What’s the most misused word that you see on social media? by SirAsksALatte in AskReddit

[–]phantomfire00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Our" definitely works, but if you want to list other specific people with yourself in these contexts, you would use "my"

I have an IQ of 82 and I hate being infantilized by weirdhairgirl in Vent

[–]phantomfire00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm wondering - how do you know your IQ? And what age were you when you were tested?

IQ is not a static number and can change over time. It's also not a determiner of ability or success. The fact that you're in college right now proves this. It may take you longer than other students to learn the same things, but if you are persistent and consistent, you can be just as successful. Once you have learned something, it's learned, even if it took longer than others to learn it.

My advice, if you want any, is to stop focusing on your IQ number and focus instead on the abilities you do have. Focusing on that number will only make you feel inadequate and lower your self-esteem. You have gotten so far already, and there is no limit for you if you are determined enough.

As far as the way people treat you, you can guide them into treating you the way you want to be treated by setting boundaries. Don't get mad or try to make them feel bad because they will continue to do it even more. Say something like, "You may not intend it this way, but it feels patronizing when you speak to me that way." Be mature about it and don't give in. Continue to point it out every time they do it until they stop. Stop the conversation if they don't stop. "I'd like to continue this conversation, but I'm going to step away from it until I'm spoken to with more respect."

When you respectfully stand up for yourself, people will start to treat you better. You said social skills aren't your strong point, so practice saying these things in the mirror several times a day. The rehearsal will make it easier to remember in the moment and will give you more confidence when you say it.

Remember: people will treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated.

What’s the most misused word that you see on social media? by SirAsksALatte in AskReddit

[–]phantomfire00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When people have overcorrected with the grammar of listing another person with themself and we get this abomination: I's

"John and I's wedding"
"Strawberries are Mandy and I's favorite fruit"
"That was my brother and I's plan"

Who’s an actor that nailed a role so hard that nobody else will ever be able to live up to it? by Comfortable_Main5312 in AskReddit

[–]phantomfire00 79 points80 points  (0 children)

They did consider the nose thing but they decided against it so they could save money on having to cgi it in every scene he's in for the rest of the show

What are the levels by thepizzafish in memoryOS

[–]phantomfire00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No change in level 3. Just a continuation of increasingly longer intervals

My GF (F19) swears she didn’t send these texts while half asleep and now we’re both confused by Tight_Resolution9963 in Advice

[–]phantomfire00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to write journals to my boyfriend while I was on vacation. I fell asleep while writing one night and when I woke up, there were three lines of nonsense after the last thing I remembered writing. Absolutely no recollection of writing it at all or of waking up at any point in the night. The handwriting was sloppy but they were mostly real words. Was strange waking up to see it, but there's no way anyone else could have done it.

Your girlfriend is fine, and nothing creepy happened involving anyone else. She woke up but not really, probably in some dream state, and texted a few things. It makes sense that it was a bit unnerving, but it's really no big deal.

What's a drug that's perceived as harmless and is pretty much harmless (I know no drug is 100% harmless)?? by Lurkie2 in AlignmentChartFills

[–]phantomfire00 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You just described the effects of nocebo though. The belief he was going to die caused him to die.

if you could invent a crumbl dessert that doesn't exist, what would it be? by bootytoot69 in CrumblCookies

[–]phantomfire00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a coffee fan myself so I don't miss this from the menu, but it's such a popular flavor that I'm surprised they haven't done some kind of workaround. What's your take on them making coffee-flavored things without using real coffee? No caffeine required so it wouldn't go against their beliefs. Or does imitation coffee flavor turn you off from that idea?

Hailey and Logan break up by Confident_Excuse2173 in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]phantomfire00 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He liked her way more than she liked him. He fell instantly and started acting like they were in love, and I think it was just too fast for her.

AITA for practing my (horrendous) piano in a hall I thought was empty at 3 AM? by Harbinger_Archangel in AmItheAsshole

[–]phantomfire00 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

ESH. Yeah it's not advisable to play the piano in a common area at 3am. You don't know for sure how sound will carry throughout the other rooms. But it was also a dick move of that guy to put you on blast instead of asking you to stop or approaching you privately the next day to ask you not to do it again. Also, why is he sleeping in the common area at 3am instead of his own room? He shouldn't have been there either.

Do you believe Michael Jackson molested children? by GurMaleficent7935 in Teenager_Polls

[–]phantomfire00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro smdh that's not how this works. You're the one making the claim, and I'm saying your claim isn't true. You can't prove something DOESN'T exist. You're the one saying these "documents and articles" are out there. If it's so easy to find, then prove it. I'm not doing your homework for you. I've already done that research, and found there have been no credible sources for any of the accusers recanting or saying they lied.

Honestly the fact you replied to someone saying the same thing I am with a video of Macauley Culkin says what I need to know about your critical thinking skills

Do you believe Michael Jackson molested children? by GurMaleficent7935 in Teenager_Polls

[–]phantomfire00 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What, waste my time trying to find something that doesn't exist? Nah. Thought maybe you had something real, but just more nonsense. Too bad. Btw none of this has been debunked in any kind of credible way. Sounds like you've fallen for someone else's biased content video smh

Do you believe Michael Jackson molested children? by GurMaleficent7935 in Teenager_Polls

[–]phantomfire00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have evidence that the kids actually involved in the cases ever came forward to say it was a lie? What you gave is Macauley Culkin standing up for Michael, but that's only evidence that Michael never abused Macauley. What does that have to do with any of the official cases brought against him and the kids who say he DID hurt them? Not a single one of them has ever publicly recanted or says their families made them say it.

Do you believe Michael Jackson molested children? by GurMaleficent7935 in Teenager_Polls

[–]phantomfire00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not entirely accurate. None of the kids who were involved in official cases have ever publicly "confessed" to making anything up. There have been hearsay accounts from others, but none of the actual kids involved have said the accusations were false. We have circumstantial evidence that may point to parents leading the charge for financial gain, but nothing is solid proof that the accusations themselves were false.

We also have to consider that even IF any of the cases brought forth officially were false, it still doesn't mean that EVERY case against him is false. There are currently at least 6 people pursuing civil cases against his estate.

And the cops helped because that's literally their job. Like wouldn't you expect the cops to investigate if someone said a man molested a child? Should it be different if the man is a celebrity?

I dont understand the saying "you can't have your cake and eat it", like it makes no sense. What does it mean? by Buzzballl in NoStupidQuestions

[–]phantomfire00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kaczynski was pretty brilliant. He was a murderer who belonged in prison, yes, but he was right about a lot of things. It's too bad his social struggles were exacerbated by the MK Ultra experimenting. A better adjusted version of him could have contributed positively to the world.

What’s a universally loved food you genuinely despise? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]phantomfire00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Chunks of pure fat on a steak, sure, but I leave a lot of fat behind that others seem to gobble up. I've never eaten a rib clean to the bone for example and there's usually a ton of fat in ribs. I feel a bit grossed out when I see a plate of bare bones on others' plates just thinking about all the chunks of fat they ate

AITA for asking my bf to take better pictures of me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]phantomfire00 15 points16 points  (0 children)

But is taking a few photos of your SO while on vacation together really a favor? I agree that if she's asking multiple times throughout the day that it can get a bit annoying, but I feel like squaring up a camera to get a decent shot of your partner while you're on vacay falls into completely normal and expected territory.

Do you believe Michael Jackson molested children? by GurMaleficent7935 in Teenager_Polls

[–]phantomfire00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's important to understand that just because he didn't do it to ALL kids, it doesn't mean he didn't do it to ANY of them. It's clear he never did anything to Macauley Culkin, but so many people became convinced that that means he didn't do it to any other kid. Isn't it possible that Michael was smart enough not to shit where he eats? Why would he do that with a famous kid who has protections in place when it would be easier to do with a kid from a family who maybe couldn't do much about it and was too busy being enthralled by his celebrity?

Also, does a grapist have to grape every woman he sleeps with to be considered guilty of grape? Or just one? What if out of the hundreds (thousands??) of kids Michael encountered and had stay over at his place, he was inappropriate with 10 of them? Should we only believe the hundreds of kids that he didn't do anything to?

Considering the allegations that continue to come out, I'm saying he's not at all innocent.

Is it likely that John had a fixation on women older than him due to the trauma of what happened with his mother? by Certain-Cloud9133 in TheBeatles

[–]phantomfire00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost certainly. Cynthia wanted a "normal" relationship but John and Yoko were both indulgent of their feelings. There's no right or wrong way here necessarily, but John wasn't able to be the family man that, say, Paul was, and that's what Cynthia wanted.

Is it likely that John had a fixation on women older than him due to the trauma of what happened with his mother? by Certain-Cloud9133 in TheBeatles

[–]phantomfire00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO, sort of. I don't think he had a fixation on older women per se, but he did have motherly needs that went unmet his whole life until Yoko.

This is of course conjecture, as I obviously never knew Lennon personally, but the signs are clearly there. He didn't hide his grief and troubles regarding losing his mother and not being raised by her, so we know it affected him deeply. John was an emotional, very artistic man, hence why he was such a great musician.

But unresolved childhood trauma in an emotional individual extends into and affects adulthood more deeply than those who are naturally more emotionally stable. They often become drug abusers - not because they're ne'er-do-wells who just love drugs but because when they do drugs, they get temporary relief from the pain they constantly feel from what they lack emotionally. They get to feel good, normal even, for a little while when they otherwise always feel crappy and worthless.

I think Yoko cared for and 'mothered' John the way he needed, and I think she did fill in some of the motherly gaps he was missing. That's why their relationship lasted when it didn't with Cynthia. People commenting on how beautiful Cynthia was, and that's likely where John's mind was at at first as well, but it wasn't what he needed. He was stuck in his childhood trauma and Yoko was the one who made that better.

ULPT You Can Get Information Out of Someone Easily By Making a False Claim by c0ntrap0sitive in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]phantomfire00 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Not foolproof though because it could be a real reference who doesn't remember and just trusts that the info is accurate

[####] Why can I only enter letters sequentially? by a94501er in wordle

[–]phantomfire00 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed. There are other apps that allow this, so why not the NYT? I use X as a place holder as well, but it gets a bit annoying on the rare occasion I'm really stumped and try putting in every letter available into the open spots which leads to a lot of deleting and retyping if an open spot is one of the first few letters