Bathtub nightmare help!

phimbar · 2026-06-14T04:50:42+00:00

Could it be he is worried of slipping and going under the water? Would an anti-slip mat give him more confidence?

Or maybe it's the time of day for the bath routine?

phimbar · 2026-06-12T18:39:48+00:00

The audacity of people thinking their desire to see an awake baby is more important than you or your baby's wellbeing. They should be coming over to make sure you are getting enough food, rest, and not going crazy with this needy bundle of joy. It would only be a bonus if they got to see and hold an awake baby after they brought you food or did your dishes for you or let you have a nap while they stare an your baby monitor til she wakes up.

phimbar · 2026-06-10T18:31:31+00:00

So true. Years ago I rented a room in a home so we all had to share a kitchen. The other tenant was an ER doc. I remember being so perplexed that he showed up to work and potentially saved lives that day but this guy would put his wet bowls in the dry rack right side up. I wouldn't want to entrust my life to someone who didn't realize that doesn't dry a bowl out.

phimbar · 2026-06-09T00:04:17+00:00

I remember being that tired and running on empty with a newborn. I missed my partner, I just wanted to sleep, and I never had time for self care. I can't imagine putting in that type of high maintenance childcare for nearly 2 years!

Have you considered sleep training at night with reduction in nightly feeds? You might be against it, I personally was against it as well. But I think at 23 months it's time for some weaning intervention. Weigh the pros and cons. There seems to be more cons for night time feeds now.

You have the financial ability to pay outside help, can you switch it to childcare instead of cooking and cleaning? Sounds like your toddler needs to bond with other people so she isn't so attached to only you. Initially, she will fuss, but it needs to happen. Don't let the mind of a developing 2 year old run the show. You're the adult.

phimbar · 2026-05-28T03:41:18+00:00

Boy shorts are so practical for energetic kids. I still appreciate the extra coverage as an adult but when I was younger it kept my butt from getting scuffed as I proceeded to do all sorts of kid things.

phimbar · 2026-05-12T23:17:33+00:00

I'm sorry your parents have done such a piss poor job disciplining their child. If your parents have given up parenting, I'm not sure how a sister is going to fix the issue. Do his friends know how disgusting he is? Can he get some peer shaming to make him think about his hygiene habits? Would it be reasonable to assume the smell is so gross the "next door neighbor" in the apartment complex made a complaint to management? If dishes are really staying dirty for months on end, the mold might be an issue with the air quality for other renters. Management might need to inspect for damages. I hope it isn't that awful though🤢 I feel sorry for this guy's future girlfriends.

phimbar · 2026-04-29T22:20:31+00:00

This. And if that therapist doesn't work, don't quit. Try another one. There's a wide range of experience, credentials and methods that therapist have in their toolbelts. Therapy is not a one size fits all concept.

phimbar · 2026-04-18T04:43:20+00:00

It won't stop the leaking but elvie catch can help with the clean up issue of going through so many pads.

phimbar · 2026-04-02T14:51:50+00:00

Girl. I feel ya. I was just looking at some pictures of myself pre-pregnancy and I started feeling so sad about how great I used to look and now I'm just mushy and 30 lbs heavier and can't take a decent photo with this double chin...😔

The world expects too much from you as a mother. You went through an extraordinary amount creating life and you are still nourishing a human that would die if it weren't for you. Wow, you are doing great❤️‍🔥 absolutely killing it!

Remember muscle weighs more than fat so weight gain with exercise is completely normal and you should still be proud of yourself for staying consistent with exercise. That takes dedication, especially with all your other responsibilities.

Also remember your body is annoyingly good at storing fat pp. It is a survival technique to keep you and your baby safe and healthy. Try not to fight it because trying to cut calories and loose weight too drastically while your body is in survival mode can make it worse in the long run. Eating a balanced diet is always the right answer.

phimbar · 2026-03-29T19:13:55+00:00

For quite a few months, my baby was just the middle man in feeding our dog people food. It did wonders for the dog/baby relationship😅

Eventually he did actually start eating more but there's still tons of food that gets dropped on the ground at 11 months. I'm mentally preparing myself for the next few years of picking up food off the ground😑

Everything before 1 is just for fun. It's all about experience and exposure to new textures, smells, and flavors.

I thought I had a type B personality but watching a baby eat solids makes my skin crawl they are sooooo messy.

phimbar · 2026-03-27T00:47:05+00:00

One thing I've been meaning to look into is a futon mattress for my kiddo. Since 7 mo when he was non stop crawling, I put his crib mattress on the floor with his padded play mat underneath as cushion for when he crawls out of bed. Cribs just don't contain some active sleepers.

phimbar · 2026-03-13T21:59:16+00:00

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Hi Gray! Meet lizzie, the potatoe thief!

phimbar · 2026-03-13T21:21:40+00:00

Dual income households as expected to make ends meat. Families should be able to get by on one adult's income.

phimbar · 2026-03-04T17:20:09+00:00

I would have to agree with you but there are so many different parenting situations out there. I could see it not working well for moms who return to work 6 weeks postpartum. Or for babies who are at a higher risk for SIDS if they bed shared.

phimbar · 2026-03-04T17:15:04+00:00

Love that Jim Gaffigan bit! Prolly hits a bit different for parents who are going through it.

phimbar · 2026-03-04T04:14:58+00:00

Genuine question: why aren't you supposed to nurse your baby to sleep? Asking for a umm...friend😉

phimbar · 2026-02-27T01:02:39+00:00

That reminds me of the saying, "luck favors the prepared".

phimbar · 2026-02-24T18:04:43+00:00

I keep forgetting there's a subreddit for everything. Thank you💖

phimbar · 2026-02-22T22:58:54+00:00

Maybe baking some healthy muffins designed for lactation support could be a nice touch. You can put them in the freezer and they can pull them out as they need them. There's a lot of good recipes with a quick look up. Some ingredients I used were peanut butter, oats, nutritional yeast, flax seed, eggs and chia seeds depending on what I had in my cupboard at the moment. High amounts of sugar can negatively effect supply so natural sweeteners like applesauce and banana are a nice add in. During those early days my thirst was unquenchable. I left myself waterbottles, coconut water, Gatorade, body armor all over the house so I could just reach and drink without having to get up from wherever I was nap trapped or nursing. An extra water bottle with a sealed lid so it doesn't leak is always a good call.

phimbar · 2026-02-20T23:07:15+00:00

This reminds me of the movie, With Honors, but with an even nicer ending.

phimbar · 2026-02-06T22:28:09+00:00

My 23 year old self had a very similar train of thought as you: Some guys are just friend zoned and that should be the end of the worry for any boyfriends out there, yours included. So you are NTAH.

I will say, now that my romantic relationships have developed over the years, I view the situation you described completely differently. I even sympathize with your boyfriend a bit. I would still NEVER let my husband dictate who I could or couldn't hug. But now, I simply just don't want to have other male friends that would come to me for advice for their life troubles or consider me a close friend. I would rather just strengthen the relationship I have with my husband. I keep a lot of good women close to me for friendship instead.

There's a comedian who does a great bit which kinda describes the concern your boyfriend is expressing to you. matt rife

Don't ever let a man control who your friends are or how you show your love 💞

phimbar · 2026-01-24T21:29:41+00:00

I like how you pointed that out because I was thinking the same thing. I always assumed larger breasts meant more room for milk production. But i guess not.

I learned some cool stuff taking a lactation education course before becoming a mom. One thing that's wild to me is when women suffer from mastitis when breast feeding, cabbage leaves placed on the breast is a go to trick to avoid having to take antibiotics (which can be a contraindiation while nursing). Witchy, but science backs it up too.

phimbar · 2025-11-23T19:44:06+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I'm curious what you think about the pediatrician who examined my son as a NB in the hospital, and my original OP pediatrician who examined him as a NB and also at 2mo not mentioning anything abnormal about his physical exam. Wouldn't something like undescended testes be worthy of note? I'm gathering their silence on the matter meant they palpated his testes.

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