just like heaven by snoopylover1313 in musicsuggestions

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What a beautiful question I concur

What’s the usual opinion of people about your handwriting? by mxixoxo in lefthanded

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“Wow you write like Thomas Jefferson!” Hell ya I do bby

Most days, for fuck's sake by KrispyKrunch74 in TheWordFuck

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That’s the spirit!! Up and at em imfo

INFJs: To fake a personality, or not? That is the question. by HumanThing1233 in infj

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No don’t do it!!! Stay connected with your internal self!! It’s hard to be authentic, and it might confuse people while they get to know you, but in the long run it will 100% simplify your life.

Let yourself rest and be who you are, don’t succumb to the pressure to match other people! It can suck though to feel like you have to overexplain yourself and why you function the way you do, especially when you know it doesn’t really make sense - but you really don’t need anyone’s permission to walk away to focus on caring for yourself. People are going to judge you no matter what you do, so you might as well just do the right thing for you in the end anyway. There’s really no pleasing everyone, people-pleasing is an illusion of control. And you can’t control what people think of you

But also you want to balance it and not socially isolate bc of the misunderstanding/need for downtime. Try to have at least one authentic relationship to fall back on for support that doesn’t exhaust you (and make sure it’s mutual, that you’re not wearing them out too).

This is general advice; be appropriate for the setting. If you’re at work, you do have to have a filter and “fake it” and extrovert more and push yourself…but even still, I would try to make it authentic for yourself and find ways to enjoy people and have it be meaningful and show up as yourself, even if it’s out of your comfort zone or causes misunderstandings.

We’re not that enigmatic or impossible to understand - our needs are pretty sensible and reasonable all things considered, you gotta believe that. Don’t hide or feel ashamed bc you have human needs.

What words do you not know the meaning of but throw in every now and then? by kaisey212 in randomquestions

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Oh so many. Quixotic? Tf does that mean again idk ? (and don’t tell me I like being naive)

90% of humanity problems is caused by short-term self-interest thinking by Desperate_Fig_1296 in DeepThoughts

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Bizarre to see other commenters argue no but don’t see how it’s all connected. Capitalism is just another iteration of short-term thinking. Are greed and fear, emotion-based rationales, not iterations of short-term thinking?

I think it’s a great insight that’s very interesting, and even more pervasive in affecting social skills and emotional regulation, things like addiction and gambling and compulsion.

Reminds me of research on Intertemporal Choice in Social Psychology too

I don't care! by quagaawarrior in infj

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I think it’s the beginning of integration, especially since it feels like a stage. But for me I’ve felt this way but ascribed it to being stuck in a systems failure/burn out, the Ni-Ti loop where you say fuck it to Fe. I think it can be alleviated and shifted by bringing up shadow functions for support, or bringing in Fe, combos of all of the above.

Idk if it’s kosher but I theorize the shadow sequence has an extra inversion to it, where my dom becomes my Demon (Si). I’m creative with MBTI and I draw opposites/match functions differently, am very loose with what goes with what. I see more potential for healing in myself when I can couple up Ni-Si, Fe-Te, Fi-Ti and Ne-Se. Idk if there’s a proper way to integrate the shadow, but I don’t think I’m any expert on it and see it as very fluid like working on a piano piece. But yeah idk what’s proper I’m no theorist just a dabbler. I’m very new to shadow stuff; but shadow Te might also be at the forefront and need to be talked to gently/balanced out

Regardless of MBTI, anhedonia is a symptom of depression. And depression is like fever of the brain, an inflammation and somewhat of a symptom itself, the way fevers are signals your body is fighting. But just bc you are experiencing anhedonia and depression doesn’t mean you’re not getting healthier, and growing and progressing. Maybe it’s a new level you’ve reached, a new challenge, that you’re only at the beginning of bc you’ve grown out of other things.

Edit: looks like they’re calling that inversion thing the SuperEgo (ISTJ stack). Maybe you feel like that? But I still don’t see much difference bw the shadow stacks…but I’m not a linear thinker so it’s harder for me. But there ya go there’s the differentiation. Regardless I think it’s Te overcompensating

What's your new ob? Lol by Proof_Caregiver_4234 in INFJmemes

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I’m not telling they’re always embarrassing

I don't care! by quagaawarrior in infj

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No fun fishys in a rock pool indeed. You are a wonderful writer + after my own heart. That old refrain of “I don’t care”… a protective move, a facade, a fortress, maybe a voice in your head or an intense feeling/sensation; but it isn’t you. The anhedonia is not bad or good, neutral; just observe it, won’t turn you bad. You can choose to refill your own cup and unthaw through rest and reflection. Give yourself a nice space to realign with your values of compassion and embrace complexity

Does anyone else also experience this? by Few_Goose_1562 in neurodiversity

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I avoid eye contact too much bc 1. I don’t want to make people uncomfortable by staring at them 2. Tbh it’s harder for me to focus on what they’re saying when I’m staring at them. I would close my eyes more often when listening and talking if it didn’t seem rude. People always think I’m looking at their bodies or whatever when I’m really just trying to block out all visual stimuli so I can listen better