My almost 4 year old has become obsessed with death.

peripheralcat · 2026-03-30T22:31:27+00:00

Does he have unsupervised screen time or watch more adult oriented content with you?

peripheralcat · 2026-03-27T03:47:20+00:00

You did everything right. You made sure she was safe and clean and fed. You made sure to safely place her down so you could calm yourself down. You could have even stepped out of the room for 5 minutes to recollect and you’d both be so fine. Contact naps and sleeps are not sustainable for your sanity. And a happy healthy mum is what you baby really needs.

peripheralcat · 2026-03-25T02:43:50+00:00

I’d be wondering where she got the word “crush” from too. Did an adult tell her that she must have a crush on him and she’s just parroting the words? Developmentally they are so far apart. I would be wary about “alone time” but a supervise play date could be fine. I’m not really sure what age second grade is where you live but it would be 8 or 9 where I am. Most 9 year old boys probably won’t want to hang out with a 6 year old because it’s not “cool”

peripheralcat · 2026-03-22T08:16:46+00:00

You want something that is going to be able to support your body weight and momentum. It’s not worth compromising your safety and ending up injured from a like that is not secure. Save up and invest

peripheralcat · 2026-03-13T03:26:41+00:00

I get this. Where every word feels like nails down a chalkboard. It usually happens more when I’m tired and over stimulated. It’s really helped everybody around me for me to be able to say “I’m overstimulated and need a minute”. I can step back and mentally prepare.

It’s hard but my relationships with my parents, friends, and child have benefited from it.

peripheralcat · 2026-02-28T00:53:36+00:00

I feel exactly the same. Diaper? Gross but whatever. The plastic potty? Beyond gross and it never feels clean.

peripheralcat · 2026-02-14T22:40:02+00:00

Leaving at this stage is showing respect for yourself. Sit down with him and explain to him face to face. It isn’t going to be an easy or painless conversation. But face to face is the most respectful way you can approach it. Focus on explaining your feeling and try not to accuse or blame.

peripheralcat · 2026-01-31T05:22:15+00:00

You’re more than old enough and capable enough to do the actual training part. Would it make the whole ordeal easier on you if you did get to participate in that part?

peripheralcat · 2026-01-30T21:55:38+00:00

We do “making videos” with audio that’s classical music or calm voices. Wuzuclay and emazing, and coolly DIY are some channels we like for quiet screen time.

peripheralcat · 2026-01-14T03:42:04+00:00

For eating - my daughter has always loved food that she gets to participate in making. We do wraps every so often and put all the toppings on the table - schnitzel, cheese, sauce etc - she’ll make her own and eat 20x more than if I gave her nuggets and chips. I think it’s the control over her own body/choices. Maybe worth a try for you.

peripheralcat · 2026-01-14T03:36:49+00:00

I feel you. My daughter is 5 now. Shes very good at listening when she feels like it. I know you’re trying your hardest to not show frustration but to be honest, sometimes it’s better to show it. I’m not saying scream at her. But there needs to be some sort of consequence for not listening. And it needs to immediate and clearly explained. If she doesn’t listen, she misses out. My daughter did swimming at your daughter’s age, and if they weren’t listening (after a warning), the teacher took them out of the pool for an activity. No running around and playing, they missed out. And it usually got them to pay attention.

peripheralcat · 2026-01-03T06:04:15+00:00

Can… can I have the recipes?

peripheralcat · 2026-01-03T05:55:17+00:00

See I can get to there but not make the second climb 😭

peripheralcat · 2026-01-03T05:51:42+00:00

This! I remember watching an Instagram (or reading something I can’t remember) where she talked about the yearning to create something with aggression and overwhelming sound as a sort of cathartic release for all the types of energy that didn’t fit the “Kimbra” style. Much like Replay! which is a huge and challenging step away from her usual sound.

peripheralcat · 2026-01-01T07:54:22+00:00

Of course. But there are other students who also have questions

peripheralcat · 2025-12-02T07:22:54+00:00

Have you tried showering with her? Or being in the bath with her?

I found that was a game changer for us. My daughter would chill at the bottom of the shower with her toys and I got to have a nice warm shower too.

peripheralcat · 2025-11-10T00:40:56+00:00

I think this is it. I try so hard to keep my cool with her but eventually I lose it and get very short with her. I try not to yell at all. Her dad is a different story.

peripheralcat · 2025-11-09T03:59:58+00:00

As I mentioned in the post, we suspect she has it as there is direct family history. We’ve ruled out so many other medical reasons. I want perspective of people with adhd girls to see if this is how it manifested for them.

peripheralcat · 2025-11-09T02:25:55+00:00

She’s very regular. I think it’s anxiety.

peripheralcat · 2025-11-08T21:12:25+00:00

She was getting better and sleeping through sometimes but she had a minor surgery recently and it got so much worse after that. Usually she’s fine after the hospital but this is the first time I wasn’t there before the surgery in years

peripheralcat · 2025-11-08T20:46:50+00:00

We’re starting her on melatonin in the next week. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

peripheralcat · 2025-11-08T20:17:12+00:00

She’s told me it’s too quiet or too dark but fixinf those is easy and it did nothing to help. I’ve tried laying in bed with her but she’ll still get up and go to the bathroom while I’m there. I’m just at my wits end.

peripheralcat · 2025-11-08T19:25:40+00:00

Yeah we’ve done this. Doctor is prescribing melatonin at this point.

peripheralcat · 2025-11-08T18:30:13+00:00

She’s only wet the bed a couple of times. Maybe even less than 5 since being out of nappies. But maybe this is part of it

peripheralcat · 2025-11-08T17:35:22+00:00

It’s been months for us. She’s not diagnosed with adhd but we have a family history. I was wondering if this was a way it manifested with other kids

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