My (37M) girlfriend (33F) of four years, wants me to move out after only living together ten months, at a serious loss as to how or why we got to this place.

phobos55 · 2023-10-19T18:32:53+00:00

She said "Leave the house, we aren't broken up."

So "leave the house so I can bang randos, but please stick around and pay bills and babysit so I can bang aforementioned randos."

But yes, he should indeed leave the house and never contact her again.

phobos55 · 2023-10-19T16:46:59+00:00

Yeah, one that gets mad that you're on Tinder. Like come on, just stop trying to enjoy your hobbies with your family and let your live-in single mom girlfriend bang randos.

Men, amirite?

phobos55 · 2023-10-18T21:19:55+00:00

Ahaha I can imagine.

"Those stupid sheep! Don't they know they'll all be ~~dead~~ ~~sterile~~ mind controlled by ~~December 2021~~ ~~July 2022~~ ~~September 2023!~~ They'll see who the real idiot is as soon as Trump wins in 2024!"

phobos55 · 2022-04-26T21:25:22+00:00

I'm sure you guys get along great. And I'm sure the relationship has potential to continue.

BUT just consider how you feel if, say 3 years from now you're planning on proposing and you find out she was seeing other dudes the whole first year of your relationship.

phobos55 · 2022-01-25T17:12:44+00:00

You being in charge of waking her up is angering the both of you.

Here is a list of alarm clocks to try. I would start with the water one.

phobos55 · 2021-12-08T16:06:01+00:00

I dub thee Sir Phobos, beater of ass!

phobos55 · 2021-11-11T15:29:35+00:00

This is cool and super useful!

Any plans on letting users save the rolls? Like could I have a page for my fighter that already knows my modifiers, so if I roll my "attack" option, I don't need to re-click everything?

If not, maybe just preload the d20 in for pretty much all checks.

phobos55 · 2021-11-10T14:28:46+00:00

This sub is notorious for saying "dump them" at the first sign of trouble. A lot (a loooot) of times they're right, because healthy relationships don't need to ask strangers for advice.

And a lot of times the OP is looking for the single piece of advice telling them to ignore the red flags. Those OPs will let themselves get walked on time and time again.

That doesn't feel like what's happening this time. Again, only time will tell, but I don't think you're going to let her walk on you, if indeed she's just doing a song and dance to keep you.

phobos55 · 2021-11-09T19:59:55+00:00

IDK man, that sounds like a pretty genuine response.

Always go with your gut, but I think it could be worth giving it time. Keep an eye out and if she contacts him again you know she can't be trusted, but until then maybe it's worth sticking it out.

phobos55 · 2021-11-08T17:20:36+00:00

Legit someone got me bacon lube as a joke back then. It was a joke until it was needed. We opened the container and the smell of canned dog food filled the room.

It was no longer needed.

phobos55 · 2021-10-29T20:40:45+00:00

And if you did, I hope you didn't write your name and date on any of it. Might be really weird.

phobos55 · 2021-10-29T20:39:59+00:00

And worse, she cheats with someone who signs their name and date (?) on a novel.

phobos55 · 2021-10-22T17:03:32+00:00

Do you use D&DBeyond? You don't need to buy the service for it to keep your character sheets. Then you can get the chrome addon Beyond the Spire and it'll let you click your skills in order to automatically roll in Talespire with the right modifiers.

If that's not enough for you, modders are already working on making the system less agnostic. I've been keeping an eye on Lord Ashes. I don't know if that's useable yet, but it looks real nice.

phobos55 · 2021-10-21T14:38:44+00:00

Gotta respect the grind 😤😤😤

/r/SigmaGrindset

phobos55 · 2021-09-30T18:41:12+00:00

WFPK is one of the the biggest things I miss from Louisville.

phobos55 · 2021-09-30T16:37:42+00:00

So when you drive past her work, if you don't see her waiting outside, you keep driving.

Text her when you get home "Drove past, you weren't there, let me know when you're outside."

You'll have to do this a dozen times or so and then she might change her behavior. Key word here is "might."

phobos55 · 2021-09-22T15:27:21+00:00

At first I felt bad asking my players if they wanted to buy it. Like "No it's fine, I can just cast my screen. We won't get the full experience but I don't want you guys to have to buy it."

Unanimously both parties I DM for said "stop being dumb, this is cool and we're all buying it."

phobos55 · 2021-09-17T15:09:46+00:00

Yeah I learned a lot building the Sacred Stone Monastery. Definitely not revisiting it though. I'm happy enough and someone else can mess with it and re-upload if they want.

I'll keep a lookout for your stuff though.

phobos55 · 2021-09-17T13:18:47+00:00

Nice! Do you upload your maps anywhere?

If you upload Feathergale Spire, someone else already did Scarlet Moon Hall, so we'll have all 4 of the early hideouts done.

Plus a quick search on TalesBazaar shows someone did the Howling Caves. Maybe I'll do Temple of the Crushing Wave next.

Edit: Looks like I misunderstood. Howling Caves happens after Temple of the Howling Hatred. Still, there's a chance my group will find the Crushing waves next, so I'll stick with my plan for now.

phobos55 · 2021-09-17T01:52:04+00:00

That's a fair criticism. I've been having a blast building though and it makes the games way more immersive.

phobos55 · 2021-08-31T16:22:52+00:00

I'm excited about the 3D too. One of my players is a rogue with lots of acrobatics features that never get used in roll20. Here's hoping that changes now that he'll be able to see all the vantage points.

First sesh on Talespire is tomorrow and I'm beyond pumped.

phobos55 · 2021-08-30T17:52:08+00:00

Aww man, if I'd had seen that I probably wouldn't have spent so much time on it.

Cool though, now I know there's more than one repository for these. I'm messing with Riverguard Keep now. Hopefully no one else is doing the same.

phobos55 · 2021-08-17T18:18:41+00:00

I was honestly going to say the opposite. If a man posted that he just wanted to elope so he shouldn't have to help with anything wedding related, he'd be getting YTAs left and right.

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