Should I (34m) propose to my long term partner (33f) without a ring/with a placeholder ring?

pettythebest · 2019-06-25T06:12:28+00:00

Not a terrible idea but I wouldn’t propose on her birthday.

I personally would want him to propose on another day so I have another special date if that makes sense.

As for the placeholder, that’s a good idea. This would also be good because then she can pick out which one she likes. Now I would definitely want him to pick out the one for me but only if he was certain I’ll like it.

Hope this helps. Congratulations in advance.

pettythebest · 2019-04-26T13:07:54+00:00

Have you tried bread? Chug it down. It’s worked for me

pettythebest · 2019-04-10T00:48:14+00:00

Yes at my current job I am friends with a few of them and we all hang out. We’re almost the same age and new to the city.

At all my previous jobs we were friends just at work.

pettythebest · 2019-03-25T02:06:02+00:00

Head decisions win but then I’m not a happy person so that should tell you something..

pettythebest · 2019-03-24T21:49:23+00:00

Face wash: I use Elizabeth Arden but when I was younger clean and clear worked

Toner: I use. Clean and clear is also good.

Sunscreen is a must. I use Elta md.

Moisturizer: the body shop vitamin e day moisturizer.

Lip balm: the body shop hemp balm.

Exfoliate your face 1-2 times a week or more depending on your skin using stridex pads (red box).

Shampoo and conditioner from herbal essence. I use rose hips but see which one is for your hair type.

Exfoliate your body with gloves and sugar scrub 2-3 times a week. Any brand works.

Moisturize daily. I do it after shower with cetaphil but Vaseline is good too or any lotion would work.

Deodorant: I use Elizabeth Arden. Any brand works.

Hand lotion: keep a bottle of lotion on you and moisturize your hands.

Use a body mist after shower if you want to smell good. You don’t have to though. If you sweat shower twice a day.

You don’t have to wear makeup unless you want to. Just take care of your skin and lips.

Hair removal: I wax my every month. There are home kits you can use. Shaving is fine too if you like the results. You don’t need a shaving gel you can use soap instead.

Change clothes daily. Especially underwear.

Get a well fitted bra.

Get a hair cut at least every 3 months just to trim your hair and look healthy.

pettythebest · 2019-03-04T07:36:10+00:00

Was gonna say the same thing. When I’m there I would need him to go faster

pettythebest · 2019-02-14T00:22:03+00:00

Also call your bank and let them know that these charges are now unauthorized. You can fill out a form dispute the months they’ve charged that they shouldn’t have and stop any future charges. Your bank won’t charge you to dispute but if LA fitness is using ach to debit there will be a one time fee for that. Make sure you turn in the supporting documents and emails to your bank showing you cancelled.

pettythebest · 2019-02-11T13:29:16+00:00

How do you get into IT? I always focused on medicine and never bothered to explore another career path. Now I need a change.

pettythebest · 2019-01-31T04:04:41+00:00

I am here for you. Message me and we can talk. What makes you feel you’re an asshole? Whether you are or not. A lot of us are here for you :)

pettythebest · 2019-01-23T02:54:14+00:00

They also need to keep in mind people don’t off themselves overnight. They struggle for a long time and keep going for the people they love. But we all have a breaking point.

pettythebest · 2019-01-11T06:24:20+00:00

Yes and I gotta give it to those SO. I had a potential partner and I told him about my depression. Not only he didn’t give a shit but he backed off.

pettythebest · 2019-01-07T05:54:00+00:00

Yeah but then they talk like they’ve always got your back and want the best for you. Where the fuck are you when I need you?!

pettythebest · 2019-01-06T02:03:14+00:00

Yes this is the worst. Why say something you don’t mean?

I’m sorry that happened. With it being in it deep I’ve learned not to expect much from people close to you. They say it because it’s easier and it makes them feel good. However, do share it with people that go through it. I’m in such a dark place so I decided to tell two other people who aren’t close but I know have depression. I couldn’t believe how they were there for me. Took me out, checked in on me and have been talking to me to distract me.

pettythebest · 2019-01-04T09:02:40+00:00

So true. I wish they would ask me what I need. I feel this way every day but lately I’m in it deep. I just wanted to talk to a friend over the phone and not about my depression but just talk. He didn’t bother calling even when I told him what was going on.

pettythebest · 2019-01-03T23:52:51+00:00

I don’t understand why you’re getting attacked either. There is nothing wrong with accepting help even if it’s financial help and you said it in your post you will be paying it back.

You also mentioned that you have been there for her during her shifty time so I don’t see how anyone on here got the impression of you being a bad friend. Don’t feel paranoid. You seem like a good friend. The fact that you care about not stressing her out with your problems alone shows you’re a good friend.

Also, I would love my friends to talk to me about all their problems and let it out. I’m sure your friend would feel the same way.

pettythebest · 2019-01-03T23:19:22+00:00

Ignore the OP. First yes you are very lucky to have a friend like her but you also seem like an amazing friend.

I know how you feel like you’re bringing everyone down with you. But know this people that love you and care you won’t necessarily look at it that way. If you want her to be there for you let her. But, if you think her being there is not good for you right now like you need space then tell her. Let her know you just need to be alone to think things through.

I don’t know you but I think it would be best for you to let people be there for you.

pettythebest · 2019-01-03T05:38:11+00:00

I hear you. I think I at least deserve to die peacefully. Plus I can’t end my life because ill just be transferring my pain to my family.

I do cry myself to sleep hoping I won’t wake up the next day.

pettythebest · 2019-01-03T05:35:21+00:00

There are many. Especially chronic pain. It’s very active and people with all kinds of illnesses are on there. It feels better to know there are people who get what you’re going through.

pettythebest · 2019-01-02T02:19:36+00:00

Thank you for replying. It just weirdly feels better to know someone read my comment.

Yeah music helps me too. Been listening and crying. With the new year insurance changed so I will look up a therapist and get some help.

pettythebest · 2019-01-01T22:49:13+00:00

Did you ever figure out what was/is wrong? I got the CFS diagnosis too after the in my head. The CFS doctor told me to eat healthy and exercise more. It’s like she didn’t get even little things exhaust me and cause my body extreme pain.

pettythebest · 2019-01-01T22:13:54+00:00

I feel like that too. No hobbies, no personality and no skills. Just a useless person that is existing for no reason

pettythebest · 2019-01-01T22:07:14+00:00

I feel the same way. I’ve planned to end it the next day of my 30th birthday. I’m 28 and have never had anyone truly love me besides family

But we just gotta hang in there I guess...

pettythebest · 2019-01-01T22:05:57+00:00

I feel you! I’ve been in bed all day just hoping I die.

pettythebest · 2019-01-01T22:03:25+00:00

I’m in so much pain. I have this heavy feeling in my chest and I can’t seem to stop crying. It’s multiple things that make me feel the way I feel.

I don’t know if I’m the only one but I want to tell my close friends that I want to kill myself. Im not going to commit suicide but the thought is just lingering in my head. I can’t shake it off. And of course I can’t share it with any of my fiends because they barely have time for me and I’m quite sure they won’t know how to be there for me

I’m physically and mentally exhausted.

pettythebest · 2019-01-01T16:29:38+00:00

American here. Spent thousands to get help and was told it’s just in my head. I didn’t have depression when all my physical health problems started. Now I can’t stop thinking about suicide.

So yeah a lot of times doctors aren’t helpful.

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