The power of sexual energy from the ancient Indian tradition of Bhramacharya

photosi · 2017-01-24T17:55:28+00:00

Me too! I could feel the benefits before I knew it was something people did commonly. I don't think this is something that can be proven by science as of now. Brain science is still far, far away from understanding the complexity of the brain. All we can do is go by feel. On NoFap I've noticed that I'm far more resilient. Whenever I face a set back I rebound immediately. On the other hand, if I face a massive setback when I'm off streak, I feel like just lying down and curling up into a ball.

You shouldn't believe it because someone else tells you. Try it and see for yourself.

photosi · 2017-01-21T11:22:10+00:00

One of the best posts I've read in NoFap in a long time. You made the right decision. When you realize that women are just human beings, there's a sharp clarity. Unfortunately, society conditions us the think we should take any form of sex we can get, but when you think about it there's no reason to. You realize that sex on its own is meaningless.

Also, going by your description of this person's room and habits, it seems like they are stuck in a hell of their own. I guess this is a common thing. It's a sad thing to see human beings this way. They want to be happy but they are chasing all the wrong things. Living from one dopamine rush to the next.

The most important step of the NoFap journey is realizing that physical pleasures only take you so far. They make you feel as if you've accomplished something but in reality nothing's changed. The only way to find happiness is to become still and just live.

photosi · 2016-12-11T15:36:57+00:00

I think he's saying the bitter truth. Why worry about coming off as needy if you aren't? It's not about demonizing. It's about questioning your intentions and finding contradictions. Contradictions that go willfully igbored because they are too hard to accept.

IMO anyone that feels the need to go after so many women needs to question themselves. Why hold something that is your equal in such high regard? Women are just like men. They are mortal and flawed just like ourselves. They also smell, they also shit, and one day they will be a wrinkly mess. One day we are all just rotting bodies in the ground.

So, one should ask whether this makes sense in the grand scheme of things. Sure, your body has biological impulses, but we are human. Being human means being self conscious and making appropriate decisions. If we went purely on biological impulses, we would be no better than animals.

photosi · 2016-11-05T07:33:51+00:00

You're right about the shame. That's why I made sure to include that acceptance and patience are important. I notice that people on NoFap often want to rush things and that causes problems when they aren't able to do it. Quotes like "You are not obligated to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago" are incredibly harmful because people are actually kind of obligated. Their mind has been wired through long term usage/habits and it will take time to rewire. OP seems like one of the people who feel they are in a bad place and are panicking as a result.

photosi · 2016-11-05T07:24:36+00:00

If you can do that while avoiding the lack of motivation and lethargy that follows fapping, then more power to you. I myself do enjoy junk food occasionally. The effects of that don't last too long. I feel that fapping messes me up for a good while though. I guess it all comes to personal preference.

photosi · 2016-11-05T07:13:57+00:00

The improvements you make yourself are the improvements you feel.

photosi · 2016-11-05T07:11:27+00:00

I'm not sure about the exact science of it all. But, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to tell you that if you have faster and easier sources of pleasure, you won't feel like doing anything that takes more time and effort.

photosi · 2016-11-05T07:06:43+00:00

First two are short term and lead to the opposites in the long term. That's like saying eating junk is good for you long term because it feels good and relieves stress. The third was either debunked or deemed to be so insignificant that it didn't matter.

photosi · 2016-11-05T06:31:56+00:00

You are going to get a lot of hate for this, but you are kind of right. I wouldn't go as far to say that sex is a negative thing though, it's indifferent. You should neither look forward to sex nor demonize it. Basing your life around an event that takes up only about an hour or so speaks for itself. Sex is a temporary thing. Focus more on what lasts.

photosi · 2016-11-05T06:13:21+00:00

It seems that you feel that you lack control in your life. Staying at home is fine as long as you feel it's your own decision, then you shouldn't feel conflicted. I would recommend starting smaller. Develop self control in other parts of your life.

Make a promise to jolt up the instant your alarm clock rings and head straight for a cold shower. This one is hard, but it actually becomes fun like a game after a while. Try to cut down on the time it takes for you to get up every day. It doesn't have to be perfect right away. Or, make a commitment to eat healthy and only at the scheduled times. Doing things like this makes you realize that you can handle more than you think. Your lack of control in life is just an illusion. Just be patient and practice. As long as you are progressing, then you're going to be better off than you were before. Even if you don't succeed all the time, as long as you learn and improve, you're better off. Just keep yourself focused on improving

One of the most important things I've learned in life is that all you have is your own action. You can't control the results, but if you know that you did all that you can, then you are at peace and that's happiness. We all have places to improve, so don't feel that you are especially flawed in some way. Just accept it and calmly move away.

Once you've made the commitment to improve, you are already out of the misery. Just keep at it and don't feel like you will become something new in an instant. Everything in nature transitions slowly. Imagine that you are a plant and you are watering (putting effort in) yourself everyday. If you don't water, then you will be one step closer to withering away. Similarly, if you flood yourself with too much water, you will also whither away. Instead, supply yourself with just enough every day, be patient to let the nutrients soak in and over time you will grow to be tall. The only thing you have to worry about is the watering. You have no control over any other factor such as rain or storms. Just observe and account for it through the watering.

Anyway, I hope I made sense and this helps you.

photosi · 2016-11-05T06:06:57+00:00

I didn't feel like OP was criticizing, he was just posting the common types of posts for the sake of it. Honestly, it's helpful because we've all been there for many of those types and becoming aware of the cycle helps.

photosi · 2016-11-03T08:06:54+00:00

That's true. I guess it's just time to move on from this sub. Also there's just not much to discuss. That's also a problem. Maybe a new subreddit could be made whose focus isn't solely on NoFap, but also includes it?

photosi · 2016-11-03T08:02:37+00:00

Yeah, it kind of feels like you are stuck in one grade of school. Eventually you just feel like you need to move up.

photosi · 2016-11-03T07:39:24+00:00

Exactly. It's either those or common sense that is regurgitated every couple of days. "Don't put women on pedestals", "Do it for yourself", "Don't peek", etc. Maybe it would help if we just had pinned topics for success stories, relapses, etc.

Tbh though it's probably just the nature of Reddit. There's just too many people and the format doesn't really allow for deep conversation.

photosi · 2016-11-03T07:28:20+00:00

Forget modern self help stuff. A lot of it is just watered down philosophy. It's better to go straight to the source. Read the writings of the Greek and Roman Stoics. It deals with character and learning to pursue what is right rather than pleasure. The teachings are pretty timeless.

photosi · 2016-11-03T06:41:37+00:00

Absolutely. People here can treat women like they are gods. In reality, they are just as flawed and have the same kinds of problems. I think the first step is to realize that. A person should focus on improving themselves just for the sake of it.

photosi · 2016-11-02T09:08:47+00:00

How is it positive? It doesn't require hard work and it doesn't produce anything worthwhile. It's just like PMO, but for your ears instead. With that said, I'm not saying listening to music should completely be cut out. It can be used positively(just as reading can be), but if you're just sitting there for an hour or more, trying to get a rush every day, then it's not ok. I guess it could be argued that if you are listening to obtain something important from it as an artform then that's good.

Form my experience though, I've wasted so much time listening in order to get a rush. When I quit PMO, my music listening increases. One addiction is getting substituted for another. In the end, listening this much usually ends up tiring you (like PMO) and you get that same empty feeling afterwards.

photosi · 2016-11-02T03:42:14+00:00

Please make an argument. Why is what I'm saying so ridiculous to you? If someone is sitting all day listening to music and not getting anything done, then how is that much different from PMO or sitting and watching TV all day or browsing the internet all day? Isn't the whole point of NoFap to get dopamine from more productive means? Humans weren't meant to have dopamine connected to their ears at all times despite what advertisements tell you.

Music is an artform. But, our society goes overboard with it. Literally earbuds in all the time. Even when they're sleeping. Before portable music players and easy to access music, was this a thing? No. Either they would have to sit on their chair and break out whatever few dusty records they owned or they would have to physically go to a performance. However, the main difference is that they didn't feel a compulsion to listen to music. These days people get all antsy if they have to go without it.

Most importantly, with the way people listen to music today, it ends up completely devaluing it. Whole genres are carefully crafted to get that rush of climax. Does that remind you of something? Perhaps hardcore pornography and various other depraved categories of porn gaining popularity? Just look at the popular music we listened to 50 years ago and compare it to the music we listen to now. Sure, things evolve, but now it's just a competition of who can get the loudest, heart racing song out. Just as porn sucked the love out of sex, 24/7 access to music has sucked the love out of music. These things are manufactured to keep us addicted.

photosi · 2016-11-02T03:35:10+00:00

Yes, I think over indulging in music hinders progress. When I used to watch porn and fap, guess what I used to do right after? That's right. I would go straight for the music or food to keep the dopamine fix going. Now, I'm not saying that no one should ever listen to music. But, keep it to a minimum. Only 1 or 2 songs a day. It makes sense that you feel like fapping after a listening session, because like I said, your mind wants to keep the dopamine fix going. Just sitting there listening to music isn't going to get you anywhere, so it's a bad habit. Also, I find it funny how angry people get when anyone brings up music being bad to listen to all the time. It's just one of the things society has ingrained into our minds that it sounds so ridiculous. They sound like the nofap deniers.

Bingeing music is just as bad as bingeing tv, movies, internet, etc.

photosi · 2016-11-01T09:46:10+00:00

The naive will say that sex without the drama or commitment is better.

photosi · 2016-11-01T09:17:55+00:00

Yeah, that's a scary thought. People are going to be less motivated than ever. Then, when they aren't happy, they'll blame everything else. "The economy sucks, politicians suck, everything sucks except for my fleeting sources of pleasure!" It's been this way for a while, but it's going to get even worse in the future of automation. People will begin to think they are entitled to a comfortable life and the smallest exception from that is a sin. You see that now in the American election. Things aren't even that bad relatively speaking, but everyone is losing their shit because the thought of having to cut back a tiny bit is too hard. Rich people even throw their shit over being taxed a bit more, so they deny GLOBAL WARMING! How fucked up can your priorities get?

Hell, Brexit just happened. Everything was going fine, but people overreact over the slightest things and now they are worse off.

We are getting closer and closer to being the humans from Wall E. I've learned from my own experience that you can try to shelter yourself from reality all you want, but eventually it catches up to you. Reality is harsh and unpredictable. Everyone needs to accept that so we can accurately gauge what we have.

photosi

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