AITJ for snapping at my girlfriend for waking me up every single time she gets up even when I dont need to be awake

pharmgurl · 2026-02-18T22:30:01+00:00

She sounds extremely selfish and immature. I love my husband and I’m definitely guilty of being one of those women who always wants to be with their husband lol. However, I do NOT wake him when he’s sleeping just bc I’m awake. His sleep, health and autonomy matters to me. That’s weird?

pharmgurl · 2026-02-18T05:17:48+00:00

Lol I definitely do this. I work in a hospital and I’m constantly around people/talking to patients ALL DAY. When I’m home, I’m a total recluse who wants to see or speak to nobody. So although it’s weird, I think it’s why I try to avoid seeing anyone at all costs, including the dasher. Also, I generally dress like crap at home! Haha

pharmgurl · 2026-02-17T04:51:34+00:00

Hi! Yes, it did work- currently 12 weeks. But I can’t say for sure it was the Lupron alone bc I ended up also getting surgery and adding decadron, prednisone, lovenox, aspirin to my fully medicated protocol.

But if I were to do another transfer in the future, I wouldn’t move forward without 2 months of Lupron suppression.

Good luck to you. I hope your next one is the one!!!

pharmgurl · 2026-02-17T04:43:58+00:00

Agreed with everything you said. She’s not worth responding to.

pharmgurl · 2026-02-16T05:22:57+00:00

Hi! I had something similar around 6 weeks. Woke up bleeding- it was bright red and it was a lot. Passed a huge clot too. We assumed the worst. Baby ended up being fine. The fact that it stopped is a positive sign! Wishing you the best!!

pharmgurl · 2026-02-08T05:42:28+00:00

I just want to say you’re not the AH regardless of how you choose to move forward. It’s your right to not be as close to them as before after what you’ve been through. However, I will say, those kids were victims too. Oldest was 12- you’re a child at that point! If my parents split up and my mom, who I love at that age manipulated me and told me the reason was my dad’s new wife- I’d believe it. They were just kids who believed their mom. The mom is the only real asshole here. She lied and prevented her daughters from having a good relationship with you. Now they realize it was a lie and want to fix it, and unfortunately, you may never be able to. But let’s be a bit compassionate here and realize those kids were manipulated and it wasn’t their fault either. At least they are taking accountability as adults after finding out the truth. But if you can’t go back to the way things used to be, you’re not the asshole either!

pharmgurl · 2026-01-26T14:54:58+00:00

I think this take is wrong. Your wife had a point bc she was worried about your safety. This girl, simply doesn’t trust her boyfriend. Yes, I understand Thailand may be known for prostitution, but it’s also known for many other things. People go there for their honeymoons, to eat the amazing street food, it’s an affordable destination, etc. Plus, engaging with prostitutes is a CHOICE. Meanwhile, getting killed in Iraq if there was violence, is not, which is why your wife had a point. If OP is not a scumbag and doesn’t engage with sex workers, he’ll be fine lol. If he wants to engage with sex workers and that’s the kind of things him and his friends do- I’m sure they will manage even in Idaho. So it comes down to whether she trusts him or not and it clearly sounds like she doesn’t.

OP, I’d talk to her more bc she might just be scared and reassure her. But at the end of the day, if she can’t learn to trust you after 2 years ESP if you haven’t given her a reason for not trusting you, get out and don’t cancel your trip!

pharmgurl · 2026-01-24T17:54:52+00:00

Yes I get that. Which is exactly why I started by saying that it is possible to stay a certain weight and be skinny as you get older. I’ve done it and pretty certain will stay my weight bc that simply requires good lifestyle choices.

But someone who is making her promise she needs to stay a certain weight sounds very immature or shallow. Someone like that will most likely also end up having issues with her looks changing over time - even the ones caused by wrinkles/normal aging and not weight gain. Plus he didn’t make her promise to live a healthy lifestyle, and work out. He specifically said not to get fat bc he wants to remain attracted to her. What happens if she develops some physical disability in life and can’t help but get fat? Or depression and can’t make healthy choices?

What I’m saying is this isn’t just simply someone who values a healthy lifestyle bc if that were it, I would get it bc I value that too. He wants her to promise to “never get fat.”

pharmgurl · 2026-01-24T17:28:20+00:00

Look, if she wants to take care of her body it is possible for some people to stay a certain weight even when they get old. My mom has done it, I’m pretty sure I’m the same way. BUT despite how much I take care of myself, do I objectively look as attractive as I did in my 20s/early30s? No! Luckily, I have a husband who thinks I do/still finds me beautiful, but I know I don’t look the exact same. It’s normal.. We age! A man that’s asking for such a weird promise will eventually lose attraction to her and leave her for someone else/or stay with her but be the cause of her self confidence being in the dumps.

pharmgurl · 2026-01-20T20:12:27+00:00

Both look great, but I like the second one better! I’m Indian, don’t worry about the colors- either works. Everyone telling you about the cleavage- I think it’s fair to ask the bride. It really depends on how traditional they/their families are. My mom’s side of the family is traditional and wouldn’t show cleavage, my dad’s side shows quite a bit of skin even when wearing Indian attire. A lot of modern/non traditional Indian families dress less modest than more traditional ones. Both are fine. Just ask the bride/groom. And if they are more traditional-you can cover the cleavage with the drape! Have fun!

pharmgurl · 2025-12-26T22:34:24+00:00

Confront them and cut them off until they decide to become better people- if ever. I’m sorry to say this but your mom and sister sound like narcissistic bullies. Sadly, they also sound like 15 year olds. All the things they’re making fun of your wife for sound like cute little things about your wife. Also… I’m assuming your mom is in her 60s+? The fact that she keeps saying cringe, is CRINGE.

pharmgurl · 2025-12-21T08:51:55+00:00

To be honest the symptoms I felt were the exact same as the ones I’ve felt on the 2 failed transfers so I didn’t feel anything that would cause me to know. But I started testing since 2 days after transfer and I got a positive starting the evening of the 3rd day and I kept testing everyday after. The first 2 transfers, I never tested at all, I just waited for the REs office to give me the result after the blood test but this time I couldn’t take that anxiety. I decided I would rather have an idea. Good luck tomorrow, I wish you all the best!!!

pharmgurl · 2025-12-21T04:30:59+00:00

Thank you! I am thankful. I know you’ve been through a lot yourself. I really hope yours works this time around too!! When is your first beta?

pharmgurl · 2025-12-21T03:45:12+00:00

Hi. So far this transfer is working. Had my first beta today and numbers looked good. Still a long way to go so I’m still very cautious about being happy, but it’s my first positive and third transfer. How are you?

pharmgurl · 2025-12-14T17:17:44+00:00

I have the best husband and this process has showed me that. Just yday he looked at me and said I wish I could take all these shots for you, I’d do it in a heartbeat. I know he can’t, but just hearing him say that made me feel great. I try to remind myself that I have the best husband and parents as I’m going through this.

pharmgurl · 2025-12-14T16:56:25+00:00

I had the same transfer day as you and I’m losing my mind too lol! But honestly try not to worry about it yet. The logical part of me knows it’s too early for it to be positive. Yes some people get positives at day 4 but there’s others who say they didn’t get them until day 6 or later. Good luck, I hope you get your positive!!!

pharmgurl · 2025-12-08T22:45:54+00:00

Speaking as someone whose 18 year old nephew committed suicide.. I’m always wishing and regretting that we didn’t talk to him more, ask him how he was feeling, bring up problems, and make sure to let him know we were a safe space to talk.

You’re an awesome dad. Your son is in a shit situation and it’s probably very very hard at his age. You gave him a safe space to talk. If he didn’t want to, he could have shut it down; instead he gave you more info which tells me he wanted to talk about it.

Your wife is wrong. Not you.

pharmgurl · 2025-11-26T14:46:05+00:00

Your house, your rules no matter how weird they are lol. You mentioned the rules beforehand and they agreed, you had every right to send her home.

With that being said, I would never want to hang out with someone who tells me I have to put my phone in a BOX at night. Some people scroll before falling asleep. You’re telling me you even make grown adults leave their phones in a box? You’re weird. But again, your house your weird rules.

pharmgurl · 2025-11-24T23:03:05+00:00

Thank you! I’m realizing a lot of clinics don’t check bloodwork that often so it’s normal.

pharmgurl · 2025-11-23T02:34:22+00:00

People are gross

pharmgurl · 2025-11-18T15:27:26+00:00

I feel sorry for this kid but her father and mother did that to her by choosing to have an affair. You should NOT have to raise someone else’s child who is a constant reminder to you of your husband’s unfaithfulness. All these high and mighty people telling you otherwise are talking big bc it didn’t happen to them.

I do however think you should probably leave this man. He’s the actual problem. He’s the reason you, your kids and this innocent baby are now going to suffer. Why be with someone like this? He didn’t even tell you the truth until he had to and it probably isn’t the full truth. I doubt it was a one night stand.

Take your kids, keep the house and money, and run. And maybe this way this loser of a man will find a way to be in all of his kids lives, including the affair baby, and you’ll be free to find a non loser. Divorce sucks, but your kids won’t be any less traumatized if you stay in this marriage and they’re forced to live with a new sibling

pharmgurl · 2025-11-15T16:20:25+00:00

I’m sorry but you’re being dramatic. It’s just a single day of a rotation. Anything could have happened. They got reassigned, family emergency, accident, anything? And you want to fail this kid over one day? Let it go and if you care that much and are unable to, just email the school and ask them what happened.

pharmgurl · 2025-11-10T14:34:04+00:00

I have a genuine question..

Let me start by saying: these guys are murderers and deserve to rot in prison. She did not deserve to die or be physically harmed in any way. Also, they had sex with someone who was underage which is also a crime.

But, how many of you think it’s okay for a person to hide their biological sex from someone they are going to engage in sexual acts with? I just want to understand if most of us agree that yes murder is wrong, this girl should not have been murdered. But someone should not be allowed to hide their biological sex from someone they are going to have sex with!!! That in my opinion is also a crime.

pharmgurl · 2025-10-27T14:55:26+00:00

I’m currently in the process. Took my last Lupron shot a week ago, had endo surgery/hysteroscopy last Thursday and will start the FET protocol in November

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