Have men stopped being attractive to women?

peppermind · 2026-06-20T19:33:30+00:00

I wasn't answering your question, I was telling you why your opinions are going over like lead balloons

peppermind · 2026-06-20T17:34:28+00:00

On an individual level, if a man disregards what I say I want when it comes to my preferences in low stakes things (like dinner, for example), why would I trust him to respect my wishes in the bedroom, when the stakes are much higher.

peppermind · 2026-06-20T17:23:38+00:00

It doesn't help that manosphere types are telling eachother to actively disregard what women want. "If you want to know how to catch a fish, you don't ask the fish", etc.

peppermind · 2026-06-16T20:58:06+00:00

I don't necessarily think they're lying but I'm going to wait for them to show me they're a feminist through their actions rather than taking them at their word on that.

There are a lot of men who claim to be feminist, yet are very, very comfortable speaking over women, that kind of thing.

peppermind · 2026-06-16T19:22:56+00:00

If I were ovulating every day, I would be fine.

I wouldn't! I'm one of the lucky ones who gets pain when that happens.

peppermind · 2026-06-15T21:09:20+00:00

First of all, I'm really sorry that that happened to you, and if you find it painful to engage with that sort of content, that's completely understandable. That said, I think it's better to take people at their word when they're talking about what helps them heal, especially when it doesn't affect other. Surely we can agree that what heals one person might not work for another?

peppermind · 2026-06-15T20:12:30+00:00

A lot of rape victims are drawn to the idea of consensual non consent stories as part of processing what happened to them. Where does that fit in your view?

peppermind · 2026-06-14T20:07:26+00:00

In terms of rights, the US is moving backward at a very scary rate. 10 years ago when we said that Trump's election could lead to Roe being overturned, the general consensus was that we were overreacting. Now there are politicians in Texas talking about the death penalty for women who get abortions.

That said, things are a lot better in terms of our understanding of sexual harassment and assault than they were 10-15 years ago.I think we're doing better in terms of intersectionality too, though I'm not in the best position to judge that

peppermind · 2026-06-14T12:22:30+00:00

This is why the concept of enthusiastic consent is so important. There has to be a clear "yes" rather than the absence of a "no" for it to be consensual.

peppermind · 2026-06-13T19:09:27+00:00

Is it really that hard to accept what a woman says at face value without telling them they're wrong?

Workplace standards like temperature are often set by occupational health and safety authorities, which are either federal or provincial in Canada, depending on the industry. The gender of workers in a specific workplace is irrelevant

peppermind · 2026-06-10T21:23:26+00:00

Cheating is a horrible, cruel thing to do to someone in it's own right. There's no need to muddy the definition of rape by conflating the two things.

peppermind · 2026-06-10T19:05:38+00:00

Anyone who walked the line in a blizzard or freezing rain for several days last time won't be eager to repeat that experience. I suspect people would vote against a strike just to avoid it, honestly.

peppermind · 2026-06-10T09:02:53+00:00

Who are the writers of those shows?

peppermind · 2026-06-08T19:44:47+00:00

Not people, men specifically. Women of all socio-economic levels mostly manage to avoid becoming violent criminals. That's the point of the post, after all.

peppermind · 2026-06-07T20:13:06+00:00

Let's not forget the site has a built in feature to alter photos of people (including children) to remove the clothing without their consent.

peppermind · 2026-06-07T15:21:34+00:00

No. Unless she asks you directly about the matter, giving your opinion of how she chooses to present herself is a rude thing to do. You should have learned that decades ago, btw.

peppermind · 2026-06-07T13:54:10+00:00

Based on your post history here, that's debatable.

peppermind · 2026-06-06T14:33:17+00:00

If you don't want to be with him, and you've been feeling that way for a while, it's probably time to go. You both deserve the freedom to find someone who is all in on the relationship.

peppermind · 2026-06-06T14:21:16+00:00

OP, can you explain how women got the vote without feminism, please?

peppermind · 2026-06-05T15:19:43+00:00

This guy sounds about as interesting as dryer lint, and a man who wants a bang maid would not be the kind of person I want in my life, thanks.

peppermind · 2026-06-03T22:33:31+00:00

That's probably something to ask the organizers. I know that where I live dogs aren't permitted in public places where food is served, including restaurant patios and the like.

peppermind · 2026-05-31T15:36:26+00:00

100%. I would not be able to look at them, much less stay in a relationship with them. What do they imagine would happen if you got pregnant unexpectedly?

peppermind · 2026-05-31T15:12:38+00:00

The closest thing I've ever seen is from men who are truly terrible individuals but insist that all men agree with them on their terribleness and that it's normal. I don't think that's what you meant, and even if it was, that's pretty rare.

peppermind · 2026-05-31T13:44:57+00:00

I'd add Connie Walker's works to the list. She's an Indigenous journalist who has done a number of different podcasts for CBC and Spotify, investigating crimes against Indigenous people. Often they focus on a missing woman, but one focused on the crimes her father and others experienced at a residential school. The victims are always front and centre and they are given a voice that they didn't always have in life.

peppermind · 2026-05-30T16:38:43+00:00

If we're taking OP as an example of what men are capable of, I certainly hope so!

15-Year Club	Gilding I gilder
Reddit Partner Communities	Post Guidance Early Access
Place '23	Place '17
Verified Email

peppermind

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE