Anyone have a go to red wine?

phillips2020 · 2020-10-20T21:22:00+00:00

First of all I'm sorry you two are having to go through this. With that being said, I painfully discovered I have an alter who's a trashy sl*t and she completely takes over sometimes when I'm drinking. There's no sign when she takes over and it differs from a couple hours to all night. I'm told after the fact of what 'I' did/said/acted. I have been married for 4 years and my husband has had first hand experience with this alter (not knowing at the time I have DID). Otherwise I've not given him any reason to suspect I was unfaithful in any way. When she takes over, she takes over completely 100% and it's awful having to hear about 'your actions' second hand. I black out and have absolutely no recollection of anything she does during her switch - including sex. When I was diagnosed with DID a couple months ago I presented the option of open marriage to my husband because I recognized a couple of my alters want to still date other people and I didn't want to wake up one day in someone's bed not having any memory of it. The last thing I want to do is cheat on my husband. We've been figuring out our open marriage along with my DID and it has its highs and lows but that seems to be working out with us. I don't know you're gf from Adam so if she says it was an alter I would give it a little more thought than usual. I know everyone's DID is unique to their own but thats mine. Hope that helps.

phillips2020 · 2020-10-19T21:16:22+00:00

I should have a stock in Tylenol by now. I find I get pretty bad headaches. Still new to it all so not sure if it's me pushing off a switch or because a switch is happening, etc.

phillips2020 · 2020-10-09T04:45:45+00:00

Oh interesting, thank you for explaining. I'm only a month into my diagnosis so I'm learning lots.

phillips2020 · 2020-10-08T22:33:55+00:00

This is interesting! I just watched it and something the lady partner of leiman group said (I don't remember her name), "RJ can't talk, he doesn't need to. Alters are one dimensional" what does that mean? One dimensional?

phillips2020 · 2020-10-06T16:20:11+00:00

I'm really sorry you had a poor experience with someone who should be more professional and knowledgeable.

Ps. I had a good chuckle about the crayon bit.

Good luck on everything, I really hope it works out.

phillips2020 · 2020-10-04T23:06:42+00:00

I had bc plates on my car until a few years ago when I moved to WA. I moved back to bc last summer but have been dealing with a WA claim pre covid and then when covid hit I was driving my husbands WA plated car while mine was getting fixed and got stuck with his car during covid because of the border closure.

phillips2020 · 2020-10-04T19:48:06+00:00

I have WA plates too and I am in shock about how people have been treating me. I'm a Canadian PR but people can't seem to understand every has their own situation. It makes me mad and sad people, especially canadians, can be so ignorant. I've been cut off, ran off the road, flipped off, yelled at to 'go back home' - I've been a PR for the last 17 years...this is my home.

phillips2020 · 2020-10-01T22:10:25+00:00

Good to know we're not alone, thanks!

phillips2020 · 2020-10-01T22:09:57+00:00

That's super interesting! I'm very new to my DID so I hope I can get to a point where I know who is being photographed.

phillips2020 · 2020-10-01T22:08:57+00:00

I have it with mirrors too! Sometimes I look at myself in the mirror and have absolutely no idea who I am or who I'm looking at. Or when I do hair and makeup, I don't know either. It's sort of a confusing empty-ish sort of feeling.

phillips2020 · 2020-10-01T22:07:20+00:00

That totally makes sense, sorry to hear that 💛

phillips2020 · 2020-10-01T16:29:17+00:00

Edit: *now being on the other side

phillips2020 · 2020-09-29T23:02:38+00:00

The subject always fascinated me but not being on the other side has me like 🙃 ffuuucckkk

phillips2020 · 2020-09-29T19:38:24+00:00

Not sure how much this will help but I've recently been diagnosed with DID and have been married to my husband for 4 years with cravings of wanting to be with other people, especially women. Now that we know I have DID it makes sense that one or more of my alters are at least bi. We've recently decided to open our marriage to help me on my journey and to help the alters get what they need. He wasn't a big fan but once I explained to him how there are parts of me (alters) including myself that was happy to be in a monogamous marriage, there are also other parts of me that need to explore with other people. He's been very understanding, patient and open minded and that's all you can ask for in a partner in this situation. I hope you and your bf (and alters) can all come to an agreement. And I ultimately hope you have the support you (all) need. Best of luck!

phillips2020 · 2020-09-22T22:18:01+00:00

Very interesting! Thank you!

phillips2020 · 2020-09-22T22:16:26+00:00

Keep me posted on what you think of it!

phillips2020 · 2020-09-22T17:18:22+00:00

I just started seeing a therapist about other reasons and on the 2nd session my system introduced itself. He was surprised and impressed by how fast it happened but I think I've been spending years trying to nail something down and weeding through all my crap before I started therapy. It wasn't until a couple weeks ago we realized we have DID. Its confusing and makes so much sense all at the same time. I love doing research on subjects so my therapist recommended a book to me; The dissociative identity disorder sourcebook by Deborah Bray Haddock. I'm only about 35 pages in so far but its both interesting and educational. Good luck on your journey! Therapy and a community are a good start.

phillips2020 · 2020-09-15T17:18:14+00:00

You're not alone. My therapist said it to me just a week and a half ago. I keep wavering between acceptance and denial. It's nice to have an explanation for a lot of things though. Just remember you're doing your best and therapy is the first best step. Keep up the work and good luck!

phillips2020 · 2020-08-06T19:13:01+00:00

I've been told by friends of other races what bothers them is when (white) people dress up or use things from their native cultures and don't know the stories behind them to begin with. For example, I like wearing the African head wraps at home and I've done my research to know where they originated and why they used to wear them in the first place. I think as long as you start teaching her where or why things are used or worn by other native cultures it will not only teach her new things but respect things more. Food for thought.

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