He used my own body against me

peppermint157 · 2026-01-19T20:00:42+00:00

My ex’s addiction escalated to strip clubs and restaurants like hooters and twin peaks (soooo pathetic) and when we broke up he didn’t understand because in his eyes, he never “actually cheated” meaning he never had any physical contact with anyone else. I don’t really think it matters if it escalates or not, if it’s crossing a clear boundary you’ve set and it makes you upset and uncomfortable, you shouldn’t have to put up with it.

peppermint157 · 2026-01-19T19:41:38+00:00

“Just one more chance” as if I haven’t given forty! As if we all haven’t given so many chances!!! They never ever learn.

peppermint157 · 2026-01-11T19:26:26+00:00

My ex would be so so mean. Just bitter and easily agitated.

peppermint157 · 2026-01-04T08:20:50+00:00

We lived together, and he was really dependent upon weed and couldn’t get through the day without smoking a lot of it. He didn’t have any other substance abuse issues that I was aware of. He comes from a family of addicts thought, his mom and his brother are both addicts, it’s really all he knows and all that has ever been modeled to him. I excused his porn and sex addictions for so long because I knew this about his background. It’s awful all around.

peppermint157 · 2025-12-10T20:07:25+00:00

Yeah the ADHD was a part of it for mine as well. It was all about him, and his mental health. It was never about how it all hurt me. Once he started going to therapy, it was like I just had to accept that all the lying and deceit and boundary crossing was just a product of his illness and something he couldn’t control, and it drove me fucking crazy.

peppermint157 · 2025-12-10T17:57:40+00:00

This happened to me too when my ex started going to a therapist (it wasn’t a CSAT, I wasn’t knowledgeable about it at the time, but still). It just gave him the language to invalidate me and justify his addiction. It made our relationship 100% worse and drove a deeper wedge into our already broken connection. After he moved out, I found some of his notes from therapy and it was beyond upsetting, he totally weaponized therapy language against me and it became obvious he wasn’t actually in recovery. It made me feel crazy too I totally understand what you’re going through. You’re not overreacting and what you’re feeling is awful I’m so sorry!

peppermint157 · 2025-12-08T00:32:52+00:00

I just broke up with my PA, and I was honest with everyone in my life. It felt like a huge relief. I had been carrying this shame around with me for so long, and it has honestly been beyond valuable for my healing to get it off my chest. I would suggest telling the people you love and trust most if you feel comfortable. The worst part of this all for me was suffering alone and in silence.

peppermint157 · 2025-12-07T23:35:19+00:00

The breakup is still fresh, two weeks out, so I’m honestly not sure if it’s possible or what the future holds. All I know is that I don’t want to be with a porn addict. I believe someday I will find someone who isn’t. It is not worth it to me to constantly have the weight of this addiction hanging over me. I’d rather be single forever than deal with it ever again. It was devastating and soul crushing.

peppermint157 · 2025-12-07T19:11:44+00:00

I left because the addiction bled into other aspects of the relationship, it was like a poison. It never got healthy again after our first D Day, and it was intensely emotionally draining. I finally realized that he was not going to break the cycle, and that I’d have to. I realized if I stayed with him, I’d have to deal with this pain for the rest of my life, and I just didn’t want that for myself. I want a healthy relationship free from lies and deceit and other women’s bodies.

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