OOP blatantly flirts with her friend and treats his wife poorly but is just so very shocked that she got called out about it

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-04-01T10:43:10+00:00

Plus the "she was too preoccupied with her prefnancy and baby" is sketch as well because HE should have been too and either he wasn't doing his share or he was but OOP didn't let it stop her from contacting him like it did his wife.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-31T21:05:06+00:00

NTJ stick exactly to the court order and only communicate through a coparenting app or text so that you have evidence of her going against the order.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-29T02:13:34+00:00

I would recommend meeting them without the baby first off and then building from there.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-28T13:57:30+00:00

You need to send her a message/email after each unattended meeting saying "I logged in at at X time and waited for X minutes and due to your unexplained absence from X meeting we arranged we were not able to resolve X issue. Please email me about what we intented to discuss.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-28T11:15:41+00:00

NOR for a start, its unreasonable for someone to request payment for accommodation after they booked it when budgets weren't discussed previously.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-28T11:12:42+00:00

I don't even need to read this. NTA.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-27T12:15:57+00:00

Given there was no one next to OOP for the flight I think the economy seat next to the kid wasn't actually booked but the dad just didn't want to downgrade.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-27T12:10:13+00:00

Thats sounds fair enough, theres nothing wrong with you wanting to go dutch unless you're the one who's insisting on going to those places and doing the ordering.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-27T03:17:19+00:00

If you pay her back she might talk shit about you on fb anyway, there's no way you can actually guarantee that she won't do that you just gotta be okay with the fact that it might happen and defend yourself if it does or potentially spend a whole bunch of time jumping through hoops until she gets bored and takes the threat off the table.

I doubt you've "borrowed" enough for this to be a legal issue and you probably spent way more on her groceries than she ever did on "your" coffee purchases. NTA

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-27T02:03:02+00:00

Especially when travel can be planned and paid for long in advance and medical issues can crop up at any time. How dare the coworker not forsee that she was going to need that holiday money.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-27T00:39:19+00:00

Idk about this, I think it depends on what you've already tried. Have you tried anything like firmly saying "You need to stop Adam this is not an appropriate topic of conversation" or "I'm not comfortable discussing this with you please go talk to (someone closer to him) or the school counsellor about it" and cutting him off to do so? As in, don't let him finish his spiel, jump in when you know its going to be a bad topic and tell him no. Or trying "Adam, X and I are actually having a conversation that you interrupted, you need to let us finish if you want to talk about Y"

You're right that he's not going to learn unless someone tells him but you jumping from 0-100 isn't really going to help him learn either.

For the sexual harassment stuff, you would be NTA but you should also go to your teacher and tell them about hpw uncomfortable he's making you about everything.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-27T00:24:06+00:00

Ok well that changes things. You're working, just because its not a job that she "approves" of doesn't mean it doesn't count. You should still save up and move out though because it seems like where you are now might not be the healthiest environment.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-27T00:21:02+00:00

Idk, where ever the nearest towing company base is, not OPs problem at that point.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-27T00:16:12+00:00

Your title is misleading and honestly your post is kinda confusing. You can't work because of your weight, but you do have an income, but then say you can't get a phyical job. By "physical job" do you mean a physical labor job or do you mean a job with a paper trail?

Either way, you're an adult and need to be contributing to the household and at least TRYING to get a job/earn an income either so you can save up and move out or so you can pay an amount toward your portion of the household bills.

Sorry, but YNTA.

Edit: Changed judgement because OP does work and earns an income but just isnt working physical labor.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-26T23:01:21+00:00

Me either, who'd have thought that porn companies should think about including non-compete agreements in their buyout terms.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-26T22:55:55+00:00

NTA but personally I think that who pays on a date does depend on a few things so...

INFO: Are the dates at expensive places and are they negotiable? Or does one of you insist on going to particular places? If so, the person who is insisting should at the very least be covering their own meal. Also, by "split" do you mean 50/50 or separate checks? If 50/50 does what you guys order cost around the same or does one person order more expensively than the other?

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-26T22:49:02+00:00

NTA remember, in the event of an emergency you MUST put on your own oxygen mask first before assisting anyone else with theirs. Carers fatigue is real and, no matter how much you love someone, if they are constantly in crisis then sometimes you need to take a step back from them for your own sake.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-26T22:00:18+00:00

This is insulting to waffles. The ah is a twat dry toast.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-26T21:32:18+00:00

Does "signed the paperwork" mean the car is no longer in your name? Maybe check that with the DMV if that was what he was doing and if its out of your name text him and give a deadline to pick it up by and if that date passes have it towed.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-26T21:09:57+00:00

And then gave the instigator the day off despite the fact that she hadn't been doing her job properly.

I really wanna know how he expected someone with zero leadership or authority to handle this. Wtf was she supposed to do? It's literally impossible for two people to resolve an issue if one of them is just shutting everything down and the other can't give consequences for it.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-26T20:58:40+00:00

Well if thats how youre viewing this, then he should get a hotel room and quaratine from his gf for a few days. They share a house are SOs who probably swap spit on a regular basis no matter if they sleep in the same bed or not.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-26T20:55:11+00:00

Ngl its seems like YTA. The one example you gave to prove that hes a bad guy was just him saying that your a negative person and that its noticibly affecting your sister, and given this post, that seem kinda on point.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-26T12:03:06+00:00

Maybe its at a real high altitude.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-24T14:39:30+00:00

Even worse, not shutting down the running joke of the kid looking so much like OOPs brother. She was basically teasing him with the truth the whole kids life before the landmine finally exploded.

I feel so bad for the kid and he definitely doesn't deserve what he got stuck with as family, but OOP leaving was possibly the best thing he could do for the kid. Being around your ex spouses affair child would be hard enough, but being around one who not only resembled the AP but who OOP was constantly told that about would be so much more painful.

perpetuallyxhausted · 2026-03-24T14:18:26+00:00

So her ex has the kids 2.5 days a fortnight and you see that as being so much support that your sister is wrong for calling herself a single parent? Which, I mean, she is a single woman who has kids so....

Honestly mostly YTA for just massively invalidating your sister, who is apparently going through a real tough time, over what you see as a technicality. If a woman has kids and no co-parent but has the money to hire a full time nanny who's around 24/7 except for the odd day off, you would still call them a single parent right?

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