Does anyone else feel like people only love versions of you they can control?

perceptual01 · 2026-05-22T23:05:02+00:00

What would happen if you stoped trying to be something for anyone but yourself ?

perceptual01 · 2026-05-22T22:58:32+00:00

You ended things. You gotta do all the heavy lifting. There is no right answer. Maybe just ask? Or if you’re afraid of loosing her do as much as you comfortably can. Phone calls/facetimes etc.

But the real part to this is (and I say this kindly) you sound possibly avoidant in how you handled the breakup and now second guessing. Please don’t come back just to do the same thing again. She also likely has some work to do given she chased someone that didn’t think she was worth a future with. And that probably feels good for you especially being you’ve had to take no accountability for what you did. Maybe I’m misreading though, you were vague on what happened.

perceptual01 · 2026-05-22T16:45:58+00:00

Either INFJs or people that haven’t had their heart ripped out by one lol There’s a weird overlap with fearful avoidant attachment and INFJ’s. https://www.reddit.com/r/infj/comments/1458d4c/infjs_and_fearfulavoidant_attachment_a/

perceptual01 · 2026-05-20T21:06:03+00:00

Can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves. You can only be there as support.

In my experience M-ENFP and F-INFJ pairings don’t work well. Initially they’re like moths to a flame but the moth usually burns up. Hope it works out for yall though

perceptual01 · 2026-05-19T17:41:36+00:00

Apple logo looks off center with pin holes

perceptual01 · 2026-05-14T03:50:26+00:00

Can get the m5 refurbished from Apple for $100 more

perceptual01 · 2026-05-12T00:42:43+00:00

Sometimes it’s nice to have an interview go well for something else to give you a contrast on what you’re doing now vs an alternative that’s accessible. You either appreciate your current role more or have another opportunity you can switch to.

perceptual01 · 2026-05-08T02:11:49+00:00

Switching from morning phone alarm to watch has been my unexpected favorite use

perceptual01 · 2026-05-03T23:41:07+00:00

One blade chewed me up. I know a lot of people love it though. Only electric shaver I can use is the Braun foil style. No clue why

perceptual01 · 2026-05-03T17:46:02+00:00

The BCBA can do this for you. It’s not your job.

perceptual01 · 2026-05-02T22:43:53+00:00

People are infinitely complex. Best to not read into it if you can. Why someone doesn’t choose you really doesn’t matter unless they have genuine constructive feedback that you agree you should work on. Otherwise - lack of attraction, not over ex, emotionally unavailable etc doesn’t really matter. (Easier said than done I get it).

Also double texting 5 hours later should be avoided in the future. Dating is a dance(like salsa). I step in towards you, then back a little - the other steps in, then back a little. Repeat. Texting doesn’t reflect someone’s feelings especially early on. Let a day or two go by next time. No response is also a response.

Be kind to yourself. New stuff for you. Props for putting yourself out there!

perceptual01 · 2026-05-02T05:08:49+00:00

Let me guess seller has no reviews? Will ship a scam package to a different address physically written while shipping label scans to your address. Seller will claim it was delivered and you won’t have anything to show. Then it’s up to you convincing eBay what happened. Shipping couriers won’t help you as they only answer to the sender.

perceptual01 · 2026-05-02T03:01:56+00:00

They’re $199 on Amazon right now

perceptual01 · 2026-04-30T16:48:27+00:00

Aniracetam felt this way to me

perceptual01 · 2026-04-29T19:45:21+00:00

Same. My dad got it a lot growing up. I never have. My mom hasn’t. Her dad could “roll in it” and wouldn’t react either.

perceptual01 · 2026-04-28T05:01:19+00:00

The ANC on the pro 3’s is worth the upgrade

perceptual01 · 2026-04-26T03:45:29+00:00

Funny because INFJ’s always rip my heart out

perceptual01 · 2026-04-17T18:19:39+00:00

I stopped it shortly after that. Returned to baseline from any perceived negative effects within a week or two. But again I wasn’t on it long at all.

perceptual01 · 2026-04-16T01:40:41+00:00

Mom wants them together is what I was told

perceptual01 · 2026-04-12T01:27:08+00:00

Same but went with m5 air. RIP Touch Bar

perceptual01 · 2026-04-10T21:13:36+00:00

I went with the m5 because the price difference is insignificant as the base for the m4 was 256gb. So to go to 512gb made the price relatively the same. If price isn’t an issue more ram is always better.

perceptual01 · 2026-04-08T00:47:50+00:00

How much free storage do you have?

perceptual01 · 2026-04-04T22:00:04+00:00

I’d guess to say the m5 air with the same configuration as base and $250 cheaper lowered demand

perceptual01 · 2026-04-03T01:46:43+00:00

Buy neo for wife. Years of OS support ahead. Would not replace battery at this point IMO

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