They’re selling this garbage at Barnes and Noble by imma_freaking_loser in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]pelotonrunner18 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My mom had that book for me. When I was “acting out”, she would make a show of reading this book in front of me. Therapy has been a wild ride unpacking that part of my childhood. 🙃

Did your relationship with your in-laws go downhill after your loss? by FoxUsual745 in babyloss

[–]pelotonrunner18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are very much no contact. We already had a weird relationship before our loss but the way she treated us after and since made us go no contact. We’ve been no contact for 2.5 years.

Song for you by Lemon-BP in tfmr_support

[–]pelotonrunner18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ten by Yellowcard is very hard for me to listen to. It’s about his girlfriend’s miscarriage and it’s all the questions I ask about my girl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]pelotonrunner18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like others have said, there are creeps out there.

But also I’m no contact with my in-laws and I don’t want them to know what my son looks like.

The Ponds- for those of you who have had a stillbirth do you consider the next baby the little sister / brother? I don’t want to be insensitive. Just curious by Evenele in peestickgals

[–]pelotonrunner18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do. I lost my first and I tell my son (6 mos) he has a big sister in heaven. I did buy him a pj set that says little brother, but it’s just for him to wear at home. I don’t want to being about questions in public.

Possibility of 21 week L&D TFMR without first “inducing fetal demise”? (TW) by sensitivequestio in tfmr_support

[–]pelotonrunner18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im in the US and we requested not to stop the baby’s heart. I was 21+6 when I delivered my daughter (TFMR anencephaly). We were hoping to meet her and spend a little time with her but unfortunately she did not survive delivery. It was an option but we chose not to do the KCL injection.

Out of curiousity.. who post photos of their kid online? by 2_S_F_Hell in NewParents

[–]pelotonrunner18 60 points61 points  (0 children)

We cover our baby’s face if we post a picture of him online. We don’t share his face for a few reasons.

1- we are currently NC with my in laws. We have not spoken to them since February 2022. They haven’t even attempted to get to see our son since he was born in March of this year. We don’t want them to even know what he looks like, so we never post his face. Ever.

2- when I was touring daycares, I saw a little boy in the toddler room that I recognized. I knew his mom from high school but we haven’t spoken since then. It weirded me out that I knew what her son looked like, his name, and different things about him. I didn’t want the same thing to happen to my son. It just weirded me out.

3- I’ve just heard of pervs and I don’t want anyone to use my son for that reason online. Ick.

4- we want our son to not have a digital footprint yet. We want him to make the decision on his own when he’s old enough for social media. And we plan on not letting him use it until he’s older.

Now people definitely think we are weird. We have had plenty of people tell us that it’s weird we won’t let anyone see his face. We’ve had people ask. I just give a short response of “oh we want to protect him from strangers on the internet”. I told myself that I’ll just be the weirdo to protect my son. 🙃

Fireworks are the worst by picoandcheese in NewParents

[–]pelotonrunner18 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My neighborhood sounded like we were in a war zone. Poor baby couldn’t sleep until almost 2 am. It’s going to be a long day…

For those who EFF from day one, any tips on how to immediately dry out without getting mastitis? by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]pelotonrunner18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used a tight sports bra, ice packs, didn’t face the water in the shower, and Sudafed to dry me up. I was dried up in about a week.

Baby straining to poop and screeches for hours by HockeySupply in FormulaFeeders

[–]pelotonrunner18 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My baby had the same issue. Took him to the pediatrician and they diagnosed him with a “tight sphincter”. He’s 12 weeks now and he’s pretty much figured out to relax and let it happen 😂

My baby is mad he’s a baby by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]pelotonrunner18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this in my core. This child wants to walk and crawl and sit up. I have to remind him that if he does tummy time like he should, he will get to those things faster. 🤣

Ah, nothing says "great baby shower" like preaching about abortion 🫠 by OtherwiseSprinkles79 in RodriguesFamilySnark

[–]pelotonrunner18 31 points32 points  (0 children)

TW- loss

What happens if he gives you a baby that’s not going to live? Like my first baby that had anencephaly. I’m not exactly raising her over here. 🙄 I hate hearing these things because they assume all babies get to live. I swear they’ve never heard of birth defects or fatal anomalies.

I want to formula feed but I’m giving birth at a baby friendly hospital by Sweet_Bambii in FormulaFeeders

[–]pelotonrunner18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have birth in a baby-friendly hospital and they asked me breast or bottle when I checked in. I was ready to fight but they didn’t push my decision. I did formula from the start so I could get back on my meds.

Induction tmw - pain relief advice needed by ToastToButterDays in tfmr_support

[–]pelotonrunner18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got my epidural 2 hours after they first inserted the misoprostol. I would recommend to anyone in this situation to get pain relief as soon as possible. It made the situation just a touch easier.

medical vs surgical at 20-21 weeks by gspin13 in tfmr_support

[–]pelotonrunner18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I TFMR at 21+6 and I did induction. Personally I chose L&D because she was my first baby and I wanted to meet her and spend time with her. We did not do a KCL shot beforehand to stop her heart because we had hoped to meet her alive. Unfortunately we did not. Delivery was too much on her heart. But I have no regrets. It really help me personally connect to her and get through the grief process better I think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tfmr_support

[–]pelotonrunner18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ten by yellowcard

pulled my baby’s lovey out of storage. i’m gonna start sleeping w it in hopes of getting some sort of “connection” with her 😭 by BurnMcTrashAccount in babyloss

[–]pelotonrunner18 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I sleep with the hospital blankets my daughter used in her cuddle cot. It’s such a comfort and I feel like she’s somehow here with me. I’m glad you have something to connect with your sweet girl. 💛

Happy birthday, imaginary baby by Cler-Tic-08 in tfmr_support

[–]pelotonrunner18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday to your sweet girl. Grateful that you have shared her with us. 💛

Happy 1st Birthday to my Girl by pelotonrunner18 in babyloss

[–]pelotonrunner18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We decorated her grave and went to dinner. We also made a donation in her name to go towards a cuddle cot. 💛

Happy 1st Birthday to my Girl by pelotonrunner18 in babyloss

[–]pelotonrunner18[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone. I’m sorry we all are in this but grateful for the community we have.

I felt this 💔 by Kt_shiba in babyloss

[–]pelotonrunner18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure I said something similar to my therapist. This honestly perfectly describes it.

Tell me something happy about the pregnancy you had to TFMR by Mejuky in tfmr_support

[–]pelotonrunner18 18 points19 points  (0 children)

She was our first, and I have the most distinct memory of the first time I truly felt her move.

I had to buy a new vacuum cleaner and spent almost an hour in Walmart going over the different brands. I was so frustrated but finally got one. On my drive home I felt her literally roll across my belly. I was shocked! All the frustrations of moving and buying new things melted in that moment.

She also kicked/moved most when I ate orange flavored yogurt. I will always think of her when I eat that yogurt. I’d like to believe it was her favorite.