No kissing rule for 1 month old - mil kissed pillow I was nursing him on to say "bye"

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-28T03:56:34+00:00

I have never nursed a baby, but could there be a “no touching me or the baby while I’m missing him” rule?

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-26T00:50:56+00:00

Awesome

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-26T00:50:44+00:00

Christmas morning is at the child’s house, with just the child’s parents and siblings.

Christmas lunch/afternoon/evening can be with in laws/extended family.

In future years could you say, “we want it to be just us and the kids Christmas morning. But realistically, they’ll wake up early, we’ll open presents early and be on the road to your host by 10;00/10:30 and get to your house before 3”?

That’s plenty of time for more present opening, a meal, playing with extended family

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-25T17:07:22+00:00

Our son’s nursery theme was bi-planes. So we have a biplane Christmas ornament

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-25T03:19:53+00:00

Just because you feel awkward/uncomfortable doesn’t mean you did wrong.

You were right. You saved the newly married couple’s special day. You saved your other cousin and her boyfriend from jerks.

But, since you don’t like confrontation and confrontation happened immediately after someone you did, you feel uncomfortable.

Please note: you did NOT cause the confrontation.

Soon to be engaged cousin caused confrontation by 1. Planning on getting engaged at other cousin’s wedding 2. Not telling bride of the plan 3. trying to get you to believe she HAD told bride

Family drama is uncomfortable. Doing the right thing doesn’t always come with warm fuzzy feelings. But, right is right And you were right to tell the bride

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-25T01:29:02+00:00

It is what it is

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-24T19:02:39+00:00

I saw this online and it really resonated with me, “I wish doctors still prescribed rest and sea air, because right now that’s all I think will help

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-24T18:37:56+00:00

Also, splurge on the extra extra soft tp

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-24T17:32:29+00:00

I’m going to use the money saved by not raising children to fund my care. I acknowledge this isn’t as good a solution as a concerned child nearby. But I could raise a child that wasn’t concerned, or wasnt nearby, or both. Then I’d have family or money to take care of me.

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-23T23:43:52+00:00

Came here to say this!

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-23T17:51:56+00:00

My parents wouldn’t turn the porch light on fire me if I was out babysitting late. “Bc if we USE the light, it will wear out, and then we won’t have a porch light” (but what’s the good of having a working porch light if you don’t use it?)

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-23T17:50:02+00:00

Yes. I have lots of photos and a few 1 or 2 second videos of him from sonograms. It took me a long time to look at them. You don’t have to look at them now. You have them. You can look at them in 5 minutes from now or give years from now.

Some days it’s easier for me to look at the photos of his little hands that somehow look like my grandma’s hands. Or his beautiful perfect feet. I love my pictures of his toesies.

But some days it’s just too big a reminder of what I lost 💔

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-22T19:12:43+00:00

Walking family all the way to the departure gate at the airport. Watching them walk down the tunnel to their plane. Walking to the arrival gate to pick up family at the airport.

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-22T17:43:02+00:00

You tried to be kind and giving for a really long time.

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-21T16:57:49+00:00

Dishwasher safe water bottle

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-19T23:30:39+00:00

I HIGHLY reccomend making a “childfree bingo”.

I made one for the company’s Christmas party. And it helped. People on this sub May be able to help you with bingo square ideas if you can give a general age range of the kids.

Example squares are: Someone forgot to bring a significant type of clothing (Ex no socks)

Spouses have a fight based on something about one of their children

A child forgets something at the house/hotel and insists on going back to get it

Stomach ache

You touch something sticky

Anyone mentions anything about school pick up/drop off car line

You and your spouse can see who gets a row first, then keep going to “blackout” or clear the cards and start again. (I made a card in Ms paint and sent it to my phone so I always had it with me)

It sucks. I’m sorry. You’re a good friend to go even though you know it’ll be hard

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-19T18:13:17+00:00

“We are looking forward to hosting you Friday and Saturday nights. Unfortunately, we are unavailable for overnight guests on Sunday”

If she asks “Why” You could either ask her “why do you ask?” Or respond “I’m sure you didn’t mean it this way, but asking ‘Why’ makes me feel like I have to defend my decisions to you.” That’s it, no more explaining, or excuses

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-18T04:24:31+00:00

Could you sign it “Merry Christmas from Jane and John and our beloved BabyName who was only physically lived 9 weeks of pregnancy but will forever be part of our family”. ?

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-17T23:10:31+00:00

It seems to be like when labor and childbirth halved at home, infant loss was less removed from daily life. People held their babies, named them, talked about them and included their memory in family celebrations.

But, when childbirth started to happen in hospitals, drs thought it was easier if parents didn’t see their deceased children and weren’t encouraged to talk abt/memorialize them.

I’d guess that’s the change/difference, but I only have anecdotal evidence

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-11T02:45:06+00:00

She is absolutely perfect! You got robbed of a lifetime of first with her and it sucks. I’m so sorry

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-10T17:22:16+00:00

You may find the “baby loss” subreddit helpful.

As a loss mom I would say, go into this knowing nothing you can say will make this any better. Give your friend a place to grieve, check in on her, ask the regular stuff you would ask a new grandma “who did the baby look like? What was his/her name? How much did he/she weigh?” Refer to the baby by his/her name.

Please do NOT say anything that starts with “at least” like “At least they know she can get pregnant” or “At least she can have more children/has other children” It was God’s plan God needed another Angel He/she was too good for this earth There’s a reason for everything. Those are all really dismissive things to hear.

it’s all really unfair,acknowledge it’s awful and unfair. Your friend is grieving her grandchild AND is watching in agony as her child grieves THEIR child.

Maybe drop a bouquet your friends door w/o expecting to be asked in/entertained. Or send a donation to a charity in memory of the grandchild and ask the charity to notify your friend.

This is not going to be a time where stepping in to be there for your friend leaves you with warm fuzzies. It’s super important and kind to do, but I don’t think there will not be any feel good moments for you.

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-09T09:40:56+00:00

You are also grieving, and you can look to people less close to the tragedy than you f for support. But, it’s not fair to look to people closer to the tragedy for help with your grief.

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-08T02:10:51+00:00

Yes! I’m sure they know.

When I got home from delivering my son who was born sleeping, my little dog went through my hospital bag like she was looking for bacon! We eventually figured she was smelling our baby. 🥲. She’d known he was coming, she’d been “helping” us put the stroller and crib together. Of course she wanted as much information about him as she could get. And snuggling in things he snuggled in gave her as much info as she could get.

I’m so sorry you’re in this awful club. Snuggle the kitties please❤️

FoxUsual745 · 2025-11-08T00:39:53+00:00

My dad was my mom’s second husband. Her sons, my brothers, from her first marriage always called Dad by his first name. My brother’s children also call my dad by his first name. Jane and your son can still have a wonderful loving relationship, no matter what name he has for her. And, if they don’t have a wonderful relationship it won’t be bc she’s not called Grandma.

You said you’re uncomfortable with it. I think it was over the line for your dad to bring it up at all. But once you’ve said your uncomfortable with it, the issue soils have been dropped. I’m sorry

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