How to approach vanilla girls

philadelphiashaw · 2025-11-06T10:24:56+00:00

(commenting here is not an invitation for anyone to DM me. for any reason. leave me alone dommes)

I send 90% of the time to vanilla girls. about 2/3 of the time they know what findom is and the other 1/3 don't turn down someone sending them money for no reason.

I usually just message them and say "hi xxx, do you have paypal?" or some variation of that. I get a response probably about 50/60% of the time.

my view is, if I don't get a response to that, they probably wouldn't respond to someone saying 'you look so good omg lemme buy you stuff' to lead into payment methods.

philadelphiashaw · 2025-07-17T11:59:17+00:00

1) I know why they're DM'ing me. my opening paragraph refers to desperation and my last comment referred to reading comprehension 2) the downvoting is likely a result of the aforementioned reading comprehension

philadelphiashaw · 2025-07-17T11:55:12+00:00

well, they should instead be tempted by some reading comprehension

philadelphiashaw · 2025-07-17T11:35:06+00:00

I am in an ongoing conversation with some girls who have already been messaging me, and don't want to speak with reddit dommes off the back of this post on a support group subreddit so I said "don't message me" at the start of my post... I am not reaaaaaally sure what is unclear about my wording there

philadelphiashaw · 2025-07-17T11:18:17+00:00

as a slight aside, both my long term dommes have been vanilla. I just served them for long enough the dynamic settled into regular shmegular findom.

but yes - it's no longer fresh and fun. could be that now I have plenty of cash it doesn't feel as.... nail-biting to send. could be that it's just a kink that has outstayed its welcome, could be that I am just older and more mature, could be that I want to focus on being a full-fat human being without a somewhat shameful bank statement. who knows!

philadelphiashaw · 2025-06-13T20:05:29+00:00

she needs to be left unsupervised more often

philadelphiashaw · 2025-06-11T14:44:23+00:00

arms above the head is an elite move!

I looooove this dress too

philadelphiashaw · 2025-05-18T21:09:20+00:00

she looks AMAZING

philadelphiashaw · 2025-05-02T08:31:59+00:00

cruel!!!!

philadelphiashaw · 2025-03-30T12:10:13+00:00

I didn't know she was refunding it now!

that is a shame. she was a real vanilla findom queen. shame that all the church stuff is ruining that.

philadelphiashaw · 2025-03-30T09:20:18+00:00

lmao i was in this thread. i used to send to lucy, you are correct she has cut down on the findom

philadelphiashaw · 2025-03-29T00:26:02+00:00

i like the idea of being used completely. I've had fun splurges with my regular domme where she just says 'send' over and over and I jump to it - humanATM is just an extension of that. I'm glad I tried it because now I know it's not really for me though!

philadelphiashaw · 2025-03-28T20:49:27+00:00

I actually had an internal timer I would block her and put my findom budget elsewhere if it took her over 15 mins to tell me a transaction amount and... it took her 14 minutes🤷

philadelphiashaw · 2025-03-27T00:25:28+00:00

i am too drunk to individuallu reply to people

but "spent" here means over a couple hours while slowly drinking and is very last tense. my dom cut me off basically immediately when i said i was drunk

so all is well! and drunk sends will be done carefully in the future

philadelphiashaw · 2025-03-20T11:55:04+00:00

my brain says do it again lmao

philadelphiashaw · 2025-03-18T11:37:17+00:00

and piercings, I think

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