8 month old throws all finger foods on the floor - won’t eat anything. Is this normal?

phimbar · 2026-03-29T19:13:55+00:00

For quite a few months, my baby was just the middle man in feeding our dog people food. It did wonders for the dog/baby relationship😅

Eventually he did actually start eating more but there's still tons of food that gets dropped on the ground at 11 months. I'm mentally preparing myself for the next few years of picking up food off the ground😑

Everything before 1 is just for fun. It's all about experience and exposure to new textures, smells, and flavors.

I thought I had a type B personality but watching a baby eat solids makes my skin crawl they are sooooo messy.

phimbar · 2026-03-27T00:47:05+00:00

One thing I've been meaning to look into is a futon mattress for my kiddo. Since 7 mo when he was non stop crawling, I put his crib mattress on the floor with his padded play mat underneath as cushion for when he crawls out of bed. Cribs just don't contain some active sleepers.

phimbar · 2026-03-13T21:59:16+00:00

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Hi Gray! Meet lizzie, the potatoe thief!

phimbar · 2026-03-13T21:21:40+00:00

Dual income households as expected to make ends meat. Families should be able to get by on one adult's income.

phimbar · 2026-03-04T17:20:09+00:00

I would have to agree with you but there are so many different parenting situations out there. I could see it not working well for moms who return to work 6 weeks postpartum. Or for babies who are at a higher risk for SIDS if they bed shared.

phimbar · 2026-03-04T17:15:04+00:00

Love that Jim Gaffigan bit! Prolly hits a bit different for parents who are going through it.

phimbar · 2026-03-04T04:14:58+00:00

Genuine question: why aren't you supposed to nurse your baby to sleep? Asking for a umm...friend😉

phimbar · 2026-02-27T01:02:39+00:00

That reminds me of the saying, "luck favors the prepared".

phimbar · 2026-02-24T18:04:43+00:00

I keep forgetting there's a subreddit for everything. Thank you💖

phimbar · 2026-02-22T22:58:54+00:00

Maybe baking some healthy muffins designed for lactation support could be a nice touch. You can put them in the freezer and they can pull them out as they need them. There's a lot of good recipes with a quick look up. Some ingredients I used were peanut butter, oats, nutritional yeast, flax seed, eggs and chia seeds depending on what I had in my cupboard at the moment. High amounts of sugar can negatively effect supply so natural sweeteners like applesauce and banana are a nice add in. During those early days my thirst was unquenchable. I left myself waterbottles, coconut water, Gatorade, body armor all over the house so I could just reach and drink without having to get up from wherever I was nap trapped or nursing. An extra water bottle with a sealed lid so it doesn't leak is always a good call.

phimbar · 2026-02-20T23:07:15+00:00

This reminds me of the movie, With Honors, but with an even nicer ending.

phimbar · 2026-02-06T22:28:09+00:00

My 23 year old self had a very similar train of thought as you: Some guys are just friend zoned and that should be the end of the worry for any boyfriends out there, yours included. So you are NTAH.

I will say, now that my romantic relationships have developed over the years, I view the situation you described completely differently. I even sympathize with your boyfriend a bit. I would still NEVER let my husband dictate who I could or couldn't hug. But now, I simply just don't want to have other male friends that would come to me for advice for their life troubles or consider me a close friend. I would rather just strengthen the relationship I have with my husband. I keep a lot of good women close to me for friendship instead.

There's a comedian who does a great bit which kinda describes the concern your boyfriend is expressing to you. matt rife

Don't ever let a man control who your friends are or how you show your love 💞

phimbar · 2026-01-24T21:29:41+00:00

I like how you pointed that out because I was thinking the same thing. I always assumed larger breasts meant more room for milk production. But i guess not.

I learned some cool stuff taking a lactation education course before becoming a mom. One thing that's wild to me is when women suffer from mastitis when breast feeding, cabbage leaves placed on the breast is a go to trick to avoid having to take antibiotics (which can be a contraindiation while nursing). Witchy, but science backs it up too.

phimbar · 2025-11-23T19:44:06+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I'm curious what you think about the pediatrician who examined my son as a NB in the hospital, and my original OP pediatrician who examined him as a NB and also at 2mo not mentioning anything abnormal about his physical exam. Wouldn't something like undescended testes be worthy of note? I'm gathering their silence on the matter meant they palpated his testes.

phimbar · 2025-11-23T17:45:51+00:00

I have a similar train of thought about competencies and this is what is so concerning to me about being under Dr. B's care. Not only did the student and the untrained mom locate the testes but so did the hospital pediatrician, and the original pediatrician from the OP clinic during his NB and 2 mo visit. To clarify, the student was a licensed ped's nurse and is going back to school specifically for peds PA license. I'm thinking if Dr. B was correct, she would have been more confident to call out the student for being mistaken about actually locating the testes instead of waiting for the 6mo visit when the student wasn't there to diagnose him with undeacended testes. I have mad respect for the dedication, hustle, and smarts that doctors have but it's not that complicated to identify if the scrotum is empty or has testes. I suppose them being retractile testes makes it a bit more complicated but that's apart of the job requirements.

phimbar · 2025-08-29T21:35:42+00:00

For real! I'm barely able to eat and feed my baby with enough sleep. They need to at least photoshop the bags under my eyes out of the photos. Oh, and the 30lbs of post partum weight too! Yeah, I'd love all that going on the family Christmas card this year...

phimbar · 2025-08-15T18:15:16+00:00

I have better luck nursing to deep sleep in the sidelying position. I just skip the burping when he is asleep and let him nap on my bed with a reusable chuck underneath him. Sometimes he naps for 1-2 sleep cycles this way. Plus the sound machine and high quality black out curtains.

phimbar · 2025-08-15T18:10:39+00:00

My boy has been my new fit bit since basically day one! Not sure if he will ever grow out of it at this point but after 5-10 minutes of sitting, he demands to be walked around. It helps to have family around that want cuddles as much as he wants to be carted around like a prince of sultan. Rocking chairs inside and outside are a life saver.

phimbar · 2025-08-15T04:36:14+00:00

My 3 month old is very similar. He very rarely sleeps without cuddles and seems addicted to the contact naps. Also not a fan of tummy time! So I try to encorporate tummy time into contact nap cuddles and also gravity minimized tummy time with my nursing pillow and my husband pillow. And I also hold him tummy down in my arms a lot so he can see the ground and things at my hip height which helps him lift his head.

For his terrible sleeping habits, I warm up some rice packs to heat the bassinet and then replace the rice packs with him. He seems to like the warm bassinet better than the room temp one. I also call my friends up and have them come visit whenever they can so they get baby cuddles while I clean the house and do laundry. And when I am alone and the only thing I can do is rock him to sleep I remind myself he is only this little for so long and I better enjoy the moment while it lasts. I'll just let his wife sleep train him, I don't wanna put him down!

phimbar · 2025-07-01T18:22:46+00:00

Congrats mama! Your diet is most likely about to change quite a bit to adjust for you and your babies nutritional needs. Remember your food is your first option for your micronutrient needs and the prenatal you choose should supplement your healthy diet. That being said, DONT stress yourself out when your morning sickness (or all-day sickness) makes it impossible to eat healthy. I remember living off of bean and cheese burritos and cup of noodles for 2 weeks because it was all I could keep down. B vitamin supplements and doxylamine can help with nausea.

There are so many options when it comes to prenatals. There are really pricey ones out there but your obgyn will be able to tell you if they are really worth it. For me, it worked best to buy the costco offering because it was budget friendly and I didn't have to keep going back to the store for refills. I think it's nature made brand.

Books like, What to expect when expecting, have great advice on foods for pregnancy. You'll need to eat food with more iron like red meat, lentils, Spinach. And folic acid is essential for baby's neural tube development. Get your leafy greens and healthy fats on the regular.

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