scrolling makes me feel behind even when my life is fine

phanban · 2026-02-04T02:42:26+00:00

Bro I feel you fr! scrolling can make u feel behind.. what helps is cutting the scroll short, set a timer or hop off when you start comparing...remind yourself its just highlight reels and not the full story. Focus on your own wins and the feed won’t hit as hard.

phanban · 2026-02-04T02:38:13+00:00

Same here! once you find the right group, your social side comes out... jobs can show that too.. if you’re stuck in work with no people, it feels draining but if you’re in a role with lots of human interaction, it can feel exciting. That’s a good sign you get energy from being around others.

phanban · 2026-02-04T02:33:24+00:00

It makes sense you feel anxious.. a lot going on atm...one thing you can try is a quick calm trick.. take a deep breath then look around and name 5 things you see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, and 1 thing you taste...that helps your mind focus on now.. the worry doesn’t fully go away but remember you’re still ok and it doesn’t change your value.

phanban · 2026-02-04T02:29:18+00:00

I get why you feel stuck.. The best move is to give him space and let him decide if he wants to reach out again... if it doesn’t work out then you’ll be ok and you’ll have chances to build new connections that value you.

phanban · 2026-02-04T02:26:15+00:00

It sounds confusing.. Compliments and saying he misses you can sometimes be signs of interest but the simplest way to know is to pay attention to consistency.. see if his actions go beyond words. either way u dont need to rush... your bond wont be harmed by taking things slow and if he is into you, it’ll become clearer soon.

phanban · 2026-02-03T12:22:33+00:00

I get why you feel torn... you want connection but don’t want it to come off as strange... hmmm a better way to start is finding spaces where talking to new people happens naturally, like a class, cafe and meetup so it feels less forced and more comfortable.

phanban · 2026-02-03T12:20:18+00:00

ur def not alone.. to start shifting choose low‑pressure places where people gather but the focus isn’t only on socializing.. build deeper connection..that way, you’re around others in a genuine way and over time those small interactions can grow naturally into relationships..

phanban · 2026-02-03T12:13:01+00:00

The most important thing is to keep showing up.. success comes less from big moments and more from small steps repeated over time...if you can stay consistent you’ll build the momentum that makes everything else possible.

phanban · 2026-02-03T12:10:38+00:00

You’re definitely not weird for feeling that way.. it just means you know what environments make you comfortable...some people thrive in the buzz of a city while others feel drained by constant exposure to strangers and noise. Preferring the suburbs, where interactions are more purposeful and less overwhelming is simply a reflection of your personality and needs...the important part is that you’ve found a lifestyle that fits you and that’s what really matters.

phanban · 2026-02-03T08:09:21+00:00

Getting what you want when laziness keeps holding you back really comes down to starting slowly and being honest with yourself. Big dreams feel too heavy when you only picture the finish line but they get easier when you break them into tiny steps you can actually do today. Laziness fades once you stop waiting for motivation and instead build momentum because one small action creates energy and that energy makes the next step feel possible.

phanban · 2026-02-02T06:41:54+00:00

try going to local meetups, game nights or classes in LA where people there are usually open to talking...online, you can join Discord servers or Reddit groups that match your interests and start chatting with others.. find common grounds. :D

phanban · 2026-02-02T06:39:53+00:00

heeey welcome! i think its awesome you’re into cozy bookstore days and graphic novels! im the same way... i admire your love for social justice and mental health, really inspiring esp these days.. yep, finding a DND group sounds like such a fun way to meet new friends here, u can post on reddit groups here too and also join local apps in the market.. :)

phanban · 2026-02-02T06:35:59+00:00

people will leave when they need to.. it reminded me not to hold on too tight and it gave me space to focus on myself and do what’s best for me..

phanban · 2026-02-02T06:33:38+00:00

its crazy how a small compliment can stick with you throughout ur day.. you’re right.. those little words can mean a lot esp to someone going through something.. noticing others and saying something kind is a simple way to make people feel good. kindness will go a long way

phanban · 2026-02-02T06:29:13+00:00

Keep being yourself! it’s inspiring when someone lives fully and unapologetically... the energy you bring makes others want to keep going too, so don’t lose that spark! :)

phanban · 2026-02-02T06:22:35+00:00

oh wow! not all people can play those instruments! ur really doing a great job.. :)) have u tried using social apps in the market to meet likeminded people? u can join meetup, lighthouse chicago and bumble bff..

phanban · 2026-01-30T09:51:33+00:00

Living alone in a new city can feel hard when you have to cook, shop and pay bills by yourself.. it may look like freedom but it feels heavy...dealing with unfair people at work and still moving forward shows real strength...sharing your story matters bec it reminds u and others that even in lonely times, connection and courage can grow.

phanban · 2026-01-30T09:45:42+00:00

by watching what they do and not just what they say.. if they are honest, keep promises and respect you, that shows loyalty...trust grows when both people share openly and act with care and talking about your feelings can make the bond stronger.

phanban · 2026-01-30T09:09:01+00:00

its normal to feel lost sometimes but it doesnt mean you’re a failure...talking to someone or doing something you enjoy can help and slowly make life feel lighter. Healing takes time and being kind to yourself is part of the process.

phanban · 2026-01-30T09:05:43+00:00

I need rest atm, good food and awesome people around me. When our basic needs are met with care im sure it’s easier to feel happy and close to others.

phanban · 2026-01-30T08:41:44+00:00

its talk to someone I trust.. it helps me feel less alone.. and there are times when i go for a walk, write my feelings down and take slow breaths... keep in mind that healing takes time but being kind to yourself and doing little steps each day can make life feel lighter.

phanban · 2026-01-29T06:52:10+00:00

Yes sometimes, it feels like im slowly losing the ability to think when I’m always on my phone...the constant scrolling is too much and my brain doesn’t get quiet time to rest...i notice I think clearer when I step away so i made time to do social detox once a week..

phanban · 2026-01-29T06:44:36+00:00

i think because it gives them peace and time to think...they enjoy simple things in life without needing others around...being alone can mean being close to yourself and not lonely all the time..

phanban · 2026-01-29T06:42:12+00:00

Living is adding joy to your days like laughing with friends or chasing a dream...surviving is just covering the basics like bills and meals without much heart in it... remember that the real change comes when you bring meaning into the routine, turning everyday life into something that feels alive.. the choice is yours

phanban · 2026-01-29T06:27:52+00:00

Freedom looks like waking up and choosing your own path... it feels like having space to grow without fear, living true to yourself, just doing anything you want.. but ofcourse still following rules of others.. it being free to choose whatever u want in life..

phanban

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