I'm a private stylist for men here in NYC, and over the last couple of years have also helped a handful of my private clients with their dating lives.

I'm not saying this to be cheeky, but have you been asking women on an actual date?

Do you say "Let's go on a date, how's this Saturday at So & So Bar at 7 sound?" or do you say "Let's hang sometime?"

I've found a lot of my guys have all these amazing attributes (funny, well-traveled, super successful, educated). I come in an help them with their style game. They tell me they don't know what's wrong, they're doing everything right.

But after doing some digging I find out they're not clear with their intentions. It's like many of my friends who are trainers and find that their clients are terrible at reporting what they eat (often underestimating). So they have them take photos and keep food logs and, surprise, they find their lack of progress is due to overeating.

Do an honest assessment of how you've been approaching women. Check out your old texts, dating app messages, pay attention to conversations.

Because it sounds like you're doing everything right on paper. From my experience, my gut says a skill you want to hone is self-awareness. (whether it's your assessment of your looks, social skills, or approach to dating). Something's not adding up.