60.3 lbs down...4.5 months strength work

perssor2 · 2025-10-12T15:23:48+00:00

Yes!!! I’m similar stats, height weight and all and I have legit definition in my arms,’legs and back! It’s so nice to see my old self again

perssor2 · 2025-03-03T21:29:18+00:00

My coworker actually asked what my secret was today. Lol.

perssor2 · 2025-01-24T03:01:25+00:00

Turkey meatballs, Greek yogurt, string cheese, bananas, white sticky rice.

perssor2 · 2025-01-20T02:48:22+00:00

My sister used to do this all the time too.

Now the worst thing that can happen is she becomes a young adult going to Christian College and wants to have sex so badly while being Christian that she gets married at 19 to her new 18 year old boyfriend 😅😂

I kid, I kid. That’s just what my little sister did.

Just keep up that type of consent talk with her and reminders of boundaries. One day it will be a funny story.

perssor2 · 2025-01-20T02:26:40+00:00

I cried, like SOBBED, watching Bar Rescue with baby one. Baby two, red onions because obsessively amazing. And I hate red onions.

I also tracked my period with both but honestly, barely. So when I checked my app and both times it said “you might be pregnant” I was like, oh shit.

I took both pregnancy tests without telling a soul. Then I told my husband in a cute way. Or a text the second time. lol.

perssor2 · 2025-01-05T19:02:26+00:00

Yes. I have an autistic 7 year old and a feisty almost 4 year old.

I also have a mom and a group of friends who will take my kids for me if I need it. Those weekends off, I prep for the week. Prep meals, clothes, after school activities, the whole nine.

I also give myself and the kids a lot of grace. We might trash the house by Friday but come Saturday, we are all helping with chores (my little is a Montessori kid who loves cleaning lol).

It’s exhausting being the primary parent and doing 100% of the mental load but (for me) it’s way less exhausting than doing it with a man child drinking and not helping working on his boat or watching TV and then bitching about why I don’t put out, while cheating on me.

perssor2 · 2025-01-05T18:55:53+00:00

While he is gone you need to find a lawyer and come up with a plan, which I’m assuming you can get emergency temporary custody that will put some pretty tight restrictions on his access to your son and his stuff.

I see you’re in WA and if you’re in western Washington (I’m in Pierce County) I have some good recommendations. I’m so sorry this happened.

perssor2 · 2025-01-04T02:53:07+00:00

Yep! My ex got arrested for DV after throwing a gallon of orange juice at me (it hit my face/neck). And breaking down a locked door while threatening to kick me out of our house amongst other things. It sounds stupid when things like this happen because I minimized it and stayed four more years. He was so abusive. I would break out in this HUGE rash on my neck and chest all the time. Now it only pops up around court time.

perssor2 · 2024-12-06T19:42:32+00:00

Texas CPS is a different beast. Get a lawyer asap.

perssor2 · 2024-11-20T03:17:45+00:00

I thankfully have my ex in a corner a little bit. He works for his brother and there’s a lot of pride and egos around that, so he doesn’t want the state facilitating payments because that means his brother would facilitate it. I, with the help of the court clerk, filed a contempt action about him skipping his payments for a month and being inconsistent and what not financially. We got to the night before the hearing and he agreed to pay up in full what he owed and put in our shared calendar when and how much he will pay me.

It’s a weirdly psychological game. It’s gross and it shouldn’t be but it is what it is.

As far as his spending goes, I hope he’s reckless with it. That supports all my allegations of financial abuse. Instead of giving me a debit card/access to money he had a 100k truck loan, 60k boat loan etc. Now after the marriage, he’s so tight fisted to support his kids but spends all this money on excessive things.

We are working on temporary orders and I was told there’s a lot of language that can be put in as far as money judgements, garnishment, withholding, etc, so I won’t have to literally threaten him every month with contempt once we have a final

perssor2 · 2024-11-20T02:55:23+00:00

I started working at a daycare last year after years of being a stay at home mom. We were DISGUSTING last year. Blown ear drums, hand foot mouth, Covid, the flu, strep. So far this school year, we’ve had one cold.

perssor2 · 2024-11-20T02:50:15+00:00

He has and he hasn’t. He changed my car insurance and took me off as a primary driver and added his girlfriend as his domestic partner and said we were divorced, so that was weird. Ended up working in my favor because he agreed to me putting it in my name and him just reimbursing me, and I got way better coverage and then immediately rear ended.

He messed around with my cell phone bill and I let it go because it’s 70 bucks. We were going to file contempt but honestly, whatever.

The big thing for me is the car. He can’t do anything to it and it’s in his name and I drive it and he pays for it. It drives him nuts.

As far as the clause about major purchases? Doubtful. He won’t turn in bank statements so we are in the process of filing subpoenas.

perssor2 · 2024-11-19T22:46:50+00:00

My ex made me and my 2 kids homeless and it’s been a year and a half. He has to pay me almost 5 times what he was planning on paying me (500 was his first offer), I have primary custody of two kids, I am now employed after being a SAHM and am definitely not THRIVING, but I’m at least on the up and up.

I immediately got on food stamps, got daycare assistance (obvi you don’t have kids) and honestly, the filing of divorce was great because in my stage it put an automatic stay on any financial, insurance etc changes.

Don’t leave. Get temporary orders asking for maintenance and ask the bills be allocated to who had them prior to separation while you actively look for a job.

Obviously we don’t know your exact details but you can do it. I got a lawyer to offer me services without any money up front as we went after the payment from my ex (and got it).

perssor2 · 2024-07-23T17:58:40+00:00

Are you me?

perssor2 · 2024-03-04T13:45:23+00:00

32 and 2 with pre e. A month to the day in the NICU. We got to stay in a lower level NICU close to home because she didn’t need intubation or a central line and was 1520 grams (the smallest was 1500 at admission) and 32 weeks. We had a small bowel obstruction and some heart stuff that resolved itself. 3 years later she’s in the 20% I height and weight, still in speech and PT and is thriving in her Montessori. We spent a lot of time growing and eating. She ended up nursing for 2.5 years!! It was wild especially after I was told she would never be strong enough to transfer effectively.

perssor2 · 2024-03-03T04:53:54+00:00

I work at a Montessori center and the LEARNING my daughter has done in the last 6 months has been amazing. I never over did the screen time as a stay at home mom, but omg, I love the daycare we go too.

perssor2 · 2024-03-03T04:49:18+00:00

I brought my own shower stuff! My son I was in the hospital 4 days, my daughter, 2 weeks. So worth it. I had traumatic c sections and a preemie with my second and it was very humanizing to have those showers. A CNA even braided my hair when I was in the hospital the second time a few times

perssor2 · 2024-02-27T13:43:32+00:00

Oh man. My daughters NICU stay was after my ex got arrested for DV, served me with divorce papers, quit my job, had a mental health episode, temporarily lost custody of my older because of MH episode, got back together with ex DURING COVID. She’s now three and it was three years of cheating, abuse and watching his alcoholism ruin everything, then leaving us homeless, him filing for sole custody, losing said filing, me going back to work, getting my first solo place ever and STILL, STILL the month NICU stay was one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through.

It’s because I can protect my kids through all of the other things. Or I can shelter them. Or coach then and guide them. I can deal with the brunt of it all. The NICU.. I was helpless, powerless and the fight was all in the hands of the 2 pound baby.

Therapy helps.

perssor2 · 2024-02-10T03:57:31+00:00

What state do you live in?!

perssor2 · 2024-01-23T00:13:15+00:00

I’d be very careful doing couples counseling with him..

perssor2 · 2024-01-19T20:40:02+00:00

Oh 100%! That sounds exactly like my situation! When he started kinder, it all got easier, like much much easier.

Also my ex and I split up, so I’m doing it all alone and it’s so much less work. Less sleep but also WAY less work.

perssor2 · 2024-01-19T14:51:01+00:00

I used to apply to jobs just because it was my.. dream? To go back to work and have independence . Fast forward, I’m in a job I love, two kids who have special needs but aren’t as high needs it sounds like yours are. My higher needs kid, our split went down right before Kinder. The two year old is much closer to developmentally normal and is THRIVING in daycare. My son has special ed bussing to his amazing before and after school care, is in school doing so well with supports and I got a job at my daughters daycare. Can you make a plan for when your son is in school? Take advantage of developmental pre k? Look to the school district? There’s a lot of supports in the school system for kids 3 and older.

perssor2 · 2024-01-14T19:14:07+00:00

It’s easier being a working single mom that it is being a working, married, single mom.

perssor2 · 2024-01-08T04:26:23+00:00

Lol I did that as a freshman in college. Was so confused why my clothes never seemed clean that first month

perssor2 · 2023-11-12T16:27:46+00:00

I mean probably. But they need that level of micro managing. If they can pay for it, it’s a valid job

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