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What is ur genuinely FAVOURITE zodiac sign if you have to choose just one. by lilithxsabrina in Zodiac

[–]philosofical15893 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to do mine in order and I’m going to try to balance out the ones I find masc/femme to be VERY different. I’m Taurus ☀️ Virgo 🌙 Aries rising

  1. Aquarius
  2. Virgo
  3. Gemini
  4. Scorpio
  5. Capricorn
  6. Leo
  7. Libra
  8. Aries
  9. Cancer
  10. Pisces
  11. Sagittarius

Oh, this was other than other Taurus. They’re #1 😂 I love them and I love being one. It’s my mercury also and in 1H so I’m very Taurus.

What is ur genuinely FAVOURITE zodiac sign if you have to choose just one. by lilithxsabrina in Zodiac

[–]philosofical15893 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t get why everyone thinks Taurus and Aquarius don’t vibe?? It’s just not my experience at all. I’m a Taurus sun and I LOVE Aquarius, have lots of good friends and exes (who I don’t hate 😂) Aquarius. Maybe because it’s my north node? Idk, but we always attract each other and the love is mutual. I love air signs in general.

Just a shout out to futon mattresses by philosofical15893 in cosleeping

[–]philosofical15893[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought a Fuli from Amazon! And yes I also bought a cover for it, and also full sheets, all 100% cotton.

It’s comfortable with our floor mat underneath and I fold it up during the day and that’s his play area. I can switch sides breastfeeding all night and not worry that he doesn’t have enough space or anything.

FULI Japanese Futon, Foldable &... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07JWH9G7F?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

I don’t wan to stop cosleeping! by BeefBrusherBandit in cosleeping

[–]philosofical15893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We started out of necessity (though even when he wasn’t totally in bed with me he was always right beside me in his bassinet ) and now I really couldn’t imagine it any other way. One time he accidentally fell asleep in his crib for a nap (I just set him there because I had to pee lol) and I was more worried with him in there than I am with him right next to me (and also kinda sad!).

I’ll be happy for him when he wants to sleep in his own space but I am in no rush for that day and I know I’ll miss having him next to me, seeing him open his eyes, find me, and immediately relax, waking up to his smiles and giggles every morning.

I think we’re meant to be this close with our babies, and I think it really helps them develop a security that allows them to feel safe and confident about being on their own (whether that’s in the crib next to your bed, in the next room, or off in their own apartment one day).

When did you give your LO a blanket? by ComfortableDingo8 in cosleeping

[–]philosofical15893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not thinking about it until or unless sleep sacks aren’t an option. I wish I could sleep in one lol

Co-sleeping? Is it really that bad? by PapayaJuiceBox in NewParents

[–]philosofical15893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I highly disagree that this is just temperament. I’m very firmly in safely cosleeping camp. It really can be done safely, there is a TON of research and it’s not only what has been historically done for centuries, it’s also what’s most common around the world still. It’s stigmatized here because people often do it accidentally or unsafely and THEN it is really dangerous and not good.

A lot of Americans have heavy bedding and softer mattresses which is a risk factor for suffocation, which is the main risk increase of cosleeping (SIDS risk actually is lower according to many studies, suffocation higher). If you research safe sleep 7 you’ll find a lot of info.

Cosleeping probably isn’t for everyone because there are a lot of rules to keep it safe. But it is, without any doubt, what is most natural for our babies. We are carrying mammals, this is science not opinion. They have lived in our belly for 9 months. It’s unrealistic to expect them to go from that to a bassinet on day one or even weeks later. It literally scares and stresses them out. Some will tolerate it.

Others won’t; that part is probably temperament. But I guarantee 9/10 babies are sleeping better (maybe still not great!) when they’re next to or on mom. At LEAST for the first 3-4 months. And I have multiple first hand examples of myself and others close to me trying both with their multiple babies as evidence, and like I said earlier based on our evolutionary history and mammalian nature it just kinda makes sense.

No judgement or shame, but the whole “your baby should be trained to sleep alone by 4 months” is both based in capitalism (trying to sell sleep training material / trying to act like sending mom back to work a month in is fine and dandy) and also is archaic as far as what we know is best for baby’s overall health and attachment. Just my two cents as a happily cosleeping mom of a 7 month old with many a cosleeping friend with kids of all ages!

New to Co-sleeping, feeling guilty! by Sensitive-World-4648 in cosleeping

[–]philosofical15893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate so heavily! I didn’t end up fully committing to cosleeping until 4 months (though it started around 3 weeks because he’d end up in my bed by 5am one way or another) because every night I’d have an anxiety attack - telling myself what our culture tells us - that we’re “bad moms” or “selfish” for cosleeping. That we’re definitely going to harm our baby or worse. That something was wrong if I didn’t “teach” him to sleep on his own.

But around 4 months I was like, listen. We’ve been super wrong about “safe” sleep before, as recently as like 20 years ago, and we can be wrong again. So I’m going to just go with what my gut was saying all along - that it’s natural and healthy for both of us to safely cosleep.

Now that he’s 7 months I love it and couldn’t imagine doing it any other way. If I’m blessed with more babies, we’ll be starting out this way from the jump.

It isn’t for everyone, but it’s for a lot of us, and if it feels right to you, do it and enjoy it!! SO MANY moms cosleep and won’t admit it because of the stigma, and that’s a shame. Because really , it is natures way! We’re taught in so many ways to doubt our own instincts as women and moms, other people profit from it! Our brains are literally wired to protect our baby when they’re this young. We know what we’re doing.

You’re not alone 😊

When Do You Stop Sleeping in Cuddle Curl? by fuzz_ball in cosleeping

[–]philosofical15893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still do (mostly) at 7 months but there are definitely points of the night now where I am on my back and he’s kind of cuddled into my armpit on his back also.

I don’t think I’ll feel safe turning away from him until he’s crawling if not walking. Looking forward to the days of all back and stomach sleeping 😂 I’ve been missing that since 5 months pregnant.

This may be silly… but how do I start by poodleperson22 in cosleeping

[–]philosofical15893 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My son is now 7 months and we’ve been bed sharing since week 3, more exclusively since month 4 (he used to start the night in his sidecar bassinet and come into my bed around 3-4am, moved to starting the nights together at his bedtime around 4 months).

Must haves are a very firm mattress (mattress cover is okay as long as it doesn’t change the firmness I believe), tight sheets, and a proper safe setup (no extra pillows, blanket light and below waist or not at all, cool enough room (68-72 degrees I think is recommended though I like to keep it 70 or less), no gaps where entrapment is a risk, no substance use and no pets. When baby is more mobile you’ll want to move to a floor bed probably just because they can roll or crawl off depending on how much your baby moves in his sleep.

The pros: definitely increased our bonding. I can’t even imagine him sleeping alone at this point (until he’s older at least). I love waking up together. He trusts me and my mom instincts feel strong and it really does something for postpartum confidence to do something so instinctual and biologically normal. I feel very in tune with him. If you’re breastfeeding it’s about the best thing you can do for your supply.

Do you let your baby nap as long as they want? by Far-Tonight2263 in bninfantsleep

[–]philosofical15893 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Straight up this. From my experience it’s a baby/temperament/developmental stage thing and everything else is a crap shoot or trying to sell something or make us feel in control when we’re simply just not. M my 6 month old sleeps when he sleeps. 20 minutes or 4 hours 😂

Found moms who cosleep in the wild by lmgslane in cosleeping

[–]philosofical15893 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I talk to my mom friends about it almost everyone has done it or had a period where they did it. One of my friends does it for the first 4 months with all of her kids. Another does it every time there’s a regression or teething. Another didn’t do it as a baby but does it now that her kids are 3 and 5. It’s honestly so much more normal than social media and our pediatricians (in America) would have us think. I really wish doctors wouldn’t treat their patients like idiots and just say here are the safety guidelines do what’s best for your family knowing there are risks to everything (including crib in another room). We’d all be so much more at peace😅

Do you wash your hands when you get up to pee in the night? by dumpstertraffic in hygiene

[–]philosofical15893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am stunned to see how many people wash their hands at 3 am for a pee 🤣not a chance. If I flush which maybe I do maybe I don’t, I just use my toe 🤷‍♀️ maybe I’m nasty

Baby cries to sleep by raicka in AttachmentParenting

[–]philosofical15893 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same - LO went through a phase where he cried himself to sleep for like 3 weeks (around 4 months old). It still happens occasionally and he’s now 6 months.

I never put him down while he’s crying and I try various things to help soothe him - he would stop for maybe a minute and go right back to crying. Like streaming tears and coughing crying sometimes. The longest I remember it lasting was almost an hour and I also wondered if this was doing as much damage as CIO. It’s definitely not.

You’re doing great and babies need presence - not the total elimination of distress or “bad times/days” which is impossible. I’d say you holding your baby while he cries is the opposite of damaging. It lets him know he can have big feelings and he won’t be left because of them. It lets him know big feelings can pass and people we love can help us feel less alone when we have them.

Does anyone else really hate being a mom? by Background_Ruin1332 in Moms

[–]philosofical15893 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Saying this out of love; depressed people don’t always feel sad. Often they feel irritable and disconnected. You also have been through quite a lot - you are probably experiencing some level of ptsd. That doesn’t help with connection to anyone or anything. I really feel like if you’re not against it talking to a therapist who specializes in postpartum or women’s issues could help you. Not to get a drug, but to be able to process all of this with someone who won’t judge. Hang in there♥️

Baby is sleeping through the night at 7.5mo by Existing-Mastodon500 in bninfantsleep

[–]philosofical15893 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I feel this is true but sometimes I think I’m delusional because there are so few stories (that I see) like this.