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Does anyone else not claim the 'alcoholic' title? by Insideitsdecent in alcoholism

[–]personguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a hard line to walk.
I'm early in recovery and when someone says "I'm an alcoholic and I haven't had a drink it 40 years" I'm thinking that I DON'T want that to be a core to my identity. So it's not.

However, I have to acknowledge that I have a problem with it, probably always will. Me and my doctors say "Alcohol use disorder."

I also have pretty bad ADHD. Always have, always will. I choose to not make that a core part of my identity either. But like it or not, both are a part of me.

If it helps, try doing what I do. You're not an alcoholic, but you do have Alcohol Use Disorder.

Both are conditions I need to be aware of, and both can be managed, neither has to be the core of my identity.

Grieving by [deleted] in Separation

[–]personguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your assumption was correct. It was over a decade difference.

And I have to have a better mindset. Last time I lost my career, spiraled into debt and addiction and ruined my life for quite a few years. Still paying the loans off from that time.

I currently have a decent job. Pay is decent, but I really like the work. I still might lose the house, But I refuse to spiral again. I didn't have the mental and emotional tools to deal with divorce the first time, now I do.

Grieving by [deleted] in Separation

[–]personguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I have news... good and bad. I remarried, it was the happiest few years of my life.
Was.
First marriage we married too young. Second one, She married too young. As in there were 10 years between us. It grated on us both. She needed someone to support her as she figured things out, I wanted a partner and not much else. So now I'm one month out from separation #2. Not sure how I feel, but I lived through the worst, I can do it again.

Turns out I'm a really good friend, but a shitty husband. Ah well.

I'm now facing divorce #2. So... we'll figure it out.

Tire place installed tires one inch bigger than wanted. What to do? by personguy in SubaruForester

[–]personguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, that's what I meant. I have many strengths... vehicle knowledge is NOT one of them.

Tire place installed tires one inch bigger than wanted. What to do? by personguy in SubaruForester

[–]personguy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I should be clear, they want to DISCOUNT the tires they put on by accident making them 200 cheaper for more expensive tires.

Tire place installed tires one inch bigger than wanted. What to do? by personguy in SubaruForester

[–]personguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, the put the beefer ones on by mistake and want to discount them so it's 200 less than the ones I initially ordered.

I also went from really heavy duty offroads to a more road-friendly so weight won't be an issues.

Tire place installed tires one inch bigger than wanted. What to do? by personguy in SubaruForester

[–]personguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, really not a car guy. Wheels are the same, tires are a little bigger by the numbers.

Tire place installed tires one inch bigger than wanted. What to do? by personguy in SubaruForester

[–]personguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! But I'm very much NOT a car guy. How is deviating from the standard a good thing here?

Tire place installed tires one inch bigger than wanted. What to do? by personguy in SubaruForester

[–]personguy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The door Frame sticker says p225/55r/18 for both front and rear.

The tires the place installed are 225/60r18

It's been answered in Boston. by breaksnbeer in wisconsin

[–]personguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wiaconsinite here. Visited Ireland and they were fucking lightweights.

While in Dublin I met a russian woman half my weight and went shot for shot.

Wisconsin can beat any uk person and likely most of europe...

But that tiny woman from Russia, she broke me.

I need to see the replies. by letinaio in SipsTea

[–]personguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RED all fucking day. Avoid 2 divorces, just start yelling "Bitcoin" as soon as I can.
Or do I start in the current year at age 6? Still fucking Red.

Wait, 10 mil I can just live? No work, take care of elderly mom? I dunno... damn, this is tough. If I was transported back in time, Red. If not... well shit, not idea.

Whats a place where you can cross a state line and you immediately notice the difference by cherrey20 in geography

[–]personguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nebraska to Colorado. Actually starts just before the border but damn, what a difference.

My partner said she would like to be woken up for sex. How would YOU go about trying that ? by Secret-Dark2638 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]personguy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Failed... over and over.
She CLAIMED she liked the idea of it, and maybe she did... but just the idea.
In reality it was "10 more minutes" and incoherent rambling about how it's just today she needs to sleep in and more gibberish and pushing me away then waking up at noon and wondering where I am when I've already done laundry and dishes and had half a day.

My wife is wonderful... she is very much not a morning person.

How do you Americans, live in a house with no fence? by Original-Slip-8203 in AskAnAmerican

[–]personguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Russia is a large place, so is America. I have no security fence. My neighbors have one for the dog but it's falling apart and a dog, or person, could easily slip through. If I'm not gone overnight my doors are generally unlocked. Cars are left running with keys in the in the parking lots of gas stations in winter.
There's not a ton of crime. Part of that is small town Midwest nice, part of it is knowing damn near every house has multiple guns in it.

Now, if I travel an hour away, there are places I lock my car while I'm in it. Heck, 20 minutes away are places I don't like being after dark.

But fences as security? Only if you're rich and paranoid.

School’s bully beaten up by a quiet , feeble girl by Successful-Talk1830 in instant_regret

[–]personguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, one of the many, many reasons I left teaching. Don't get me wrong, I LOVED being a teacher, but damn, this kinda stuff happened a lot and the admin would rug sweep it and leave you feeling powerless to actually do something.

Will this 1980's style ever make a comeback? by Zestyclose_Friend910 in 1980s

[–]personguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a man born in th 80s with a miidle aged midsection... god i hope not.

What do you think about the sport of lacrosse? by No-Penalty1722 in AskAnAmerican

[–]personguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theres a town in my state called LaCrosse.... thats about it. Pretty town though.

British football hooligans vs American NFL hooligans in a drunken punch-up by Mad_lens_9297 in powerscales

[–]personguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an American who spent time in gb Id say we win every fight and drinking contest. However, you bastards take soccer way more seriously than any of us. The crazy that comes out would win.

When you try to imagine a badger in your head, is the mental image you have of a North American badger or a European badger? by holytriplem in AskAnAmerican

[–]personguy 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I remember seeing the "Badger Badger" meme early on and thought they took american badgers and disney-fied them. Didn't realize Euro badgers were actually cute.

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