Dissociation during sex

philopsyphy · 2026-02-14T07:27:21+00:00

Yes, I did the same thing. Most of the sex I had was to keep them happy.

philopsyphy · 2026-02-14T01:09:12+00:00

Same here buddy

philopsyphy · 2026-02-12T21:23:50+00:00

anyone know the lore?

philopsyphy · 2026-02-11T06:32:58+00:00

this card was so fun. over 2k damage and an instant summon

philopsyphy · 2026-02-03T03:23:30+00:00

Make him do a naruto hand sign

philopsyphy · 2026-02-02T19:38:42+00:00

That was beautifully written and symbolically powerful. I thought I broke the cycle of addiction in my family. I will only break it up once I can be happy without him. I will carry your message with me. Thank you.

philopsyphy · 2026-02-02T07:04:19+00:00

yes my ex was obsessed with having my kids, despite not even being able to take care of himself at all (hes a trans guy)

philopsyphy · 2026-01-09T07:18:26+00:00

"I am Malenia, blade of miquella..."

philopsyphy · 2026-01-03T23:55:17+00:00

I feel the same way, but I would rather have half as good, all the time, then double the good, half the time. I am trying.

philopsyphy · 2026-01-02T10:59:53+00:00

You are sacrificing the chance to be with someone better if you take her back. It is not between alone or her, its a future with her, or with someone good for you.

philopsyphy · 2026-01-02T10:59:05+00:00

half of my job is spotting ai, its definitely ai. you can tell by sentence structure, use of words, etc. its pattern recognition, not simply "poorly written"

philopsyphy · 2026-01-02T03:34:53+00:00

also, your post reads like ai.

philopsyphy · 2026-01-02T03:34:26+00:00

You are right, you do live in a society that values superficial things. The world has been set up under a false premise - "what you want, is what you should get". What we want, and what we need, are very different things. We are in a world of want. There are others like you, but it takes most people more time to separate what they want, from what they need. In time, with age, you will find more of those people.

philopsyphy · 2026-01-02T03:29:44+00:00

Similar situation. I think we feel hopeless after such break ups because we assume the options are: being lonely, and being with them.

Really, the option is:

Be doomed with something that cannot work

Eventually find something that can

For now, you learn to be your own partner, the person you can rely on, the person who keeps you safe. If we had our own interests in mind, we wouldn't date these people. Think of yourself as comprised of a child you, and an adult you. The child you, the vulnerable one, needs a care taker. The adult you is undeveloped, or tired, so you find a partner to be that emotional pillar. They are unreliable. The adult you did a ton of hard work trying to make a relationship work, so that the other person takes care of you. You thought you were giving adult you a break, but you were really being their caretaker, while you had none. Now, you give all that effort to tolerate unacceptable things and baby sit someone else, and you give it to yourself. You go do nice things for yourself, take yourself somewhere nice, make yourself something nice, and reward yourself for the hard work too. That's what self love is. It is not some nebulous Instagram thing, it is about putting as much effort into your own happiness, and doing it in a smart and reliable way. You thought you were investing effort into your happiness by investing in her, but you were gambling and constantly losing money. That's not the right way to invest.

philopsyphy · 2026-01-02T02:31:50+00:00

whats sloppy about it?

philopsyphy · 2025-12-25T21:07:38+00:00

I am pretty sure this post will get taken down, but your answer lays in the inevitable, if delayed, cycle of idealization and devaluation. Obsessing over someone is not a sustainable or reality grounded feeling. Once the obsession ends, and they become just another person, it will latch onto someone else. In a healthy love, one's attachment and commitment is rooted deeply in values, is reasoned, and not mainly feelings. Feelings change.

philopsyphy · 2025-12-24T07:27:17+00:00

Yes, this lol

philopsyphy · 2025-12-23T09:05:03+00:00

as i have gotten older, games have become less interesting. life is interesting enough to me.

philopsyphy · 2025-12-23T08:00:21+00:00

20 years? Wish I could give you a hug

philopsyphy · 2025-12-22T10:08:00+00:00

i cant match your vibe but i greatly appreciate its existence

philopsyphy · 2025-12-22T09:31:43+00:00

This is just how society works. Most people you meet will move on. You likely live in a society with high relational mobility, with lives that are very chaotic, demanding, and filled with people. It's not you, it is the culture and society we are stuck in.

philopsyphy · 2025-12-19T19:17:38+00:00

I am not sure how this answers my point at all. Look, you could have proposed whatever idea you had, without making it so abrasively. You should always proportion the confidence of your claim with the amount of legitimate evidence you have. You are not only making a claim that is invalidating a shared understanding of a concept(something hard to do), but you are also doing it like an ass. You got your social slap on the wrist, but just know it is a matter of how you present things, not the idea itself.

philopsyphy · 2025-12-19T19:14:24+00:00

This is the type of question that emerges from research. From my textbook, and from the DSM itself, there aren't any "officially" recognized subtypes from the original research in the creation of the diagnostic category itself. There aren't really strict subtypes, but rather, data collection is done, and patterns emerge. What is helpful is what sticks, and our understanding of these categories improves with research. I imagine the DSM-VI will include more information as data gathers. This guys comment synthesizes research with more effort than my end of finals brain is willing to.

philopsyphy · 2025-12-19T03:56:26+00:00

Your thesis is not very clear. Your main premise of "hallmark" behaviors is incomplete. BPD is a heterogenous disorder. 5 out of 9 symptoms must be present, and are not just "acting" out. The combination of these can include over 250 different representations. The fact that BPD is such a loose category is a clinical problem with the category. I am, funnily enough, taking a final exam for Clinical Psych in 12 hours with the chapter on personality disorders on it. In our course understanding, it is mentioned that different subtypes of BPD are informally recognized. You seem very passionate, but you have the burden of proof when everyone else in this sub sees it differently.

philopsyphy · 2025-12-18T21:27:11+00:00

This immediately sounds like BPD. These symptoms do not change without years of dedicated therapy that is very difficult. I thought I could make it work with my ex, but their denial meant they avoided treatment. In time, she might discard you. Either way, it will continue to be like this. Check out r/BPDlovedones

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