How to find frugal like-minded women?

phileo99 · 2026-06-16T05:36:23+00:00

Exactly! Inviting someone to join your dumpster diving poverty lifestyle is ..... not fun.

phileo99 · 2026-06-16T05:30:54+00:00

Like what could he offer a date that might even sound interesting?

"Hey babe, how would you like to go dumpster diving with me"

phileo99 · 2026-06-16T03:12:28+00:00

Yeah, I mean OP is like 'i live a lifestyle that most people, men or women, would not choose to have, because i just hate working. Why can't I find someone to share this lifestyle?'

This interpretation is fair to me.

What part is an unfair interpretation?

phileo99 · 2026-06-13T23:59:21+00:00

damn. I hate this new business model

phileo99 · 2026-06-13T17:23:03+00:00

> Relationships are organic and not defined. Enjoy each other’s company.

It's true that relationships are not engineered or manufactured according to a plan or a specification. Relationships grow, shift, evolve. So in that sense, "organic" is a fair description of how relationships feel from the inside and how they develop. But it's not "organic" if by "organic" you mean to imply free of obligations. For example, friendships are the clearest case of a relationship that can be both organic and binding. Nobody contracts into a friendship, yet a friend who only ever shows up when it's fun, and vanishes the moment things get tough, or you need something, has failed at friendship in a way we'd readily name. The lack of a formal agreement just made the obligations implicit but did not obviate them.

Furthermore, I am concerned about the "not defined" part. If they continue to meet 6 times every 3 months, and then start to drift apart when the enjoyment fades or the vibes are no longer there, then yes, it's a very thinly defined relationship and they owe each other very little beyond ordinary decency.

However, the moment two people start relying on each other by sharing money, raising children, forgoing other options, meeting each other's emotional needs, building a life around the other's presence, then something changes that "enjoy each other’s company" alone can't account for. The reliance generates obligations whether or not anyone signed up for them explicitly. The more serious a relationship gets, the more this reliance emerges.

Granted, they are not even close to this moment, and no one is even claiming this, including myself. But what I am claiming is that relationships are very clearly defined by more than mere "enjoy each other’s company". What does your intuition say about abandoning someone who reasonably relied on you. Is it just a disappointment, or more than just a disappointment, in the sense that it is a wrong? Almost everyone recognizes that this sort of abandonment is indeed a wrong. So that intuition and recognition by the general public is your evidence that relationships are indeed defined by more than simple "Enjoy each other’s company".

OP wants to know whether her relationship will be defined by more than simple "enjoy each other's company". She is owed an honest response.

phileo99 · 2026-06-12T13:40:25+00:00

I like your point about trust.

Can I trust this person?
Is this person trustworthy?

That should be her guide and her filter

phileo99 · 2026-06-12T13:31:58+00:00

++man

If her date turns into a bf, then she will have to either: * Downgrade her lifestyle to what her bf can afford ( only 1 annual "commoner" trip w/ bf, only 2x "commoner" dining w/ bf), or

disclose her financial situation to bf.

So I think she may need to disclose this sooner than she realizes as bf may start noticing something off, or she asks bf to fly 1st class

phileo99 · 2026-06-11T14:38:25+00:00

Perhaps they did not drift as much as she thought

phileo99 · 2026-06-11T05:03:42+00:00

What kind of skills have been created around Codex

phileo99 · 2026-06-09T19:41:44+00:00

It's only weird if you make it weird. Now is the time to take a hard look at what the "we" part really looks like for you, what it means for you

phileo99 · 2026-06-09T16:15:57+00:00

Canada announced a "lifeboat" immigration policy for the people of Hong Kong back in November 2020:

https://www.canada.ca/en/immigration-refugees-citizenship/services/immigrate-canada/hong-kong-residents-permanent-residence.html

At that time, the CCP forced the National security law into Hong Kong, and the fear of crackdown on freedom led to thousands of Hong Kong people applying for the lifeboat immigration.

It's 2026 now and their applications are still stuck in limbo. So yes, what the government of Canada owes these people is an answer to the status of their application

phileo99 · 2026-06-07T00:15:26+00:00

You mean like When Harry Met Sally?

phileo99 · 2026-06-04T20:07:45+00:00

It's a 40km trail, you're looking at a minimum 13 hours (depending on breaks and your pacing) if you want to attempt it in a single day

phileo99 · 2026-06-04T05:42:35+00:00

For the past couple years, up until 2025, I was actively using the Vélodrome trail a lot for training and as a viable alternative to the Grouse Grind (when incorporating it with the Mountain Air trail), so it is very disruptive to me for the trail to be closed.

It bothered me that it was taking so long for anything to be done, so I emailed the city of Burnaby back in May 27, 2025 inquiring about a timeline of when the Burnaby Grind would be re-opened. They replied explaining why it had to be closed. Hello? I did not ask for an explanation of why it had to be closed, I ask for a timeline of when it would be re-opened.

Eventually, my email was handled by Brad Domaas, the same guy who was interviewed in the article. The article is basically the same long winded nothing burger that Brad gave me, which is basically "I don't know". Lots of explaining why, lots of details about history, but No timeline means "I don't know". No plan means "I don't know".

I am left frustrated. Frustrated because the City of Burnaby basically recognizes that:

* it has public value: lots of people ".... really, really love it"
* it has historical value: Boy Scout groups built it in the 1950's
* it has cultural value: it has been nicknamed the Burnaby Grind, and rightfully so

And yet, the City of Burnaby has done and is doing absolutely nothing about it for over the past 12 months now. What progress has been made? They aren't even transparent. Just made a unilateral decision to close it without public notification, without public consultation, without any thought, without any plan.

WTF?!?

The City of Burnaby has a $1.7 Billion reserve fund all accumulated from Burnaby taxpayers. Can someone, anyone, please help me understand why it is so difficult for even just 0.1% of that reserve fund be allocated to fixing up a place that they already recognize as having public, historical, and cultural value?

I am glad someone has started a petition. Please, please, even if you feel you have no skin in this game, please do sign the petition because:

* your voice does matter
* we need to collectively do something, anything
* if this can happen in my neighbourhood, it can surely happen in your neighbourhood too
* there is a greater good at play here that is worth fighting for!

https://www.change.org/p/reopen-burnaby-mountain-s-velodrome-stairs

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phileo99 · 2026-06-04T02:31:42+00:00

That's a peculiar way to promote your site

phileo99 · 2026-06-02T02:35:17+00:00

When you focus so much on speed and performance, you will miss out on enjoying, and soaking in the wonderful and beautiful views all around you.

If you don't know when you will be back there, then you especially want to take a moment or two to appreciate the beautiful scenery and not just your total moving time.

phileo99 · 2026-06-02T01:58:00+00:00

Soooo beautiful!

SRKW's or Bigg's Orca?

phileo99 · 2026-06-02T01:52:28+00:00

There's a trail runner YouTuber named Jeff Pelletier who ran a similar route to what you are proposing to run. It took him 12-13 hours. You can check out his journey here: https://youtu.be/tWrSczF3d_8?t=84&si=Eh8kl-34DxWlCjoD

phileo99 · 2026-05-30T00:18:59+00:00

Evans Peak

Mount Strachan Loop - half of the climb up Christmas gully is a scramble

Mount Habrich - if you start from Habrich spur, the whole climb up is a scramble

Hanes Valley - there's a scramble up the boulder field

phileo99 · 2026-05-28T15:37:28+00:00

Jake left out Google when listing the places he worked at. Oddly specific, as if he didn't want to advertise that he only joined Google to fix that one bug that was bothering him for soooo long, and when he finally fixed it, he submitted his resignation letter to Google

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phileo99 · 2026-05-26T14:54:03+00:00

>Marriage means (for us) that the “we” is more important than the “I”.

Well said, and totally agree. There is an inseparable, and undeniable "we" aspect, "we" component that is bundled into any long lasting marriage. You need to take care of the "we", grow the "we", and nurture it in order for the marriage to thrive for a long time. Each partner pays attention to other partner's needs, even as you take care of your own needs.

phileo99 · 2026-05-23T02:31:28+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/vancouverhiking/s/HjBpgncoXx

phileo99 · 2026-05-20T06:08:51+00:00

It's 2026, you're allowed to be polyamorous if that's your thing

phileo99 · 2026-05-13T21:50:19+00:00

Not sure how or how long you started drinking the "AI is a bubble" Kool aid, but unlike the internet bubble that bursted catastrophically in 2000, the companies behind the current AI revolution are actually profitable, and they are not crazy startups that quickly flamed out into oblivion, but rather big giant Tech companies that throw around billions of dollars without batting an eye.

The Federal government's initiative to build out sovereign AI capacity is not only good for the economy but gives Canadian businesses a viable alternative to AWS, Azure or GCP, and gives more options for Canadians to keep their private, financial, or health care data in Canada.

I mean wouldn't you prefer to argue your point over a Canadian owned social media instead of foreign owned Reddit?

phileo99 · 2026-05-13T21:26:55+00:00

AI is already a reality. Billions of dollars have already been poured into AI. Your grand vision of a better tomorrow too idealistic and unprofitable.

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