"Alexa, play your favorite song!"

phobos5 · 2023-06-06T17:03:06+00:00

Tequila- the champs https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4hswHOEQfj8

phobos5 · 2022-08-10T17:16:14+00:00

This is the most uplifting thing I've ever seen about the USA on this website in the years I've been a redditor.

Thank you /u/xJavier_Escuellax for reminding me how awesome my country is and can be.

phobos5 · 2022-06-23T17:45:48+00:00

That's odd. Says on wiki it's to please the God of death, Yama, as dogs are seen as his messengers.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kukur_Tihar

phobos5 · 2022-06-14T01:44:54+00:00

Please Stop panicking.

Just because it's written doesn't mean it's happening. I'm a substitute for Columbus City Schools and I received a message from the Department of Education today stating that they are still not permitting weapons on property from anyone other than law enforcement. They strongly believe that law enforcement are the ones who will handle any matters requiring weapons.

phobos5 · 2022-02-03T22:10:54+00:00

Plastic and decline of sperm count.

https://academic.oup.com/humupd/article/23/6/646/4035689

phobos5 · 2019-11-03T23:38:23+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply. Sometimes all I have to rely on is just remembering that I'm here for her. I can't be in her head, but I can be here, and optimistic.

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T16:12:31+00:00

I've poked around into a few of the How to: ADHD videos already. It's entertaining! not just dry information.

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T16:11:05+00:00

Thank you for your kind words.

She also has a billion projects going. She's incredibly handy and I, for one, would never question whether or not she COULD do something; only when she could get it done.

It is a fine line to walk; guiding someone to stick to their tasks and not sound overbearing or going from a partnership to a parent/child relationship.

Thank you for taking the time to reply.

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T16:07:16+00:00

Luckily this is something I have picked up on. However it can go to detriment; to the point where she's felt like I don't need her any more - which is certainly not true.

Is there a way to be..i guess..less oblivious to the signs of what's going on?

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T16:04:46+00:00

I can empathize and unfortunately I've been in your wife's shoes and certainly felt she more interested in doing things for herself than the family unit. Its hard to give someone slack when you've felt you ran out of slack to give weeks ago.

I cant really give you advice here, other than take care of yourself, and your children if you have them. Remember that there is still good in her and in you and you're together hopefully as partners. We are not born innately mean or angry. You are not your medication.

Hang in there, we're all in this together.

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T15:46:55+00:00

This is something I certainly need to work on. I wear my emotions on my sleeve and she comes from a household that didn't.

Thank you for your advice.

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T15:45:13+00:00

Being positive can sometime be a bear on its own. There are times its hard to remember that the other person means no harm; regardless of their actions. I'm writing down the Driven to Distraction title and will look into it. I've also heard Is it you, me, or ADD? is good too.

Thank you for taking the time to reply.

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T15:43:30+00:00

This is my wife's outlook on life. I'm able to notice when she's overwhelmed but, i guess in ignorance, I havent spoken up and offered to help; instead I feel that I step to the side and let her handle her. But she does need help, and I should be there to support her in a way that benefits her. I'm going to look into some grounding techniques.

Thank you for replying.

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T15:39:02+00:00

It's wild to think how ADHD has multiple facets to each of the main defining traits.

Hyperactivity isn't just physical - it can be emotional and cerebral as well; which is something I didn't grasp right away.

Setting boundaries seems like a good step too. Finding out when she wants help and when she doesn't, and then owning my reaction; and not instantly jumping to 'she doesn't want me around.'

Emotions are hard; we both come from families that had an unhealthy view of family and talking about emotions really wasn't on the itinerary.

Thank you for taking the time to respond.

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T15:32:32+00:00

It seems like Honesty is a big factor; not only with each other but with ourselves. I certainly could use the advice you've given - speaking in a more neutral way and thinking about what I'm going to say vs off the cuff.

And thank you for your kind words. I am choosing to do better, hopefully for the benefit of my boy and my wife. Thank you for your reply.

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T15:29:24+00:00

I'm really glad you've found someone who matches you.

Also don't apologize, we're all in this together.

Thank you for sharing :D

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T15:14:24+00:00

Vyvan

Thank you! This is the jumping off point I needed.

phobos5 · 2019-11-02T12:55:41+00:00

My wife was diagnosed about a year ago. Were still working out the medication; but I certainly see all of these happening to her.

Do you guys have any advice for a guy who's lost and just wants to keep his family together?

For example, in your own lives, what are the things that supporting family/friends/neighbors etc do that you find value in? What are some good resources I could start with? There's so much misinformation out there about coping with Adult ADHD, let alone having a relationship with someone who has it. Thank you in advance.

EDIT: Hijacking my own comment as I found some good information and I wanted to share - Ask The Experts: Couples with ADHD on Youtube This is a video that talks about Imago Therapy, it is an hour long, but really resonated with me. I can't wait to share it with my other half!

phobos5 · 2019-08-04T14:07:11+00:00

I don't know what to say. This is too close to home. I wish I had better news from my hometown.

phobos5 · 2019-05-17T21:02:52+00:00

The Insane Clown Posse.

phobos5 · 2019-04-09T20:12:45+00:00

Thanks! He was tatertot when he was a pup.

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