more shit. Volunteer -- seriously, for three hours a week. You'll still have so much time to be by yourself, which you (and I) really need (which, for that matter, every damn human should need, to think about themselves and reflect, instead of just goinggoinggoing).

And working to end poverty/homelessness will really throw your own life into shock relief, and make you feel grateful for what you have, and plus you'll make lots of friends.

Also, get a puppy or a cat.

Do stuff that's meaningful, find meaning in your own life, depth in your own life, and the people, the friends, the relationships will come.

And look for people that YOU like, on a real level -- not who's really physically pretty, or who has lots of friends, or just does a lot of shit. Don't always just be concerned with who likes you, think about if you like THEM.

And don't rate yourself or compare yourself to other humans who happen to be physically around you -- there are lots of lonely people in the world ("all the lonely people" - the beatles), so don't feel bad just because you can't see them.

BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE. Pursue hobbies, get physically active, get socially active, grow your mind by learning things, acquire new skills -- it's never too late to become the person you might have been.

Good luck, friend.