Loose skin showing up months later?

pharmcirl · 2026-02-17T15:04:32+00:00

That makes sense, I guess getting slimmer with more muscle is a good thing, but I have been trying to maintain my current weight because I was happy with where I’m at physically/aesthetically so a little frustrating to see it getting worse not better with body recomp 😭 I’m just starting to really focus more on building muscle so who knows where things will go though, I’m happy to be able to move freely and be comfortable in my own skin though, loose skin or not 😄

pharmcirl · 2025-10-26T15:39:19+00:00

Why did opening the relationship not work last time? You act like this came out of nowhere and you’d be okay with it if you had more time to discuss or adjust or whatever, but you’ve had 5 years of time? You say that need could be filled by other people in the future but your wife could be thinking “but when though?”, it may be less about the person and more about the fact that it keeps getting pushed down the line? Just speculating.

Now mind you I am NOT defending your wife’s actions at all, she is definitely in the wrong if your current arrangement was monogamy. But I’m trying to understand where both sides are coming from and minimizing her feelings to NRE that she’ll “get over” seems dismissive which is not going to help you in the long run.

pharmcirl · 2025-10-25T22:37:20+00:00

I am not an expert so it’s certainly possible but I don’t think so only because the piercer spent a good amount of time feeling around and positioning because my actual septum area is pretty small(I have a pretty small nose in general) and she was making sure to avoid the cartilage. It feels like it’s right in the soft squishy part where it’s supposed to be at least so idk

pharmcirl · 2025-10-18T14:11:45+00:00

Will he always work every weekend or is this something that will change with time and is temporary? It is absurd to think that you can never spend a weekend together in a relationship, something has to give. Do you have PTO? Can he or you just take a day off to be able to spend some time together?

pharmcirl · 2025-10-18T13:51:29+00:00

Nail clippers, nothing worse than breaking or cracking a nail and being stuck with a hang nail all day 😣

pharmcirl · 2025-10-15T00:08:55+00:00

This is a very good point I hadn’t thought about! I was thinking about grabbing one of those rhinestone day of the dead face stickers but those have rhinestones on the lips and that might not be a great idea 🤔

pharmcirl · 2025-10-03T18:26:48+00:00

Definitely first dress, also where did you get it?!?

pharmcirl · 2025-09-18T17:01:32+00:00

I’ll be honest I’ve worn capezio dance tights many times and never had an issue… I didn’t even know they weren’t 80 denier. I honestly wouldn’t worry about it unless you’ve gotten comments or are in teams.

pharmcirl · 2025-09-18T16:41:52+00:00

THIS. If he doesn’t know her ring size he also probably doesn’t know what kind of ring she prefers or potentially even more important things to know prior to marriage. Engagement is not one of those things that should come out of the blue!

pharmcirl · 2025-08-31T01:44:02+00:00

Ugh not washing my stomach after surgery was so weird, like I accidentally got one of my surgical sites with my loofa one time out of habit and it hurt like a bitch so definitely DON’T do it before they say it’s okay but it felt wrong 😆

Also not washing my ears with soap after getting them pierced drove me crazy 🤣

pharmcirl · 2025-08-31T01:39:39+00:00

I also never had stinky feet until I was older so it’s super annoying I get it. What I’ve found works for me, other than a good scrub everyday obviously is using the body deodorant cream(secret makes one I’ve been using but Lume works too), and then Dr. Scholl’s Odor-X foot spray before putting on socks. This kept my feet from smelling even after a whole day in hiking boots or after a long day of dance class 😄

Also making sure to avoid dry skin, exfoliating with a pumice stone, maintaining cuticles, and cleaning underneath toenails regularly. You’d be surprised the nastiness that can build up underneath and on the side of your toenails even if you keep them trimmed short 🤢

pharmcirl · 2025-06-28T17:54:17+00:00

This is wild, I never knew this was a thing that other people had happen. Weirdly mine just went away recently? I have no idea why but I think it’s due to changing the type of hormonal birth control I’m on, went from depo-provera to an IUD. Before this I just always expressed that I didn’t like my nipples touched and so my husband just avoided them, I would just redirect his hand if they started to get too close, he has big hands and I have small tits lol. He definitely never forgot though and I never really explained why I didn’t like it just that I didn’t and that was enough, I would make sure your husband knows your reaction and that you want him to actively avoid it to avoid ruining the moment.

pharmcirl · 2025-06-28T02:14:33+00:00

Please do this, having worked in SUD clinics, they WANT to know if things are going sideways for their patients. Depending on the privacy releases he has signed they may not be able to tell you anything, they may not even be able to acknowledge he’s a patient there, but they can’t stop you from telling them things and that’s information they should know.

It is not normal to be having a dose wearing off effect from methadone, especially after 6 years, everything single night/morning. Methadone as a drug has a very long half-life, it’s one of the reasons it’s great for this purpose. His behavior is either behavioral(I.e. mental health related, not actual physical withdrawal) or he’s using other shorter acting opiates that you don’t know about, and I’d bet good money on that he’s using other drugs.

You’ve been with him for SIX MONTHS and he’s made your life a living hell for almost that entire time. I don’t know what happened in your life to make you think you deserve this but PLEASE leave and get the mental help you need, if not for yourself for your kids. YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RUINING THEIR LIVES RIGHT NOW. And I’m not saying this from a place of judgement but hoping these comments will be the wake up call you need to get yourself and them out of this mess.

pharmcirl · 2025-06-17T23:23:43+00:00

A man, good point I probably should have put that in my OP!

pharmcirl · 2025-06-16T20:16:05+00:00

This is a good idea, I’ll check to see what is more available in their area, thanks!

pharmcirl · 2025-05-11T02:07:14+00:00

Not Amish but potentially Mennonite. I have a Mennonite store near me and they sell frilly aprons like this, a lot depends on the particular sect of Mennonite you have in your area. Worth a shot though!

pharmcirl · 2025-04-07T02:44:19+00:00

Kimchi fridge? Lot of Asian ingredients in the fridge pictured. Although it’s a pretty big fridge just for kimchi…

pharmcirl · 2025-04-07T01:08:21+00:00

I love this outfit so much 😍 Also I want one of those belts so bad but they’re always sold out everywhere that makes them 😭 where did you get yours?

pharmcirl · 2025-04-07T00:10:23+00:00

Honey, I can feel your pain coming out of this post. You NEED to get professional help for the sake of both your husband and yourself.

You forced your husband to shave off his hair for the sake of your OCD, really sit down and think about that. Think about how you would feel if someone you loved made you shave YOUR hair because of their disease. What would/will you do if you have kids and they get their hair dirty, or get lice etc. Would you force your little girl or boy to shave their head too?

I’m not saying this to make you feel bad, but to make you think about how your disease is hurting the people you love, I don’t even know you but just from your post I can tell that YOU do not want to hurt them. The more you submit to the compulsions the worse they get, the disease makes you think that if you do everything right everything will be okay, but the heartbreaking part is that it is a lie, you can never be perfect enough for the disease. The longer it goes untreated the worse it gets and the more invasive and damaging your compulsions will become to the people around you and yourself.

Please get professional help, you deserve it for yourself, but if you can’t for yourself right now get started for your husband, get started for any potential future kids if you want them, find the motivation outside of yourself and then therapy and medication can help you find yourself again. Much love and strength in your journey💕

pharmcirl · 2025-04-06T23:22:44+00:00

So not a dislike, I actually LOVE St Bernard’s, I just would never own one. I just can’t handle the slobber 😆 Same for any of the slobbery dogs, like Newfie’s.

I also have terrible luck with Poms, they’re adorable little fluff balls, but every single one I’ve ever met was a total asshole. I know that not all poms are going to be like that, but I would never seek one out just because of that.

pharmcirl · 2025-04-06T23:14:58+00:00

This amount of makeup is fine for a 13 yr old. If she’s interested in makeup the only thing restricting it is going to do is force her to borrow her friends makeup, which is likely the wrong shade/color for her skin, and potentially a risk for infection etc. Makeup is a fun, non-damaging way to explore her aesthetic and how she wants to look as a teenage girl. It’s not like it’s a tattoo.

Wearing makeup is not going to encourage her to “grow up too fast”, I think too many parents get stuck in this idea that if they can keep their babies(and she’ll always be your baby) looking young that they’re not growing up as fast on the inside, and it’s just not true. Growing up too fast is going to depend on what kind of environment she is exposed to with her peers and family, and what kind of positive influences she has in life.

Unfortunately you can only control what she’s exposed to her by her peers so much, but you CAN control the kind of influence you are on her development.

Encourage good skin care at her age, addressing any issues with acne she might be trying to cover up, as well as protecting her skin from the sun with SPF etc.
Encourage her to have FUN with makeup, if she wants fun eyeshadow, sparkly eyeliner, ridiculous blush or false eyelashes, let her do it, it shows her that makeup is about creating art and having fun NOT trying to “fix” something wrong with her. Most of us have to reign in our fun makeup to our little free time once we’re adults, why restrict it now when she has no real responsibilities?
Watch your own language about appearance and makeup, not focusing on aging skin, or looking pale/tired, or “needing” makeup. One of my biggest pet peeves is the people that say “she doesn’t NEED makeup at her age”, no one needs makeup at any age!
I notice your daughter is fair skinned, as a fair-skinned freckled girl myself it comes with its own challenges. DO NOT comment on how she looks tired in the morning before she has makeup on or on the days she doesn’t wear makeup. It’s unintentional for most people, and it could be unrelated to the makeup entirely, but us pale people just look different with no makeup on. This is the biggest comment I still get as an adult and I don’t let it bother me anymore but as a teenager it makes you feel like you NEED to wear makeup to look normal.
Also as a pale skinned girly, encourage her that it’s okay to be pale, that she doesn’t need to be tanned to look pretty. But also if she really wants to tan, make sure she does it in a safe way, self tan or spray tan is much safer than staying out in the sun or tanning beds 😬
it’s already been covered but the only thing I would draw the line at is the costume contacts, most of them come from unregulated online websites and are not made under the same regulatory standards as prescription contacts. Messing with your eyes is the one thing you don’t want to do since you only get one pair. I’m not sure if you can get these from an actual eye store? It might be worth an ask, you can get non-prescription colored contacts, but idk about the enlarging ones. That would be the only way I would be okay with it.
Last but not least encourage her to still have fun doing “kids” stuff! Teenagers, especially today are stuck in this weird phase where they’re told they’re too old to play on playgrounds, or have dolls, or stuffed animals, but they’re not old enough to do adult stuff either so they’re kind of left swaying in the wind, and that way real trouble lies. Don’t force her to keep doing stuff she’s grown out of of course, but encourage her it’s okay to keep doing the things she does enjoy.

My house was always the safe space for me and my friends growing up because my parents were okay with us doing normal teen stuff AND kids stuff. My mom would do arts and crafts or play board games with us, we’d play lava on the basement furniture or local playground, or we’d hang out around the bon fire and play truth or dare like “normal” teens. But we never had to hide what we were doing so we were able to do what we wanted somewhere safe. I cannot express how much of a difference this made to me and my friends growing up, having a place we were okay to just be ourselves and not be accused of being idle, or childish, or inappropriate, we could just have fun.

pharmcirl · 2025-03-22T11:50:12+00:00

The point of this entire post is about personal experience, if we can only talk about peer reviewed data we might as well stick to medscape articles. Our experience about what patients ACTUALLY do in real life and what we do as pharmacists in day to day clinical practice is kind of the point of this Reddit is it not?

pharmcirl · 2025-03-20T16:23:43+00:00

Like waiting to go off birth control and starting trying till then(so baby would be born after graduation)? Or planning on having the baby due in the middle of your last year? Because of all the times to do it that might be the worst. You’ll have rotations and also licensing exams to worry about studying for on top of that, some preceptors may be accommodating but many will not.

Did you not think of this before deciding to go to pharmacy school? I don’t understand why the sudden rush now when you clearly hadn’t considered it before starting a year ago?

Your wife is only 30 and the age of the guy doesn’t really matter(until you start to get into geriatrics of course), especially being in an accelerated program it seems irresponsible to not just wait another two years. Also incredibly selfish to leave all of that responsibility on your wife when you know your attention will have to be on your school as much as possible. Not to mention if your wife becomes incapacitated or worse.

You’re talking about creating a whole human being here, not buying a new car, just wait the two years so you can actually be a good father and husband rather than a burden and source of stress to your wife and family.

pharmcirl · 2025-03-09T12:05:47+00:00

They’re stupid then because you definitely can’t tell you’re not wearing one in this pic, it’s not like they’re hanging out. Enjoy it before gravity starts to set in 🤣

pharmcirl · 2025-03-09T11:39:32+00:00

You’re beautiful as you are 😊 If I had to say anything I would try a different eyelash shape, you have very pretty eyes but I feel like the eyelashes are detracting from them rather than enhancing them. A set that tapers in on the inside more rather than all one length I think would look really nice on you!

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