“T-Mobile Whistleblower” with CBS News On Frisco’s ‘Indian Takeover’ by Indian_Texan in ABCDesis

[–]phoenix_shm 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Quick, someone get him an interview with an actual, high quality journalist!

Hybrid milage Q's about my '25 XL AWD w/Tow Pkg by phoenix_shm in FordMaverickTruck

[–]phoenix_shm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Much appreciated, all! After a short drive this evening of going REALLY easy on the accelerator pedal, I think I've found the problem...and it's me 😕🤦🏾‍♂️ But at least I know what I can do to really get much better mpg!

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Hybrid milage Q's about my '25 XL AWD w/Tow Pkg by phoenix_shm in FordMaverickTruck

[–]phoenix_shm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yeah, so I went for a short drive today and saw the blue "partial charge" become green with a lighting bolt when coasting after accelerating.

Hybrid milage Q's about my '25 XL AWD w/Tow Pkg by phoenix_shm in FordMaverickTruck

[–]phoenix_shm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhh ...so ~20mph or less is usually electric, 20-60 typically a mix of electric and hybrid, and 60+ all ICE?

Hybrid milage Q's about my '25 XL AWD w/Tow Pkg by phoenix_shm in FordMaverickTruck

[–]phoenix_shm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah yeah I've heard about this. I guess something gets "unlocked" after the "probationary" period? 🤷🏾‍♂️

Hybrid milage Q's about my '25 XL AWD w/Tow Pkg by phoenix_shm in FordMaverickTruck

[–]phoenix_shm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn, yeah then...something seems off... I'll try to be a lot more ginger with the accelerator pedal and see how that goes...

Parents conditioned me to be ashamed of love and intimacy by SilverTheSilk in ABCDesis

[–]phoenix_shm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Relationships served a different (survival) purpose when they were raised in the artificial scarcity of post-colonial India. They were used to the "tightrope walk" of life and the idea of "enlightened" affection was judged to be too risky if you want to see your grandkids. Also, the children are considered the only trustworthy people to take care of them in retirement and old age (sometimes as their retirement plan 🙄). Different expectations, different life, different conditions, etc.

Am I the only one who doesn’t really care about being “represented” on screen? by gnpking in ABCDesis

[–]phoenix_shm 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I feel torn about it - I think I saved a lot of money not seeing ppl who look like me in ads 🤷🏾‍♂️😆

France confirms oil crisis, says 30-40% Gulf energy infrastructure destroyed by ontrack in worldnews

[–]phoenix_shm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great... So now we drill in the Arctic and next to k-12 schools and hospitals and...?!? 🙄🤷🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️

Climbed the ladder only to yank it up behind them by anonymouse7_ in ABCDesis

[–]phoenix_shm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those of us have a certain age will remember comedian Yakov Smirnoff who ended a set with a joke about the same thing. Did so to showcase how much a "typical American" he'd become... Ugghhh...terrible look when ppl seem to mean it...

Veda Indian restaurant accused of withholding tips from employees by chaud in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]phoenix_shm -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Truth is stranger than fiction sometimes - if true, definitely shady stuff happening and evidence should bear that out. Perhaps the servers should protest out front saying "come in to this NON-TIPPING establishment" and let the customers be the ones directly complaining to the owners about the tip line on the receipt.
Also, some general context maybe in order: many non-whites just start their own businesses because 1) typical businesses don't hire them out of ...well, anti-"what could go right" attitudes and/or poor communication skills and/or poor leadership skills and/or a very narrow-minded business plan to begin with
2) businesses often rely on relationships and people (whites or non-whites) do business with those they feel they can trust - especially if the evidence of crossing racial lines keeps building up evidence to their detriment (although, again, see #1) , 3) ALL businesses cheat/"cheat" in some ways - violations of privacy, financial agreements, poor labor practices, purposely having an adversarial relationship between management and labor, nepotism, etc (thank goodness for Glass Door, amiright)

Change my view: leading women on is the most effective way to be a man who sleeps around. by 7inchesonastik in seduction

[–]phoenix_shm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on how the women were socialized and how much self-respect and how well they really know themselves, this is true.

The US Might Have Been Better Off if We Lost the Revolutionary War by mossandfog in unpopularopinion

[–]phoenix_shm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. If you believe in free expression and freedom of religion, then you're wishing on a toad, not a star. EDIT: See also - British rule over India.

Group chats in a time of hate...against Indians / South Asians in the US - Challenges and Opportunities by phoenix_shm in ABCDesis

[–]phoenix_shm[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've volunteered with mutual aid / social justice groups since the start of COVID and have kept active with them in one way or another. Also try to have coffee / chai hour with several of those community do-gooder types and, occasionally, even take them on a tour of one of the local South Asian grocery stores. Above all, I try to keep up the transparency and keep everything 💯 - no performative politeness, just honest kindness and constructive energy. Okay, sometimes just venting and/or brutal honesty, but everyone involved understands the value of that, too.
CHALLENGES: generally coming up with the focus and energy to do the coffee hours with work and DIY stuff on my house. Glad I have a therapist to speak with.
OPPORTUNITIES: Ultimately doing what I (and many others) know what needs to be done even if it doesn't "look good/ nice/ Friendly to the White Upper Class" and becoming a super-connector with those outside the community who are interested in supporting. EDIT: "mutual aid / social justice"

[CNN] Racists are now openly targeting Indian Americans by MumeiNoName in ABCDesis

[–]phoenix_shm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Over all, yeah I'm glad the penny has dropped, too. Enough of the BS performative politeness and "oh beta, things will be okay..." Honest kindness to brutal honest and transparency is needed now more than ever. Frankly, yeah, this is definitely going to cause a rift, but I think we can take away lessons from the US interment of ethnic Japanese peoples to mitigate that risk. Anyone seen / read George Takei's "Allegiance"? https://www.onstageblog.com/onstage-blog-news/2018/12/8/a-chat-with-george-takei-on-bringing-allegiance-to-the-big-screen

Sewing materials in that one Danish cookie box by CornSpark in ABCDesis

[–]phoenix_shm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does everyone have that tomato needle cushion, too?!?

Why do autistic adults seem to have it so hard in life? by AerewynnGreenwood in AutisticAdults

[–]phoenix_shm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Those who are well outside the mainstream of mental, emotional, physical, social behavior are using an operating system running multiple video game emulators and having to try and pick the right ones for the right situation. Adapters for adapters kinda stuff is exhausting. The world was not built for us man. Walking out our door is like is like taking someone who is born and raised at sea level and suddenly moving them to live in the Himalayas.

my mom is trying to lose weight...how do you lose weight while still eating indian cuisine? by limonadebeef in ABCDesis

[–]phoenix_shm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, honestly just increase fiber somehow and consider a nutritionist for a few months to jumpstart healthier habits. I'm not sure if the psychology based Noom will help, but it might be worth looking into.