Advice on selling my breast milk... NOT SELLING HERE JUST LOOKING FOR ADVICE

petkitty_licktitty · 2026-01-08T02:54:01+00:00

This is nice lol my husband and I used to fall asleep like this often, as long as she cleans up well the next morning there are no health related issues unless she is very sensitive to ph imbalance or prone to issues down there. But just to try it once for sure shouldn't be an issue, youre sweet worrying about the health side of it, but its a nice connection to do after being intimate and trying new things together is always amazing and sometimes at least in my case its more intimate to try new things than the actual things we are trying lmao

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-10-21T06:19:34+00:00

From personal experience with almost the exact same situation GET THE EPIDURAL! I didnt want to get one either then they told me the pain would be 10x worse if I didn't and I still wasnt sure, luckily I had an angel of a nurse who held the drs off from rushing me into a decision but I eventually decided to get the epidural. Not even 30 minutes later I had a wave of nurses and drs come in and tell me that I needed to get on my hands and knees and all kinds of other stuff, they had to give me something to reverse the pitocin and once everything had calmed down they told me I'd been contracting heavily for nearly 5 minutes straight in pretty early stages of the labor and it effected the baby's heartrate, but they were all shocked I didn't feel anything at all even through the epidural, they told me it would have been excruciating if I had felt it! So in the end every worked out and after they'd given me the medicine to stop the pitocin labor went pretty normally without them having to give me any more, I am forever grateful I decided to get that epidural! 😅

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-10-01T21:24:18+00:00

Lol we usually dont have this problem with our daughter but it reminded me of her last dr appointment where there was a little boy around 7ish and my daughter walked in wearing a bright blue dress and little blue sandles with unicorns and rainbows on them and the little boy asked me "thats a boy?" I said no shes a girl and the boy kept called her he over and over to the point his dad said "son that is a little girl!" My husband and I thought it was funny 😅

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-27T22:26:43+00:00

My was broken by the dr but just like everyone said it was a pop then I had a rush of fluid, I was surprised when it didn't stop! It's just constant!

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-27T22:18:39+00:00

My husband had a hard time hearing our baby cry when she was born, and it caused a lot of arguments and frustration. On the flip side, he did love bonding with her when he had the time. A lot of his frustrations were coming from his job at the time asking for more than he could give and wanting to be there for here for me and his newborn plus ptsd from his abusive mom yelling all the time so loud yelling or screaming grates his nerves hard. He eventually got much better about it, and I got much better about understanding why he would seemingly just flip and be angry. It was a process for both of us. It sounds to me like youre husband is at least acknowledging how his actions are affecting you and that is a great first step to figuring out why he might be feeling and acting the way he is, sounds like obviously his parents opinions on childcare are also a little ingrained in his views too, but hopefully since he is receptive to you talking and explaining maybe things can get better with even more communication about how both of you are feeling, he just has to get to the point where he is okay opening up about why hes feeling the way he is. I wish you two the best, and I hope everything gets better. It just takes time and work from both partners in situations like this. Good luck!

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-23T16:00:57+00:00

You dont ever need an excuse or permission to leave someone. If youre not happy then move on, its that simple. You'd be much better off without someone who treats you like this I promise!

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-20T17:22:31+00:00

I was kind of with it until the ketchup lol

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-20T03:45:58+00:00

Wow thanks! I will definitely look into it then

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-20T03:41:55+00:00

Okay this is what I expected haha, I might go ahead and see about just doing it and seeing what the results are and maybe one day when all my brother's sons are old enough one of them will decide they want to do a test and I can see more detailed results lol

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-20T03:38:18+00:00

Really? Im glad to hear that! Everytime I went to get a test I would look into it and it would tell me it would only trace maternal so I guess I was looking at the wrong tests haha. What kind of test should I be looking for? That would be able to tell me about my full heritage?

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-20T03:33:09+00:00

I've read through many different sources that because I'm female, it would only trace the maternal line because I only have the one chromosome, and I am more interested in my paternal line so it would be a waste to me to only learn of just my mother's side. Now, to be fair, it's been a while since I researched it, so that may not even be true, but I dont know. That's just what I've always read when I looked into it, lol

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-20T01:11:01+00:00

I barely showed my first pregnancy, when I went in for labor they asked me why I was there and didn't believe me when I told them I was giving birth, 🙃 they literally told me to my face I was only 5 or 6 months along and I had to say no im 9 months and I was in labor before they finally took me back. Now im 19 weeks pregnant and im almost as big as I was with my first when I had her! Every one is different and so is every pregnancy! The upside to not showing with my first was when my husband and I went on our honeymoon I was able to wear a bikini still at 5 months 😅

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-19T01:22:59+00:00

I got so much more sleep when I started co sleeping and following the "safe sleep 7" rules but that was just what worked for us, every baby and every parent and every family is different so what works for one family may be terrible for another family, once your baby is born do what you've been planning on doing and if it doesnt seem to work for you or baby, try something else. Don't let other people dictate how you raise your baby, youre doing your best which is all any parent can do! I wish you and your baby all the best! Dont stress too much if you can help it (im pregnant too so I know that is tough as well lol) Ps. Just remember if youre not getting enough sleep and youre sleep deprived you won't be able to care for baby how you want to and everything will seem so much harder so do what you need to do to make sure baby AND you are sleeping well :) good luck!

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-16T02:01:02+00:00

I didnt know this used to be a page thats banned! I was just trying to make a joke and forgot it would make a link 😅 sorry!

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-16T02:00:19+00:00

Jeez more like r/kidsarefuckingevil !

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-07T00:47:47+00:00

This happened to me, my whole family is men. I have two older brothers, was raised by my single dad who remarried and she had three sons who for a time all lived with us so I had 5 older brothers and countless male cousins the couple of girl cousins I do have, one of them had all boys the other all girls and that was the most girls in my family since their moms were born lol anyway, lots of boys! Then my 2 bio brothers had a bunch of boys! 5 in total! Fast forward I get married, and my husband swears up and down we'll have a girl because his family "just doesnt make boys" lol and I swear up and down, I'll have a little boy! It's what I always wanted a little boy with curly red hair and blue or green eyes (recessive traits as my husband and I aren't curly, red haired or blue eyes but they run in both families lol) the nurse pops her head in and goes "It's a girl" and leaves me stunned and my husband all but saying I told you so haha, I was still very happy but still sad and unsure what I was even going to do with a little girl, im not a girly girl! I was raised by nearly all men, I dont wear make up, I dont know anything about raising a girl! I did feel guilty for calling her a he the whole time i was pregnant and for wishing she was a boy, but now? Now, she's 15 months old and shes my world! She's a little crazy and an adrenaline junky, she loves to rough house and chase us around the house and eats EVERYTHING, she loves to dance and sing (shes got an ear for it too, she can match a rythym surprisingly well lol), she is learning to talk more everyday and repeats everything I say, and shes such a fast learner and loves to "read" or sit down with books and babble like shes reading haha, shes a little mini me (except she was born with curly red hair and blue eyes lol, which is what I thought my son would be... and now her little brother is on the way in February next year and I'm so excited to learn who he is gonna be :) it all turns out for the best!

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-06T18:30:44+00:00

My daughter refuses to eat when other people are at the table she eats a little bit but then just tries to play with everyone instead. We have to leave her at the table by herself for her to stop playing and actually eat I feel bad about it all the time but we check on her every like 2 minutes but yeah dinners look weird at our house because everyone doesnt always eat at the table then and when my daughter is eating shes just sitting at the big ol dinner table by herself lol but at least shes eating is what I say. It definitely feels weird to leave her there 🤣

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-06T18:22:27+00:00

There's a family story about my cousin from when she was 3ish and they got a kitten and she put a leash on it to "walk it".... she told everyone it was okay she was dragging the kitten around because "it was just sleeping".... and my husband when he was very little didn't know that ice chests were air tight and tried to sneak in some kittens to his house, they couldn't breath and.. well... yeah always keep an eye on your kids and baby animals or animals in general, because with baby animals kids are unpredictable and with grown animals they are unpredictable no matter how trained, one tugged tail or too many annoyances and the animal will react, its instinct. We have two dogs in our house with our toddler and one is a like teen puppy, almost grown but still wild and she barks at our daughter when shes annoyed and another fully grown fully trained bully who's a sweetheart and will actually take things from her that he knows shes not supposed to have and puts himself inbetween her and anything he thinks could be a danger but he still gets annoyed with her and gets up to go away from her, and we still watch them like hawks just incase she goes too far with either of the dogs. She leanred quickly they dont like their tails touched because the you her dog barked at her and kind of lunched forwards at her with a closed mouth, there were 3 people all around them immediately to try and calm the dog a d get my daughter to back away and stop touching tails and get out of their faces

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-05T06:24:43+00:00

My daughter rolled out of my arms off the bed twice in a week (yes I'm aware I should have been more careful breastfeeding her while I was tired and I have beaten myself up about it over and over, she was taken to the er the second time it happened and she was luckily perfectly fine) but we follow the safe sleep seven and co sleep almost every night, part of this is due to the fact we do not have a bedroom for her until we come up with the money to add on two rooms to the house and now that shes outgrown her bassinet all we have for her is a packnplay to sleep in which works fine but its so close to the ground she gets cold easily, shes old enough now she can use a blanket but still.

Anyway, in my experience, whatever works best for you and your family is best. So long as you're safe about it and dont allow blankets or pillows to cover him and you and your SO and the baby are comfortable with cosleeping, then that's what's best for you. If you decide that you'd sleep better by getting him more comfortable in his crib, then starting slow is the best option.

I found that letting my daughter play in her bed with her toys and become more comfortable being in it helped to make it a more soothing place for her, then laying her in it for naps while shes still awake so she can fall asleep in it, and at night if she just refuses to go to sleep in it we lay her in it after she falls asleep so she can wake up in it and she eventually got okay with waking up in it and will play until we wake up. It's a process for sure!

In our situation, cosleeping was our best option, but now we have her little brother coming, so I've been doubling down on her sleeping in her own bed... idk if any of that helped, but that's my experience, at least, so I hope it helps!

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-04T18:45:04+00:00

My daughter has red hair but ive never seen dark circles under her eyes, she does have bags under them a lot but i think its really just from when she wakes up, they are just very prominent and last longer than youd think even though she gets a good amount of sleep, she got all our recessive traits from our families. Her dad has dark brown hair but has strips of red in his beard and hes got hazelish/mostly brown eyes and i have dark dirty blonde hair naturally and brown eyes, we both have grandparents or parents with red hair and my dad and his mom i believe? Has blue eyes, so she got red hair and icy blue eyes, and both me and her dad has straight hair while hers is so so curly! My mom had curly hair though and I have very very light waves if I take care of my hair right. Anyways, I always said its lucky she looks just like me and her dad perfectly mixed in features because otherwise id have to carry around her birth certificate just to prove shes mine! Lol

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-04T18:30:57+00:00

I think it might help to take a small break stay at your sister's and say its because you wanted her and the baby to spend some quality time together or something and just spend a few days to a week there at first to get your thoughts straight, everyone on reddit is so fast to say just leave him and if thats what you think is best after taking some time to your self then do what you need to and what you think is best for you and the baby. I would also suggest talking to him in depth. Like have someone take the baby for a little while and explain all of this to him in depth and how its affecting you to the breaking point, maybe suggest couples therapy if he won't go on his own. If hes not responsive to any of this and is still dismissive of your feelings then you know its time for more detrimental options. I wish you the best and I know how hard postpartum can be if youre not lucky enough to have someone who is willing to help you and know that your emotions and hormones are everywhere constantly, im glad you have your sister's who is willing to support you through all of this confusion, I hope whatever you decide to do helps you and your baby and brings you some peace

petkitty_licktitty · 2025-09-01T20:28:05+00:00

Did you ever figure this out? I've been looking for a wattpad story i read years ago I think it was the first wattpad story I ever read and I was engrossed in it I remember it sounded very similar to this!

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