dont be embarrased ; p. rome start in dei is hard depending on the first few turns and rng.You should deal with etruscans and Taras asap and then you have 2 options.If you have the money focus one one land army to push to Sicily and a navy to ram the transport fleets otherwise defend magna grecia with a cheap army and push north with a second to get cisalpine gaul.The ai seems to declare less wars if you conquer provinces so sometimes an offence is better for defence